Unfort there are one or two with history who should be avoided if you're a woman.

I'm soon to be unemployed so I should be able to host another Friday Drinks. Andee, please do join and I can introduce you to the regulars and hopefully some other newbies like you. A couple of social events and your circle of friends will grow fast.

Here we go:
http://www.englishforum.ch/social-ev...returneth.html

Or be careful of those "with" forum history..

We need an EF Wall of Shame!

To the OP: I concur with the other posters. Try to avoid one-on-one encounters, even with people who appear to have a solid posting history. Just because someone's a suave, sophisticated gentleman on the forum, it doesn't mean he's not a fat, lecherous slob in real life.

Come to an event, meet a crowd, get to know people in a setting where there's no problem with just slipping off quietly if you feel uncomfortable (which you won't), and take it from there.

Good luck!

my advice is to sleep with as many people on EF as you can, your name will get known and obviously your circle of friends will increase.

but good luck with it. i have friends who work for airlines and it is impossible to have any sort of normal friendship with them as you never know which country they are in, what weird hours they are available and generally when they are around to meet up.

On the other hand: Maybe not everyone is ready to go to the types of events you enjoy - the ones in central Swiss "Swingers' halls"...

But...but....you said

Oh well. Andee1982 - definitely start with anything open on the calendar - cheese evening, curry night, drinks at xyz, whatever. Can just turn up to drinks without signing up and not announce your forum "nickname". Play it safe, but do come out, most of the people on the forum are nice, and even the harsh ones play it very friendly in real life, keeping their angst for posting on EF while at work (like me, for example ).

Maybe, that's why women don't have "balls" - they've already tried the carefree approach, to their detriment. Anyway, I try not to live by hard and fast philosophies, but adapt to each given situation. In this case, it is probably safer for a young woman to initially meet strangers in a group situation, than inviting single contacts, which may be mis interpreted by male testosterone. Risks have to be calculated. But it was only meant as a harmless observation, and shouldn't detract from or cloud a genuine request for friendship.

One should also avoid individuals with extensive EF history, they are bound to be nutters! Catch 22 anyone?

All my friends in Switzerland I mostly know them from EF.

Just check the calender, pick events that you like and go.

There is also "Toto's" bar events. Expats are basically meeting at the same time, same place every week. It is a great place for newbies to meet other expats in the city. The host, Ian from Scotland, basically hosts this event every Saturday. He is the first one there, and the last one to leave. He makes it his personal mission to make sure that everyone that walks through the door is introduced to people.

Personally I didn't like it that much. Went there twice. It's too much blah-blah for me and too crowded, if I would just stop and listen i was always surprised about the rumor; noisy and sometimes too crowded. I met a couple of guys, stayed friends with some, life goes on.

Tried some pub quizzes, very good atmosphere and very nice people.

What I love the most and try not to miss any meeting is the Hash House Harriers group. No, not related to drugs, that's how the name started for this activity somewhere in Malaysia in 1939, now its worldwide. It's the drinking club with a running problem and that's what we do, run-walk and socialize at our meetings on a regularly basis. You can check there events on EF calendar on every Thursday or 1st Saturdays in the month.

There are also the speaking groups where people meet to learn from each other different languages.

As I said, just pick up something on your taste from the calendar and just go. Also it's working if you start a social event, with the advantage that you can organize according to your free time. Used to do that too for night-outs. Good crowds.

history of thread hijacking like this one.

Damn, seem to have missed this thread. Where were we?

Have we met ?

there are pretty weird replies on here..dont u think?

i got a lot of PMs, also from nice people..Ive already met people that I got to know online (not from this forum though) and Ive also been to social events...the problem is that they are mostly on weekends when I have to work or when Im not in Switzerland

And guys dont worry: Even if I meet someone one-to-one I only gonna do so in public

ok. now just make note of all the guys that PM'd you. esp. the ones who 'seem nice'. they are the ones to be careful of

Zurich H3 jog / walk

it's Thursday and I am organising it this time, with a german guy. Maybe you could make it.

Cheers!

Ruxi

I don't know about this getting new friends thing. I couldn't even keep the old ones that I had....

I really can't understand why so many incredible advices for something so simple.
There are no step-by-step guide to meet people and make new friends.

Just go out, doesn't matter if is 1on1 or a public thing or pub meeting or whatever...

You will meet lots of people and some of these people will be more similar with you and some not.

Well some people, including me, even simple to socialize and make friends very quick, I prefer to be a bit selective. to have a look about what and where I should go and what to do, with what kind of people I could meet wherever I decide to go ...

Will second a recommendation for this event. It's an evenly mixed crowd with both regular and transient participants. It can get a bit crowded between 2130 and midnight.

Oooo yeah... I like that scoring philosophy

Not that I'm indian..... but that's plain racist ma man!

and my advice is start with Junior Members in a descending alphabetical order