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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

On the BBC news now- how ridiculous

Other parents confirmed that ALL CONTACT DETAIL WERE on the invitation, so, in my book, no excuse not to let them know.
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Old 19.01.2015, 20:27
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

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It would have cost her the same had the kid shown up or not.

Or was she expecting each kid to pay their own way?

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The birthday kid may have wanted seven friends to go but his mum limited it to six.
By not responding, they may denied another child a chance to go.

There was another thread on here recently where someone else had the same attitude as you but most people disagreed with it.
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Old 19.01.2015, 20:53
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Yes, I did read the article. Tell me, if a kid was sick on the day and the parents didn't call to cancel do they deserve a bill too? If you're going to arrange such events then you should make sure you have a contingency just in case of things like this. It's simply being petty. Of course I blame the parents for getting themselves into this "my party has to be better than their party" scenario in the first place.

This stuff happens, deal with it like the adult she's supposed to be.
I clearly said that I thought it was dumb, so the answer to your question is "no, they do not deserve a bill."

How are they in a "my party is better than you party" scenario? The whole thing is pretty simple, and the birthday party bit is entirely irrelevant.

If you're invited to something where someone else has to pay for you to attend and you don't show up or cancel, you're a shithead. If you send someone a bill for not showing up to something you planned because you lost ~20 francs, you're a shithead.
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Old 19.01.2015, 20:59
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The birthday kid may have wanted seven friends to go but his mum limited it to six.
By not responding, they may denied another child a chance to go.
Thanks Tom, you get it.

Just like a previous poster, his wife spent hours cooking, then guests not only do not show, but neither contact. Probably the dinner was spoilt when the 2 of them started to eat, as allowing time, guests held up. Certainly would not have been digested well. Husband & wife probably crumpy; all because of lazy ignorant guests to be!

We were picking something up by Ricardo, then involved in automobile incident on the way. First priorities to ensure everyone ok & relaxed to carry on. Still managed to send obscure sms with limited knowledge of incident and said we would ring in an hour in person to re arrange (as it happened that seller was going to be there for another couple of hours, so not a big problem, but sure he appreciated the update).

After One's guests have arrived, One always thanks them for coming before they leave, as one is grateful, one' efforts not been for nothing.

Let us put the story the other way. He lets his grand-parents he is coming to visit. But then decides he would rather go to his friend's birthday party.

The grand-parents are not told of the change. They have prepared for this visit of parents, him & his siblings to visit. They are waiting... disappointed .. .. no they do not send an invoice.... but the boy & his father learn nothing about considerations and consequences.
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Old 19.01.2015, 22:07
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

It's not the money it's the principle, but it looks like the father of the boy who didn't go doesn't have any, that's the problem. Sending an invoice is an over reaction.
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Old 19.01.2015, 22:49
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

More importantly, whats the BBC coming to?
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

Seems fair enough. Wasn't there a thread about how mobility charge double for no shows?
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Old 19.01.2015, 23:21
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

If all contact details were there then fair enough to ask to cover the costs, but an invoice.. really!

She didn't even give it to the parents or kid directly. She asked a teacher to give it to the kid.
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Old 20.01.2015, 10:45
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

How nice for little Lawrence Junior to be able to think of his mother as he gets battered for the rest of his school life.

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Old 20.01.2015, 11:23
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

mirfiled showing your age there - it's not like that anymore. Parents will sue the other parents, they will come and beat up the teacher, and they will all sue the school, who will sue the Council and then the GVT. Much more grown-up these days
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Old 20.01.2015, 11:34
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

Gotta love the Daily Snail; pictures of families with added images of their houses. Invoiced kid lives in a seemingly rather rundown terraced house, birthday kid lives in a double-garage detached house and they seem to have been on a rather nice beach holiday recently...

Not showing up and not informing? Bad form.
Sending an invoice (via the school)? Total wankerism.
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Old 20.01.2015, 11:39
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

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According to the BBC article:



It seems only logical that a party invitation would contain contact information for the host. Of course anyone that has a copy would be able to verify whether the invitation had contact details or not.

Either way, all the parents are tools. Do you really need to contact BBC over the injustice of a silly little invoice? Ugh.

Just wait until little Alex grows up and applies for a job. His potential employer does a Google search and finds this.
It'll tell the prospective employer that the applicant has understood a fundamental business practice from an early age.

In all seriousness the whole thing is astoundingly ridiculous. A kid doesn't show up for a party that was RSVPd - bad form. Invoicing for the no show and threatening with the small claims court - utterly and totally pathetic.
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Old 20.01.2015, 11:49
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

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I was always blown over by the birthday party scene in the UK - and bad parents that we are - didn't give in to the "keeping up with the Smiths" pattern. I always awaited my children's reactions after these big-spend parties, half expecting the "I want to have a ** party" but they were usually rather indifferent. Too much hype, a square of cake wrapped in a party napkin - sometimes many miles away from where we lived, and a bag filled with more sugary nothingness and some disposable plastic trinkets.

On the other hand, the parents that overthink parties, and try to make it all educational blah blah are a bit of a bore. Its a kids birthday, simple gathering with friends, barbecue at the park, movie with 2-4 friends and pizza or ice-cream after. These cut-lists for expensive parties end up hurting many children's feelings - but would one want to find out they were on the "reserve" list, and get invited later after first-choice candidates turned down invite?

Crazy!

I like this kind of party (and from the sounds in the hallway of building a good time was had) at reasonable cost
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Old 20.01.2015, 12:07
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

My parents never gave me birthday parties. They said that a child's life is a daily party! Why should they spend time and money on other ankle biters just to celebrate the fact that I didn't die. That being said, if they did book something with an event cost per person, I'm sure they would have done the same.

They were a nice couple :P
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Old 20.01.2015, 14:37
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

Two sets of utterly ridiculous, conceited parents: first the crazy mom who sent the bill (am 100% sure it wasn't because of the money, but she wanted to give a lesson..)and then the father who went to tell the media about it...yeah, they made these kids' lives pretty easy at school..but they should be happy now, their equally inflated Egos won!
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Re: Invoice sent for missing kid's birthday party

...parents at the school gates need something fresh for the banter - scruples? That word is no longer on the vocab list

And then the teacher who was warned for putting envelope in the child's bag...a bit like the airport baggage interrogation - has anyone else touched your bag Schools have so many "silly" rules because unfortunately there are an awful lot of "silly" parents roaming about. Hopefully NOT coming to a school near you anytime soon...
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...parents at the school gates need something fresh for the banter - scruples? That word is no longer on the vocab list

And then the teacher who was warned for putting envelope in the child's bag...a bit like the airport baggage interrogation - has anyone else touched your bag Schools have so many "silly" rules because unfortunately there are an awful lot of "silly" parents roaming about. Hopefully NOT coming to a school near you anytime soon...
Aren't the Swiss smart? They let their little darlings walk alone to school (as I did) and probably you won't see "the parents at the school gates" phenomenon. In my nephew's school class there's one little boy whose mom went to the parents' meeting with her diplomas in sociology...(she really wanted to impose her agenda, despite any common sense)
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