Are you confusing keys with genitals in your psychology masters babble?

Yup... and in my experience is normally due to a lack of communication

The confusion was intentional.. Hence its called an Analogy.

And they are called analogies coz they can be quite anal!

Men have an excuse now...it's all in the genes according to a swedish study. Women should now check the DNA of their partner before engaging in any relationship:

"This news is going to shock a lot of people: Swedish Scientists at the esteemed Karolinska Institute have discovered that a variant-gene might be the cause of relationship-break ups. And the only ones who have this variant are males" !!!

http://www.associatedcontent.com/art...ps.html?cat=41
http://ki.se/ki/jsp/polopoly.jsp?l=e...39&newsdep=130

I think it is possible that some people cheat simply because an opportunity is there. They may not have realized that they would ever do it and may not have gone looking for it. But I believe this to be true some of the time... especially for men (no offense).

Most men go through their whole lives, or at least their "pre-attached" lives on the prowl in some form or another. Thinking about, fantasizing, imagining, trying to get laid. Then they may end up in a great relationship at some point, when along comes some cute and loose little tart and they are simply stunned that it's so easy and turn into a leg-humping Cocker Spaniel.

Its' all in the Jeans, if a girl looks good in them you just want to check that she looks good out of them.

Some sad men just have no self control. Shoving their key in all kinds of dirty locks instead of looking after one lovely well oiled lock. Then there are ladies who just like keeping their lock wide open for all the keys of the world.

Cheaters can justify and make as many excuses as they want but the bottom line is that they are sad pathetic people. I mean why not end the relationship instead of being a sneaky low rat? I don't have many kind words for people who knowingly stay with cheaters either. In such cases I would say it is partnership made in heaven. Lot of self worth issues I guess.

Dr Phil

lol. that IS cheating! emotional cheating. plz do not say there was no romantic cross over while the relationship was 'crossing over'.

perhaps the best way to approach this then is to define cheating. then draw out any differences between men and woman as it relates to the behavior. and, yes, horny for woman should be at the top of the list! lets be honest here.

so...why do people cheat?

because they can.
because they want to.
because they are cheaters.
because its biology!

so...why IS cheating such a crime?

in part because we live in an unrealistic fantasy based 'romantic love', 'happily ever after' & 'humans are perfect' world.

i don't cheat. or rather have never cheated. thought about it though and i do not count it out as a realistic possibility in my lifetime. up until now its been far too complicated a matter for me. i'm a sharer and a confessor. i also tend to be a bit 'morally' righteous. makes me feel like a good person. if i cheated i would be working against myself and the other person as i would not be able to keep it to myself and end up hurting my partner (and tarnishing my own image) for no good reason. that and why mess up a good thing over a random sex act?

all of this from a woman who's marriage broke up after husband cheated. did i think he committed a crime? nope. was i sad? yep. did i take my own responsibility for why it happened? yep. did i feel, do i feel, bitter mean and cheated on? nope. is he the scum of the earth? nope. do i automatically assume then that all men cheat? nope.

*ducks out*

I think so. In any case, it's been proven to be a phallusy.

You make good points in the post but not all men are like that. One has to be mentally weak to actually act up on those opportunities.

I asked this question in the previous 'IQ' thread.

How many relationships actually end cleanly and end without either party having strayed? I guess the question here is how far someone can stray without it crossing a line. My guess is that most people have at least got someone in mind and will have sensed a growing relationship with them, even if they haven't gone further. I think very few relationships end with neither party having an idea where to go next.

YES!
In Denmark you can skip the 6 month of separation prior to divorce if cheating aka. f*ucking around has taking place. Then the divorce is granted as fast as they can issue the paper

Depends how well-oiled the lock is though, surely?

because its cheaper?

Completely agree with you! Call me old-fashioned, but I find loyalty to be an irresistible characteristic in a partner.

Dunno. Have never done it myself and can't believe I will ever do it.
But I think that if my relationship has come to a point where I feel desire to be with another man, than it has come to an end of that relationship. I can't see that cheating is worth it if you truly love your partner.

Do have friends who have done it though. In all cases, the relationship had come to an end without them really ending it at that time.

According to one study, also people who claimed to be in "pretty happy" or "very happy" marriages still cheated..and only 25% of men who cheated claimed that they had some marital problems prior to that. Scary.. because for me personally that's the worst, when you assumed everything is perfect and didn't even see it coming.

because of the kids?

Maybe in lot of the relationships where one partner cheats is because the relationship was not good to begin with? I doubt that many people who are in genuinely loving, caring and good working relationships would cheat. I mean just even the thought of breaking my wife's heart feels unbearable to me. Trust, love, loyalty, friendship, romance Vs fling with someone I don't give a rat's äss about?

ah, the poison called perfection...