yes, this happened last saturday. i though "oh, cute girl. it's nice that at least SOMEBODY here smiles at you". Then I finished my coffee, got up, smiled goodbye and then left.

oh dear..

so you thought she came to sit at your table, while continuously making eye contact and smiling why exactly? Cause it was a lot nicer table than her previous one?

Well, you certainly let her know that you weren't interested.

Alalalalaaaa... now of course if that happened to me, I'd be asking myself if I had the guts to actually chat her up.

Oh dear.. anyway, in future in "situations" like this, do try to say atleast a "Hi" and see how it goes... if the "counter party" is interested a small Hi goes a long way... if not just think of it as being polite

"Chating up women" is what you do in a Game.

In situations like this... just saying Hello or making ANY kind of conversatin works... even dumb things like "Your coffee smells nice"

You are right, but after 7 years, I'm waaaay rusty

Never was a flirter to begin with...

flirting isn't that great anyway- best way to be is just friendly. worst thing that can happen is you have a friend- and if it's a female friend you have access to her friends, and so on. better odds!

Women, eh? See, it's already my fault.

Bearing in mind that I did pretty much the same thing she did, means that:

a. she is interested in me; but
b. i totally showed her i was uninterested.

and women wonder why they are called illogical!

Anyway, I'll go back this week and if it all happens again, I'll talk to her - and you know what? There'll be an EF thread on here with the topic "Can't a girl have a coffee and read a book in peace without a guy hitting on her".

eh, men (am I glad I don't have to date any more or what)

so lesson 1.

If a girl likes to have her coffee in peace, she might accidentally look at you and even smile, but she does not keep staring at you, smiling her head off and actually coming over to your table while staring at you and grinning. If she does all that and then later complains that you actually said hi, she's weird and should be avoided.

But: Her 1st move: she smiles. You smile back, but no further move from your side. Well, ok, just a smile, could have been accidental, so this was no biggie.

Ok, second move, she comes sits at your table. No accident here. You do not mention any valid reason why she suddenly had to leave the previous place and change the table. So it must be because of you. Still, no move from your side. I mean really, people usually don't go hopping from table to table with no apparent reason.

Third move, while sitting opposite, she keeps staring at you and smiling. You..now, this is the "ouch" part, glance at her, smile, but..turn your attention back to your book. Basically saying that "go away, I'm busy and not interested".

Now, this is a learning video of obvious hints.See how many you can spot

God, I'm an idiot. No wonder I'm single.

Thinking back, my ex told me that she only took the same dance classes I was taking to get my attention and even then it still took about 3 of weeks of stalking before I got the hint.

Good rule. I'm going to use it from now on!

It was already a very brave move that she actually got up and went to your table !! Even quite forward (or maybe I'm lost in my generation)

What I find amusing is that both genders tend to believe that the opposite is very different from themselves, when in fact they want the same things. Both are quite frightened of rejection, both are not necessarily looking for a fairytale and both just want to have friends, laugh and enjoy life.

Better luck next time

The relationship is serious when you are not afraid to poo in the other one's presence.

Cheers,
Nick

Just like ot add... there is another "aspect" to such things, girls (even guys) sometimes do all of that just to get a "value check" or to see if they still look hot and can get a guy going crazy after her.

In one of these instances, this girl was staring at me, smiling at me and even turned around towards me to make an eye contact, while travelling on a train... I used to be kinda daft those days, and then she even winked at me to get me going... and then I did got off at the station where she got off (missing my station) and went up to her she just giggled and ran away!!

WTF ?!!!

Has such happened to anyone else too, or is it just me and my silly life?

Oh my god, it was you. You just reminded me of my boy friend's crazy old uncle & so was giggling all the way. But man you turned out to be a stalker. You scared the **** out of me with those Dervaish(read Devillish) eyes. Don't send me a PM now.

BTW i was not doing a value check.

It's not always that.

I was flirting with this guy on the train once - repeated eye contact, wink and a smile and so on. He was quite nice-looking, and if he'd asked me for a coffee in the HB I'd have probably gone - but instead of talking he started doing the whole hands-in-pockets thumbs-pointing-you-know-where thing and I fled.

she didn't sit on my table! even i would have noticed that and thought it quite weird. there was a small coffee table between us and she was, say 1.5 metres away.

Naah... it cant be you, it happened in London a loooong time ago when I was young and innocent AND NAIVE!

A Stalker?! After all those smiles and a wink from her and I am a stalker!

A LOT of girls do value checks.. I have a lot more "interesting" experiences but shall not derail this thread

Send you a PM? No honey... you're not all that

Thats so dis-tasteful... I would have rolled my tongue around my lips and winked

Good so it wasn't you then.

(I will admit I hesitated to post that little anecdote for fear of embarrassing... anyone.)