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Old 19.06.2015, 14:32
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Has anyone had an elderly relative come live with them?

Hi All,

I'm curious as to if any of you have brought an elderly relative to live with you in CH and your experience?

I have a 93 yr old grandmother who is in good health, but due to her age needs a bit of supervision, and some social interaction (a hug is good for everyone!) and no other family member can accommodate her. I would like to have her come live with me, I have a large enough apartment, I can afford her medical and care, and have a long term Swiss employment contract. I'm am not an EU National, and am on a B-permit, 1/2 way to my C.

Has anyone else had this experience or tried to bring non-spouse, non-parent family member here to take care of?

Many thanks in advance.
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Re: Has anyone had an elderly relative come live with them?

How lovely of you to care. But you have to be very honest about the future. Won't she be terribly lonely if you are at work all day, away from her own culture, language and familiarity of every kind?

She is now in good health and that is wonderful- but what if she does become very ill with very expensive treatment? And what if she does become more frail or has dementia or Alzheimers and needs residential care- which is VERY expensive?

I do admire you for caring- but please consider all things carefully. The main consideration being 'how does SHE personally feel about being up-rooted from her home and familiar surroundings and other relatives, at this stage of her life?
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Old 19.06.2015, 16:39
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Re: Has anyone had an elderly relative come live with them?

Thank you for your thoughtfulness.

I have considered the "what ifs" - good and potentially horrific - and ultimately the decision is 100% hers. I haven't presented the option to her yet, as I'm doing my homework and only want the best, and if it's even feasible, for her and my family here.

She's already terribly lonely, which is part of my motivation. She lives alone, has no visitors, doesn't leave the house (a neighbor drops off groceries and doesn't stay) and all other family are hours/days away. In all fairness, she doesn't like people very much so I wouldn't imagine her venturing out anyway. And I agree about the lack of familiarity, though the current talk is to put her in a skilled facility, which also presents the lack of familiarity and eliminates the warmth of a home and still far away from any friends or family. She does speak french, so she wouldn't be completely out of her language element.

Like I said I'm just exploring the option and the decision would be 100% hers. Thank you for your thoughts.
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Old 19.06.2015, 18:59
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Re: Has anyone had an elderly relative come live with them?

This doesn't answer your question but there are a couple of links in this old post which might give you ideas to consider. Themes slightly different but EF threads usually wander a little in topic (understatement of the year) so there might be something which helps.
Difficult situation for you and I hope you come up with a solution which is good for everyone concerned.
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Old 19.06.2015, 20:25
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Re: Has anyone had an elderly relative come live with them?

Here are a few threads where a similar question has been asked. Maybe check for the latest info on the links provided in the threads, and contact your cantonal authorities for the latest/most accurate information.

Non EU B Permit Holder: How to call Parents in CH to live with me

Possibilities for bringing non EU parents in Switzerland as dependents
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Re: Has anyone had an elderly relative come live with them?

As Meloncollie says in the two threads 3Wishes posted the main problem is likely to be that there are other family members in the country who could look after her. It doesn't matter to the Swiss that they are hours or days away, they are there and so no reason to grant her a dependent's permit for Switzerland.

That said, as Meloncollie also points out, cases are decided individually so it's certainly worth trying. If you can make your case convincing enough you may be able to bring her in.
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Re: Has anyone had an elderly relative come live with them?

With the caveat that my experience is only in my Gemeinde in canton SZ, so YMMV in another, 'outsider friendlier' Gemeinde...

Be aware that the stance taken by the authorities most often is that you should return to your home country rather than bring a dependent relative here.

The first issue I see is that your grandmother is not a first degree relative. This could weaken your argument significantly. Are there first degree relatives, and if so, why can they not care for her?

You don't need to answer these questions here, but be prepared for them in your application.

It has to be understood that there is no right of family reunion for non-EU folks, and given that the quota for non EU has been cut to 6500, bringing a 'non productive' non EU immigrant here is getting even more difficult. If your grandmother is wealthy, bringing assets with her into Switzerland that will add to Swiss tax coffers, that could help against this hurdle.

Do not underestimate the finances you to need to show. You will need to prove that not a single Rappen of Swiss tax money will be spent, that she has, or you have, the financial means to support her for the rest of her life.

Your permit might be another hurdle. We have C permits, but as non EU that still was an issue, as technically we only have the right to stay until the next renewal.

The mood on immigration that prevails in you canton and Gemeinde will be key. I know one person who was able to construct a hardship argument to bring a parent here, but in my canton and Gemeinde that would have been the wrong approach.

There are a whole host of other issues to consider, but it's 4am here in the U.S. and I need to get some sleep, so I'll leave those for another post. I'm back in the US now, by the way, because my elderly mother imight not be able to continue living on her own ... and having gone through the long drawn out process to try to bring my FIL to Switzerland I know that bringing my mother to Switzerland will be all but impossible.

But again, if you live in a more sympathetic canton and Gemeinde you might have a completely different experience.

Wishing you all the best.

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