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Re: Teenagers

Yeah, that happens if parents don't let them test too much on their own..I think people get overly controlling, always feel like they have to filter something, screen. They don't realize their kids' voices do count. And nobody really realizes that while you are dealing with a tot, basically a brand new baby who is wired to rebel and test, teens are not so so so wired to do tings the wrong way, as it is often assumed. When kids hit teens, it is all about what you have managed to install in them before that. How good and stable their family life was, how trusting their folks were, how well they can adapt to authorities, remain themselves but be part of a bigger team, venture out of the box but don't hurt themselves in the process.

It seems it is so random, all this teen mess, nobody really takes the time to see the perfect logic, the consequences, the bilogical factor in it..people get shocked by tatoos and sudden smoking, and desire to copulate. Ha. The best my folks did when they realized I was polite and set on having things my way, was to let me get my own experience, the hardest way possible. I grew up very fast. I am still laughing about having my ears pierced multiple places with mom, who went too. She went to punk gigs, had fun with my music buddies. Dad kept a notebook of most awful teen lingo to impress our friends, we still get amused at dinner table.

There is point in life adults have to realize, they cannot continue micromanaging everything. The real ground work is done years before teenagers get all tangled up in realization that their life is theirs. You can't have them run around without responsibility, but you can't dictate, either. Since, really, they don't have to need you. They do need you and they know it, but they do not have to anymore. I decided not to and I talk to my lovely teens to actually think before they make that step.
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Old 04.04.2011, 00:39
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I have an other 12 years before my daughter reach this terrible phase and I am hoping they'll find a pill to avoid it to happen...
The birth control pill has been around since about the 60's Nil.
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Old 04.04.2011, 08:48
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The birth control pill has been around since about the 60's Nil.
Dah!

I was more thinking at a pill to jump the teen years or maybe some very good prozac for me!

My friend's daughter is now 20 years old. She is so cool and I love to see her and be around her. But the years between 15-18 were terribles. Gosh! She was so difficult. During those years, they forget their social skills and good manners, etc. They all comes back after.

I hate to admit that my mother was right... But don't tell her..
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Old 04.04.2011, 09:23
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Re: Teenagers

Nil, I have 4 of those!! I love them all. They are all different with different challenges attached to each of them. I was lucky because my firstborn (16 yr old boy ) is an extremely smart and loving kid, which made it easy adjusting my parenting style to teenagers. My second one (14 yr boy) is the "cool" kid or he thinks so . My daughter is 12 and so far she's the most challenging. The emotional stuff, body image, hormones, etc makes for a completely new challenge for me. OMG the drama!! My youngest (10 yr boy ) will have it easy since there will be nothing new for me by the time he's a teen.

You'll love having teens , you seem like a pretty hand son Mom. As long they know the family rules and you're consistent, they will be great.
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Looks like the girls would be more challenging to handle(drama/emotions/image) compared to the boys (black eyes/bruises/more black eyes). And its just so difficult not to be overprotective of our daughters. But the boys...blah i think u could just leave them be as they are the more "logical" creatures anyway. But i dunno, i didnt experience such teenage trouble in my family. We were all late bloomers (still blooming perhaps?its a nicer way of saying "retard") except for the youngest.
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Its a natural progression, its the development that prepares you to happily pay out all your savings for their wedding/first appartment/car etc etc
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Old 04.04.2011, 10:50
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The girls are always on their phone, text messaging or on their computer, Twitting or Facebooking.

Boys are playing soccer, doing their show off in the street, doing nothing at home beside putting gel in their hair to give a Justin Bieber hairstyle kinda look and pretending they are soooooo cool!
I would rather them do that then go out, get drunk, do drugs and get pregnant at 15!

They are a fascinating bunch arent they? Living in their own little worlds.

I am teaching one now and the only thing that gets her attention is anything Twilight - especially Edward Cullen. She hates the piano (her mum made her have lessons) but would love to play the tune (Clair de lune) that Edward played in the first movie - just because Edward did - despite me telling her that it will be quite a few years before she is able to achieve that. So as a reward if she does practice, I play it for her at the end of each lesson. Jaysus....

We tend to forget that we were them once. Sullen, rebellious, like a chick who wants to leave the nest but havent learnt to fly properly yet. They are simply adult wannabes, with no regard for the real responsibilities that lie in wait for them out there. Bless.
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Old 04.04.2011, 10:59
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Re: Teenagers

Well, I have two and when my son turned 13, I started a thread saying Help, now I'm the mother of two teenagers... but either I'm extremely lucky or just incredibly calm and patient, so far it hasn't been too much of a hype. And Nil, girls are so much more mature, it was really easy to get to 16 without much trouble. She is more or less an adult now.
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Old 04.04.2011, 11:16
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Re: Teenagers

I loved being a teenager...best years of my life. I made a serious attempt to make life miserable for all around me. It was quite the feeling of power without ever considering consequences. I lived under the philosophy that you can never make a bad decision. Drove my parents insane, they were so glad to ship me off to europe
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Re: Teenagers

I quite enjoy them. those teenagers. some are bonkers some are actually really great.
gives me a break from the ever so boring adults who act as if though they never were young and quite stupid at times themselves.
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Old 04.04.2011, 13:19
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I've the oft mentioned Miss L-P who is 2.5 years into teendom and have not found it that difficult. When her friends started having problems with their parents she told me about it and we then discussed us and them. I said "we could be like the others or we could try to understand that is is only the two of us and to have a sh*tty atmosphere for the next couple of years is not really the best way to live in a small apartment. Besides Mummy is a hell of a lot meaner than all your friends Mums combined and you know I have eyes in the back of my head.". She agreed to the latter.

