Hi and thanks for the reply. I've had a bit of a look around and found some really useful info

i'm just stressing a little as I feel this is a probably a futile exercise and just wanted to see what sort of replies I received.
my husband was born in australia to an australian mother and has only spent about 3 months in switzerland as a child for a holiday. his father also never taught him german and because we live in a regional area, we have no swiss clubs or Tafe/Uni's that teach german. His grandmother, aunties and cousin's live in switzerland but as for the so called 'close ties' of visiting and having bank accounts and property, we just don't have any of those. it all comes down to not being able to afford to go. its not that we don't talk on the phone, it's just hard finding the money to go.
i suppose my main reason for applying is so that we can be a family and I can have the same rights as my husband and children. We would also like to see about taking up residence/making a life over there and just giving it a go once our boys are a little bit bigger. we figure you only live once. but if this proves too difficult with the close ties then the only other option seems to just go and apply later. thanks again for taking the time to answer.
shannon.