How to maintain long distance relationship? How to be a good girlfriend...not jelous toward your boyfriend.Not suspicious...trust your boyfriend.
You try ..and try hard,but you just cant!Keep jelous & lots of suspicious!

This is actually a good question that I asked to myself in the case I found love in another country. (I'm also on some international dating sites...)
Everything would have to rely first on faith in the other person.

It's sure that if something like this would happen, one of us would have to finally make the move in the other country and learn partner's language.

Just for example, when I was recently in love this that now lost friend, I was totally ready to learn Greek, as it was her mother tongue, just to be able to speak with her in her own language and to understand her and her country better. I even had started to download some books I found on internet about Greek language and her country.

I think it's something important even if that person makes the move or lives in your country.

Communication, communication, communication ... by whatever means ... texting, emails, chat, phone calls (thank goodness for cheap phone providers), plus flights to see each other as often as possible (again thanks to cheap providers). If all of the above is not happening on both sides, then it's time to call it a day.

I had one of these at the beginning. Aerogrammes are the best. They are cheap, don't require electricity, and can be non-linear.

I am not a letter writer but I sent at least one of these per week. Sometimes three or four.

Good luck as these sorts of relationships can be quite trying at times.
Brian.

Try..and try hard,but still...jelous & lots of suspicious

I am of the firm belief that long-distance relationships are never meant to work. Humans need physical and emotional contact to maintain the types of connections needed in any strong relationship, and I have never seen how that can be the case when you only see someone every so often and communicate mainly by phone.

However more importantly, why are you jealous and suspicious of him, has he given you reason? If you have no trust then how can you have a relationship, never mind one of long-distance that requires cast-iron belief in your partner?

Doomed to fail in my opinion.

I hate to agree, but if you are already jealous and suspicious to the point that you are posting about it on a forum, I think your subconscious is trying to tell you something.

These kind of relationships require you to have a complete understanding of the other person. You need to know what they are going to do what they won't do. I won't tell you about my long distance relationship as you would be uncomfortable but it would have tweaked the jealous and there would have been no suspicion. Still I have now been married for over 20 years so it didn't work out too badly.

But I agree that it seems to be a unique person that survives and even thrives in these sort of relationships.

Good Luck,
Brian.

see my blue

Er, yeah! Sounds like boyfriend wants all of the benefits of being married and having an exciting/exotic lover from a foreign land without any of the responsibilities. I am saying that it couldn't be anything else. I am just saying this is typical of the guy who can't live with his wife but still loves her and loves his child. However, now that he is technically single, he can get back into the dating scene.

Doesn't seem like a winner. Situation or boyfriend.

Good luck,
Brian.

Well.. if she's the type of girl that gets involved with a recently-divorced man on the other side of the world nd expects things to be ok then she is either very young, very naieve, a bit dim, or a mixture of all three. Leave her to it and let her realise her mistakes... it's all part of the learning process.

if this is how it is...its really hurt the girlfriend...how can she stand with this!

Only solution? Move. If whomever wants to be with someone, then they will do it. Life is too short for excuses.

Huh? Could be he works, could be wherever Miss Exotic lives is not super, could be it's an internet affair... it could be anything!

Is it because of works?or because of he got court order to spend some ammount for his kid CHF$$$$ everymonth...so now,he dont have enough to start with his new girlfriend?or is it because he cant live far from his family&parents?or is just because of works?and work??

Yep, so why doesn't your friend move... maybe she has less obligations?

And so on...

I am not saying it couldn't be anything, but I would be concerned. Everytime, I have seen this situation, my initial surmise is correct.

If it is real then your suggestion of moving will sort out the details. If it is not then the girlfriend suggesting that she move will take care of things very quickly. Proximity definitely sorts things out.

That's what happened twenty two years ago when my then girlfriend moved over to the States to be with me. It was the right thing to do.
Life is definitely too short. No excuses.

Brian.

there corrected that for ya

yeah...if the title change also to be "How to end a long distance relationship"...the girlfriend still thinking how to end it...because the boyfriend keep convincing her that things gonna work out...keep convincing!!and always!!

But be careful she doesn't hear some suspicious voice beside you

true......

I think with the technological advancements, it is possible to keep long distance relationships.

Get Broadband, get Trubrite Laptop, a Webcam... and get going

You can have a morning lover in Americas (depending on time zones), afternoon love in Europe and late evening love in Far East... The only mistake you would make is if you stick with one

There was this lady who would check into a hotel, wear sexy lingerie and full works in terms of makup... just to talk to her lover on the PHONE!!!

So theres hope.. cant stay how long they'll last but relationships even in real life dont last that long... so what the heck