99.9% of the time it's great- I only take action when she says something really stinky or her room becomes a toxic waste zone. Friday, I declared it as such and gave her till Monday morning to "do something about it". While I was at brunch Sunday there was an sms exchange:

Miss L-P: "My room is clean, my homework is done and I walked the dogs.".
J.L-P: Ahhhh bless. "Thank you Sweety*!, Mummy loves you.".
Miss L-P: "Can I go to "X's" (the boyfriend thing?)".
J.L-P: Grrrr. "Yes, Sweety* you can.".

Re: the boyfriend thing and Facebook (all social media); it has been made very clear to her ever since she started school that good grades = the world is your oyster. Yep, she is still getting her "honourable mentions" and grrrr (again) gets to keep the boyfriend thing.

Honestly, not a lot has changed here since she has become a teen, other than she has become taller than me and she is constantly in her room:

J.L-P: "Come out of your room and sit with Mummy.".
Miss L-P: yelling "I plan to come out when I am 18.".
J.L-P: with a resigned voice "Okay, although it's an Open Door Policy then."
Miss L-P: yelling again "Okaaaay, see you in a few... love you!".

It's a cross between "Gilmore Girls" and "Absolutely Fabulous" around here. The "Is Mummy fat?" dialogue from AbFab is the running joke chez the L-P's; I do whine a tiny bit like Eddy.

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Old 04.04.2011, 13:22
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Re: Teenagers

Teenagers are alright.

It's the adults who still think they're teenagers (or that they're 'down with' the teenagers) who are a pain in the backside.

In the old days, people were all growed up at 21.

Nowadays people are still going clubbing and playing computer games well into their forties.

What a brave new world, eh?
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Old 04.04.2011, 13:36
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I've the oft mentioned Miss L-P who is 2.5 years into teendom and have not found it that difficult. When her friends started having problems with their parents she told me about it and we then discussed us and them. I said "we could be like the others or we could try to understand that is is only the two of us and to have a sh*tty atmosphere for the next couple of years is not really the best way to live in a small apartment. Besides Mummy is a hell of a lot meaner than all your friends Mums combined and you know I have eyes in the back of my head.". She agreed to the latter.

99.9% of the time it's great- I only take action when she says something really stinky or her room becomes a toxic waste zone. Friday, I declared it as such and gave her till Monday morning to "do something about it". While I was at brunch Sunday there was an sms exchange:

Miss L-P: "My room is clean, my homework is done and I walked the dogs.".
J.L-P: Ahhhh bless. "Thank you Sweety*!, Mummy loves you.".
Miss L-P: "Can I go to "X's" (the boyfriend thing?)".
J.L-P: Grrrr. "Yes, Sweety* you can.".

Re: the boyfriend thing and Facebook (all social media); it has been made very clear to her ever since she started school that good grades = the world is your oyster. Yep, she is still getting her "honourable mentions" and grrrr (again) gets to keep the boyfriend thing.

Honestly, not a lot has changed here since she has become a teen, other than she has become taller than me and she is constantly in her room:

J.L-P: "Come out of your room and sit with Mummy.".
Miss L-P: yelling "I plan to come out when I am 18.".
J.L-P: with a resigned voice "Okay, although it's an Open Door Policy then."
Miss L-P: yelling again "Okaaaay, see you in a few... love you!".

It's a cross between "Gilmore Girls" and "Absolutely Fabulous" around here. The "Is Mummy fat?" dialogue from AbFab is the running joke chez the L-P's; I do whine a tiny bit like Eddy.

*I write "Sweety" in each sms to her.

Awwww! The Gilmore Girls all over again with a Swiss taste!
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Old 04.04.2011, 13:40
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I love teenagers.

Especially the ones wearing miniskirts who frequent the Irish pub at the weekend


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Especially the ones wearing miniskirts who frequent the Irish pub at the weekend


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Teenagers are alright.

It's the adults who still think they're teenagers (or that they're 'down with' the teenagers) who are a pain in the backside.

In the old days, people were all growed up at 21.

Nowadays people are still going clubbing and playing computer games well into their forties.

What a brave new world, eh?
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Especially the ones wearing miniskirts who frequent the Irish pub at the weekend


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Yeah, it's a great time not to be a teenager as well
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Re: Teenagers

I had to smile upon reading the thread...Nil don't worry ...your lass will turn out to be a fine young lady in those aforementioned 10+ years!!
I have ( had) three of this kind , though my eldests daughter recently spread her wings and moved in a flat in town with a girl friend.....

It was when she really hit puberty ,so I did some research over a long time and wrote this article for the NST

http://www.thestork.ch/downloads/tee...ons_june07.pdf

The research into it helped me BIIIIGG TIME ,although my eldest was by then in the later stages of this 'change' i was really well prepared when my other lasses started teenagedom,,,they are now 13 and 15 ..and yes they do have mood swings and occasionally are bitchy with each other ..but overall i thnk we have found the right balance for everyone
Wouldn't want to miss them .....teenies or not
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thanks for posting that link, east enders

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thanks for posting that link, east enders

You are welcome and i hope it may help you ...it's already a few years old since it was published,but i think a lot of the stuff i found out when researching it, is still the same nowadays.....it helped me most to 'distance' myself when in an outburst one of my lasses gets nasty with some remarks...i have learnt NOT to take this personal and react much more appropriately than with my eldest .....

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You are welcome and i hope it may help you ...it's already a few years old since it was published,but i think a lot of the stuff i found out when researching it, is still the same nowadays.....it helped me most to 'distance' myself when in an outburst one of my lasses gets nasty with some remarks...i have learnt NOT to take this personal and react much more appropriately than with my eldest .....

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Thanks for this great article! Good infos indeed!
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