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My kids are 14(twins) and 16.
My concern is getting my kids settled into a school asap. Naturally nobody wants to move away from CH.
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Once again, about your children.
Yes, they couldn't step out of the International School and straight into the Swiss government schools and sort everything out immediately. Not immediately, that is true. But still perhaps do-able.
My hunch is that only if any of the three children has
a) has difficulties at school, of a cognitive/intellectual nature, or
b) a particular brilliant talent which cannot wait because of age/development levels (e.g. competitive athletics)
would that child needs to be settled, as you say, asap.
Otherwise, if they will work hard, there is a real chance that they could integrate into the Swiss Schools, even at this stage, which feels "critical" to you. They may have to repeat some modules and courses, or might even have to repeat a whole academic year, but they would not be the first children to do so. And to repeat a year because you're claiming a whole new territory in life does not come with the same humiliation as repeating a year after having failed one's exams. Just think: if they were to do an exchange year in, say, Japan, Greece or Quebec, then they would most likely have to repeat a year, too.
Your children are old enough to understand that although their parents try as much as they can to give them a good life, the best is not always possible. After all, they will have seen you, during the past year or so, being unwell, so they already know that there are changes, and that more will soon be upon them. Therefore, they probably know very well that an open, frank conversation about reducing some part of their lifestyles is on its way.
Ask them how they feel about the challenge of knuckling down and learning German at a good enough level to pass at the Swiss schools. Do they hate every minute of being adolescent, and are champing at the bit to be rid of school forever? Do they hate their parents and want to severe the bond as quickly as possible? Have they been dreaming of life at a British university? Have you been entertaining such plans for them? In what way do your and their plans match, and diverge? Are they bookisch and scholarly? Indoor or outdoor kids? Do they have friends (or better still girlfriends or boyfriends) and favourite activities that they're unwilling to leave behind? Would they be willing to pay a price to maintain the physical proximity to these relationships? A price phrased in terms like: "3 hours extra German lessons plus two family meals per week in which we ALL speak German"?
How much would it matter in each of their personal development if they "lost" a year? How much could be gained in that year, in terms of personal development and intercultural understanding? Ask them each how they see that.
You and the children's other parent (if here) could make an appointment with the school authorities to ask what such a transition into the Swiss School system would involve. For real, not just as a vague feeling. And then go a second time, with all the children or with each child separately, to show them what it would be about.
Does your wife (if here) work? That's another factor, of course.
Register at RAV immediately.
That will give you some space to breathe, and to approach these issues.