I get you completely. I think it makes it easier to cope, though, when you stop assigning guilt, feeling like a victim sucks. There ain't a good and a bad one, there are only people who in some instances do something we would not let ourselves do..but to understand it, or think we undeserved it, were targeted or why people did it..is just gonna bring you down.

Man-hating comments make me laugh, just the same as chicks are biatches comments, we often ripped on those with my gay friends since all the stereotyping is usually a corny cop out, it just serves for expressing some kind of quick, gender related empathy stuffs.

Drop the stereotypes, feel unique. Let it slide off you like rain.

I would love to feel hurt and dramatic and muse here. I gotta do dishes, iron, clean up instead, and cram, damn me, seriously.

I have my own coping mechanisms for the short term. Here's hoping I can stop feeling this bad about it one day. It's been 6 months already for God's sake.

My opinion only: it didn't happen over night (the "dirt" part I mean). People usually believe oh it was so good and look how it finished ...It was there all the time but you didn't want to see it...love is blind, remember? I was like that once, got burned and decided that being all nice and caring it is a huuuuuge mistake. So I had to change my attitude, I personally can't be bitter, makes me A. unhappy; and B. feel like a I gave them too much power... ... Everything you don't like in a person ( be it your love or just a friend) or it's just too much for you even though for someone else would mean nothing, try to settle from the very beginning otherwise you'll be deeply wounded.

Oh, and time heals. Definitely.

“Time heals what reason cannot”. Seneca

It was definitely a learning experience. I will never again let someone treat me like that, but unfortunately it has impared my ability to believe that there aren't a lot more like him out there. Next time if I get even a hint of anything similar, he's gone.

I hope you're right about time being a healer.

Death is a learning experience. You invest, you get betrayed, you learn from that and this cycle of violence just keeps repeating itself. But, here's the catch: each time you emerge stronger and you are able to pull yourself together easier.

You may become more strict in investing in people, you may adjust your demands from a future relationship, but in the end you decide to give, once more, a leap of faith. And you just hope (or pray) that this cycle of violence will stop one day.

In my younger days I was royally burned by women who I was totally in love with... 3 times in a row. Felt exactly like many here have described. Spent much time angry "how could she betray me like that", "the f**ing b**ch". Directed my anger, hurt and disappointment at "her". It took me many years to re-frame what had happened (repeatedly). It was not the woman's fault. It was totally, 100 percent my fault for being attracted to women who could and would do that to me. I came to the realization that I am attracted to women who have the capacity to hurt me...it then becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. Eventual she would knock me down, because she could. So, my solution, right or wrong, was only to pursue women who couldn't do that to me. I have come to the opinion that falling "in love" with someone is really about meeting someone who so completely understands your dysfunctions and weaknesses that you feel they will fix you... what really is happening is you are painting a bullseye on your heart and then handing them a gun, saying "I dare you to pull the trigger". And they always do. OK, I'm officially cynical.

Or officially sound of heart and mind.
Depends on the point of view

My opinion would be to continue to trust, be gentle, be kind, be respectful and be true to the feeling that once was.

Regardless of the difficulty or emotion, keep what was beautiful and shared and let the rest flow away from you.

Perhaps one day there will only remain a feeling of kind indifference.