my man and i will be officially hitched on friday in ny and back to switzerland for the real deal- life after the wedding.

hahaha... i may be a bit crazy to do this but i thought i may get some good bits of marital advice, input and humor.

Best advice I ever got was:

"Don't let the sun set on an argument".

Can married people please tell me... is it true that the moment (ok, relatively shortly after) you get hitched the magic dies and your sex life goes down the pan? Three seperate people have told me this.

and here i was getting married for constant access to the "magic".

damn.
say it isn't so!

That was probably the reason. Introducinhg a third person into the sex life probably wasnt a good idea for their sex and marriage.

It does for some people, the amount of failed marriages in my family is testament to that. But it is not the same for everyone, after 9 year of being married I find my husband more attractive than ever; I still fancy the pants off him so to speak .

Most decidedly not true, if you marry the right person in the first place.

Married, 23 years in September. Most recent horizontal bop, less than 9 hours ago.

P.S. Do not tell Mr. Big I just posted this. Just wanted to let you know your other three friends are wrong!

- Communication is the key
- If in doubt "use the force"
- Don't let the toilet seat (up/down) get in the way

Thanks for the colorful thread :-)

congratulations in advance!!!! you must be soooo excited!

This piece of advice was not given to me when I got married but during our ten years relationship before we tied the knot. It stuck to me like glue and I even found it ever so helpful in daily life so I thought I'll pass it on: Never ASSUME. Because you'll make an ASS out of U and ME.

Some great advice I got given for the actual day was to not do anything yourself. If anything needs dealing with, from wine missing on table 3 to great Aunt Mabels colostomy bag bursting just grab a passing guest and ask them to sort it out, it's your big day, any guest will love to help.

Also for after the actual day - 'It's better to be happy than right'

Do you really wanna hear it:

"What God has joined together let no man put asunder"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sHmvMa5FfHI&feature=fvw

Never go to bed on an argument

I have been married for 10years now, have 2 great kids, not always easy, it takes work.

NEVER EVER take each other for granted

Always respect each other.

I always surprise my husband with little love notes i hide in his pockets so he can find them when he goes to work

Sex life has never been the problem for us.

The problem has been my lack of being able to read her mind.

May all your ups and downs be in bed

Definitely!! Not sure about the size of your wedding but dont stress about anything on that day. Just tell yourself that you've done all you can to prepare - and let your bridesmaids and Maid of Honour do all the running around - relax and enjoy the day because it will fly by very very quickly!

Enjoy m'dear !
Let him win once in a while (at least let him think so)
Laugh with him a lot
Don't get mad at him later for having the character traits that you are currently attracted too
Try and put each other first
Have your own independance, your own thoughts, don't make him the centre of your everything.. he's just another human full of questions and personal doubts and he really does not have a clue of how we're put together and just how complicated we are
Don't sweat the small stuff
.. the rest will fall into place..

For you... Learn to Read Maps.
For him... Learn to Listen.
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The way one does things is one's way -- not necessarily the right way and certainly not the only way. Allow each other the space and freedom to do things his/her way.


P.S. If you don't want to sleep with stereo snoring, don't let the dog sleep in your bedroom.

All the very best, Amaraya!

Nah, buy a GPS, problem solved (at least for the first one).

The second one, yes - but both have to listen.

Don't expect to change each other...but try to grow together.

Have lots of fun and many years of happiness.

(And I can second the dog snoring thing!)

Dont ever give him a Xbox 360 or a PS3 as a present... sorry dude

If you do the "Magic" might go away...