I have developed a fair bit of unhealthy and bad habits as of lately. I was an alcoholic, getting better though or atleast trying to and an unpleasant character when it comes to interaction with the opposite sex and relationships.

I would like to know, preferably from practical experiences, how one overcomes bad habits and changes for someone better.

Any ideas and avices? Calling all agony aunts

Getting religious seem to work for a lot of people...

If that's not an option for you, maybe something similar but non-religious like hiring a personal coach e.g.?

If you ever change your mind, i can always supply some wine? Seriously, good luck for at least taking the first steps.

I am not so keen on religion, each claims to come with assurity of salvation and a lighhouse on the highway to heaven, also religious people, I think are more messed up than me.

Wine does ease the pain, thanks for the offer, but I am not so keen on liver failure.

i can give you lessons 100 chf per hour

Wine doesn't ease the pain, it just prolongs the suffering.

what about adrenaline sports? or maybe driving at 200kph on the autobahn in a car with a 3ft high spoiler?

Something that's often recommended is to have positive activities that you
substitute for the negative ones; so, for example, if Friday night was always
a "night out", don't just sit at home feeling that you're missing the night out,
go play sport, or do something cultural so that there isn't a big void that aches
to be filled by slipping back into old (bad) habits.

it could ease the pain AND end the suffering

Suffering is only when you stop drinking, hence the need to be 'alcoholic'

It reminds me of the movie Leaving Las Vegas with Nicholas Cage. Bloody good movie!

spends his life wankered and dies after climaxing during sex - there's got to be a moral in there somewhere...

Try to get a date in Zurich. That should keep your mind occupied for the next 700 years

We are supposed to be helping him not driving him to drink!

A clear incitement to violate Rule 1 - tsk-tsk, shame on you.
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See you all down the pub

Sounds like a good idea, but I dont think its any better than drinking. It only helps while it lasts. I will probably end up an adrenaline junkie.

Yes, I have been working on those lines, substituting chewing gum for cigerettes and now I chew while I smoke. Joking.

That is good idea but all the resolutions seem to wash away when the negative mindset sits in. Tried running and I was spitting dark brown phlegm with very high nicotine and tar contents.

Its not about morals but more like a state of mind one can get into. You have to be there to feel or know it.

Not sure about Zurich specifically, but finding a date is not a problem. Its what happens afterwards.

Thank you for saying that, I think she fails to realise is that one woman, too many is what has lead me to this state.

Luckily there are no financial worries though.

I suppose I'm wasting my time writing this as I'm not really convinced this Thread is supposed to be taken seriously, but just in case you do want to change something in your dealings with other people (I don't mean dealings with the oppositer sex - just relationships in general) I would say this.

It sometimes helps to stop for a second and imagine the situation turned round. She/he says or does what you say or do and you are the 'recipient'. It sure works when dealing with children to pause for a minute and ask how you would react if your 'Mum' said this to you - in this situation the child is allowed to play the role of 'Mum' which they much enjoy.

Maybe this would work with EFers too when they write shirty PMs to a Mod who is really doing his/her best to tidy things up.

Are we feeling a little sensitive today?

capoeira, kickboxing,etc. i always feel better when i kick people