why do people fall in love?

how long is a piece of string.

Maybe the problem is that we want to categorise everything. We are all individuals and make individual choices for individual reasons. There may be patterns and tendencies but it's wrong to rubber stamp people into categories because of some generalisations by self-appointed hobby psycohologists.

It is not cheating, it is having sex with someone but not with your spouse. Is this questionable?
Are there developed countries where the cheated could take legal actions against his/her spouse because of having sex without him/her?

Yes, it's called divorce.

I didn't cheat, but I had a change of relationship.
Because I fell in love with someone else.

If I was just horny, I would go and have a wonk instead of jumping on the nearest good-looking bloke.

ahhh.. i get it, thats not called cheating, i think its called trading in or upgrading?

i had a boy do that to me too. he just "forgot" to break up with me first..

i'm sure thats not called cheating, is it?

Cheating is generally pretty logical. Men tend to never be satisfied...i.e, there is a guy with a BMW 750..and although it's a nice ride, he sees the Lexus LS and would like to take it for a spin also. The same goes for a relationship. Someone may have nice girl that treats him right...but then he sees the one with the nice a**...he then gets the one with the nice a**...but then he sees one with big titties...etc. I generally, feel attracted to intellect..I cannot negate the fact that beauty is also a relevance...but nothing is more of a turn-off to me than lack of character, intellect and good hygiene.

If he didn't tell you, then that's cheating by default.......not good.

CONGRATULATIONS!! You've scored pretty high on Bullsh*t-o-meter!

"Maybe for a bloke.
Women are more complicated........."

I don't see why any of the reaons why men cheat are possibly to do with the women who sleep with them, OR, that women share this elitist approach to adultery, or whatever.

I have the (depends on how you look at it) un fortunate opportunities in the last year that almost all conversations I have with people-in this case women, at anything social, almost all married or in a relationship very blatantly trying to cheat with me. I think the women of today are the men of yesterday, or atleast equal opportunity cheaters/losers. The last one, was married for 12 years, had children, and a husband that bought her everything, and she did not have to work. He paid her travel where ever she wanted to go, and it looks like he worked very hard. She told me she loved him, but that he was boring. Boring eh? When I refused her on more then a few occasions with in a week(mind you I was bumping into her, not purposely seeking her out) she did what I thought she would do...find the first available guy and sleep with him. A guy I know from common friends she doesn't even particularily like. But he had his tools ready to go, so it was on.

Although it's nice to have attention, it makes it hard to go out anywhere these days when you know you may have to go home feeling guilty because I must be doing something wrong for all these women to try to hit on me. I think it's mis guided to put cheating flat on men. I know my friends, and when we were younger we were more likely to cheat and talk about it, today most guys I know are angered to hear about this.
I would like to point out I haven't had any EF women try anything on me...as irrelevant as a point that may be....

I always had the opinion that women cheat because they were hurt by some one else, that they never iniate cheating. But I have grown to understand, that for some women, their threshold of "hurt" has been lowered to a standard of we didn't do something for them, or we have wasted their lives, or they could have been so much more if they had waited for some one else, or anything lame like this.

I have never cheated before, and even though I can pull on any reasons that the OP gave for cheating times before in my life, I still have to live with my own conscience, wether I am still in a relationship or single in the future. I suppose what it may come down to is confidence. If you think you can get it whenever, you don't, and when some one is interested in you, one may feel like they have to take this opportunity because another one might not come along. Which childish at best.

Thank you Derv....I do what I can

People cheat for the same reason that people lie and cover up their tracks in every aspect of their lives; because they fear the consequences of their actions to those affected around them more than they are willing to admit that they are enjoying the act that they are perpetrating.

One guy's lie is another one's right to "live their lives" depending on your angle and involvement. Whenever someone is cheated there will be pain and suffering. If you're the guilty part then you give a rat's butt because you're having fun and to hell with anyone else having feelings; if you're the cheated one, then you can't fathom why the other person wasn't just clear from the beginning and couldn't tell the truth and save the suffering.

Human beings that don't cheat or lie through their lives are called nice people and good things happen to them.

I think Obama did answer this question.

Change - Yes we can!

oh, i've done a fair bit of up grading in my time too.. but when it came to choosing a model for the long haul and which is able to join me through the rougher terrain without breaking down or running out of gas, I chose one that suited my lifestyle rather than one with the bigger.. motor, or more hidden cash in the glove compartment.. or was bright red and loud.

Dont get me wrong, it is still a sleek deep green driving machine, just more miles to the gallon than excess waste that you might get in your fancy twin overhead cam turbo chargers.

Even leopards?

Why do people cheat?

Because they're selfish, self-centred, ego-centric, treacherous, disloyal, backstabbing, dishonest, untrustworthy oath-breakers.

That's why I'd do it anyway. But I'd probably justify it to myself using one of the previously mentioned excuses.

Actually yes, I did have only one. She would have moved mountains for me. But I have just friendship for her and she did know that before telling me she loved me.

Now I start to understand more about what is love and friendship. Didn't understand it before this last days and still is uncertain sometimes.

And I'd like to complete my precedent post

It's like if they didn't understand the chance they have to be with somebody who love them, IF they are themselves in love with that person.

I would give everything to have such an amazing thing in my life. To be loved by the one I love.....

sigh...

Damn!! Are you still in business?

Err.. I meant change the partner, because you can.

I think we need to define cheating first.

Will it be considered cheating if your different partners know what you are doing?

Is there a god?

only if they are in the same bed with you.