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Old 14.06.2015, 15:10
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Urn Burial - where to get details in order to attend

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After 7 days of not being able to reach a very dear & excellent friend by telephone, my OH drove to his building in another village/town to find that the building is undergoing renovations, no lights on, it was night time.
OH then went to a local pub where our friend, who was local Swiss is known; to be told he had died 10 days before and was already buried. That was middle of last week.

Since then we have been researching various sites, there is no listing in the local weeklynewspaper for that village/town - we could not see any listing for funerals in that newspaper and looked through several weeks of publication.

Then OH found a site kathromanshorn.ch, where it is listed

'Urnenbeisetzung' (Urn Burial) with his name, as well as the date for this Tuesday and a morning time.

We would like to find out quickly by tomorrow, Monday, if there is ceremony / service my OH can attend?

There was a Kontakt thing on there, where I sent a message with my email and hope possible to get a reply tomorrow, but if not, then maybe someone on EF would give some insight.

We do not know the family, his father was married twice & I met a half brother at a festival about 3 years back, but if he passed me in the street, not sure I would recognise him. Our friend spent Christmas with his family and do not recall ever speaking on the subject of religion. The site appears to be for the Catholic Church of Romanshorn.

I am not in Switzerland at the moment, but soon will be. I would like to go to wherever the Urn is buried to pay my respects.

We loved him very much and there are certain ways we cope with our grief. If my OH can attend a ceremony & perhaps meet with the family, it would be good to let them know what a Good person, as well as our friend without intruding in their grief.

Thanks in advance to anyone who can offer insight
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Re: Urn Burial - where to get details in order to attend

My condolences on the loss of your friend.

The website you mentioned is the Catholic parish - simply call the church secretary who should be able to give you details of whether the urn burial will be a service or not, and if a service, whether it is public or private.

How the urn is interred varies depending on the wishes of the family, on local traditions and theological practice, on the cemetery's regulations.

(In our family we usually hold a public memorial mass (a Catholic service conducted after cremation) then inter the ashes in a private family ceremony, sometimes even days later. But there are many possibilities, so do call the parish for details.

Again, I am sorry for your loss.

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Re: Urn Burial - where to get details in order to attend

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Thanks for that information, most useful, what I needed to know.

Thanks for your condolences as well.
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Re: Urn Burial - where to get details in order to attend

Also note if you miss the burial for whatever reason, Catholics in Switzerland often have a service for the deceased around 30 days after the burial. It is called Dreissigster in German. The family would be the best ones to ask about it. In my experience all the family and friends have a meal together after the service.
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Also note if you miss the burial for whatever reason, Catholics in Switzerland often have a service for the deceased around 30 days after the burial. It is called Dreissigster in German. The family would be the best ones to ask about it. In my experience all the family and friends have a meal together after the service.
There is something similar in Ireland, it is called the monthly mind I believe, as well as the 1st annual anniversary.

In Greece it is after 40 days.

My OH hopes to go tomorrow to the Urn Burial. OH has a local Swiss friend who has agreed to accompany, as does not want to go alone.
OH will play by ear, as does not wish to intrude, if there is something after will play by ear whether to attend or decline. I suspect would decline.

We do not know the family & wish to pay our Respects to them. For me later I will go to wherever the Urn is placed for my private visit, as well as other places to remember him.
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Re: Urn Burial - where to get details in order to attend

brief update, as may help another sometime.

Sent emails to both the Church and Gemeinde.

On this occasion it was the Gemeindeleiterin, who was able to supply the necessary information. Burial of ashes in private garden followed by barbeque. OH did not stay for barbeque, as did not wish to cry in front of so many people.
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