How to maintain long distance relationship? - Page 5

farra hidlor · #81 29.11.2009, 08:55

	Quote:	gmu500
	it was becoming too painful...no talk of the future, getting frustrated when we couldn't just pick up the phone and speak to share our daily experiences and also because I felt that I would never be number 1 since there were too many other issues that made it too complicated. Ending it was very difficult

sounds same....

farra hidlor · #82 07.12.2009, 04:38

wish her that everything will work smoothly!

see.look · #83 17.12.2009, 17:47

Secret to long distance relationship is to first ask yourself what it is that you want. Lust or trust? If it's lust then make sure to never get caught and act innocent always. If you are serious then ditch the long distance and get close distance with her.

Dervaish · #84 17.12.2009, 17:57

For people who have no choice but to be long distance from their partners, there is technology to help.

http://dvice.com/archives/2009/04/post-2.php

Angela-74 · #85 17.12.2009, 18:03

	Quote:	farra hidlor
	How to maintain long distance relationship? How to be a good girlfriend...not jelous toward your boyfriend.Not suspicious...trust your boyfriend. You try ..and try hard,but you just cant!Keep jelous & lots of suspicious!

I think that if you are a reasonable person (read not a psycho) and you still feel there is something going on, then I suggest you listen to your heart (or sixth sense). Most women know when we are being cheated on and can see the signs. I hope this is not the case of course but, it happens.
I was engaged to marry my ex (aka la caca...sorry

) while he was cheating on me. How did I find out? She called my mom!!!!! Ahhh I am so glad I did not marry the H.de P. (Spanish for sonof....).

All the best!

Maggy · #86 20.01.2010, 16:04

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	Only solution? Move. If whomever wants to be with someone, then they will do it. Life is too short for excuses.

Yes, why does your girlfriend not move? I did it and love Switzerland.

Maggy · #87 20.01.2010, 16:19

Just curious here, are you talking about your girlfriend or yourself here? It seems you are extreemly in worries about your friend there.

farra hidlor · #88 21.01.2010, 05:21

thank you for all Post!!
appreaciate all comments and suggestions!!

PJSleep · #89 21.01.2010, 08:13

been there.
done that.
its not easy.

nothing new to add really - most of its been said...

1. refocus the trust issue. no need to trust or not trust him. work on trusting yourself. trust yourself enough to know if its right for you. if you are getting what you need. if you are spending time with a man that enhances your life, shows you respect love and kindness and brings out the best in you.

2. have a long term plan that you are both working towards. open ended long distance relationship? imo - not gonna work. unless distance/lack of intimacy/physical contact is actually what you are really looking for. relocation plans? life time commitment plans? trial face to face cohabitation plans? whatever it is that the two of you are going for the long distance part simply becomes a phase. and, hopefully a short one at that.

3. rituals. communicate every day preferably at the same time. i suggest skype vs phone. share day to day experiences via text message throughout the day. find at least one activity/interest that you both enjoy and then do it together in your respective locations. e.g., watch a movie 'together' on line. oh, and flowers once a week helps too.

4. rethink your entire situation from the ground up. my man made it his mission to make sure that i knew each and every day that i am loved, adored, cherished, respected and missed. he left no space for doubt, suspician, meloncoly, etc. he comunicated his intentions cleary and his actions matched his talk. he actually gave me more confidence in both the relationship and my own ability to 'with stand' the sepearation during this time.

all the best to you!

farra hidlor · #90 19.02.2010, 07:34

their relationship is in really hard stage now....

poor couple..