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Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

We have a cat that pees on our bed. All the time. We can't take it anymore.

We have two cats - siblings - that are five years old. One cat was bullying the other and she started peeing outside the box as a result. This was 4 years ago. We've gone through 3 mattresses (and were ready to toss this one), endless pillows and duvet blankets, bath mats, about 10 dog beds, 2 sofas and now she pees in the bathtub.

We've hired a behaviorist in the past from the US and she was able to help, but its started up again (and she's very expensive). We have 4 litter boxes in different places. She has her own bed, her own cat tree and we've even quarantined her in a small room for weeks. NOTHING is working. And she's been on Prozac.

We just got back from holiday and we closed off the room but she managed to get in for one day. Our bed is totally covered in pee as well as 2 new duvets and 4 pillows. It was a mess.

We've reached the end of our rope. We have an almost 4 month old baby and I can't deal with cat pee. We don't know what to do. We're both thinking it but neither wants to say it.

What options do we have?
- will a rescue take her?
- would she survive as a barn cat? would anyone take her then? (She's never been outside and isn't declawed)
- if I find her a home as an only cat will she take her problems with her?

It's been so tough dealing with this. She's the sweetest little cat, if she didn't have this problem she'd be perfect. She's the best snuggler and has such a baby face.

I need your thoughts, because right now I have a one track mind and I don't know of that's the right decision.
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Old 05.01.2013, 16:55
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Re: Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

If you want a home then get rid of the cat I doubt you can retain an animal that has already developed an unsavioury behaviour.
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Old 05.01.2013, 16:58
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Re: Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

Would letting her outside be an option? We had the same problem - sofa, bed, wardrobes, sometimes several times per day. We also tried everything recommended, but the cat only stopped when we installed the cat flap, so she could come and go as she pleased.
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Would letting her outside be an option? We had the same problem - sofa, bed, wardrobes, sometimes several times per day. We also tried everything recommended, but the cat only stopped when we installed the cat flap, so she could come and go as she pleased.
I'm toying with the idea - the biggest issue is that we live near a really busy road, but have a huge garden that's totally fenced in (she could get out though). The road is what's stopping me.
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Old 05.01.2013, 17:33
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Re: Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

The road shouldnt be a problem, I lived on a main road back home and our cat went out, she had a huge garden to play in so never went near the road.
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Old 05.01.2013, 17:57
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The road shouldnt be a problem, I lived on a main road back home and our cat went out, she had a huge garden to play in so never went near the road.
Do you still have both cats?

Edit: Wrong quote, meant to quote the original post...

Letting one or both out may be the solution to your problem, have just been in a similar situation and outside worked wonderfully.

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Do you still have both cats?

Edit: Wrong quote, meant to quote the original post...

Letting one or both out may be the solution to your problem, have just been in a similar situation and outside worked wonderfully.
Yes we still have both cats. The "bully" wears a bell so the other can hear her coming, but honestly she doesn't even bully her anymore. That stopped a long time ago.
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I'm toying with the idea - the biggest issue is that we live near a really busy road, but have a huge garden that's totally fenced in (she could get out though). The road is what's stopping me.
A fence won't stop a cat. If you have a busy road, don't let your cat roam outside. Your cat is more vulnerable to the dangers facing her than feral felines and outdoor cats.
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Old 05.01.2013, 18:23
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Yes we still have both cats. The "bully" wears a bell so the other can hear her coming, but honestly she doesn't even bully her anymore. That stopped a long time ago.
Try with the Feliway that you can plug in like the mosquito plug ins,,,, or quite simply try letting them both out.
you could try with harnesses if you like, though can imagine it will go like this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature...&v=EsrfeN1lGHs

I truly think letting them out will be the answer for you, otherwise, you may have to think about re-homing her, which while sad, may be for the best in the long run.

Edit:Added the link to Feliway and want to add that it can be changed to English, top right corner.

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What options do we have?
- will a rescue take her?
- would she survive as a barn cat? would anyone take her then? (She's never been outside and isn't declawed)
- if I find her a home as an only cat will she take her problems with her?

It's been so tough dealing with this. She's the sweetest little cat, if she didn't have this problem she'd be perfect. She's the best snuggler and has such a baby face.

I need your thoughts, because right now I have a one track mind and I don't know of that's the right decision.
I really feel for you. Some decisions are tough to make but you have to consider the needs of the humans in your household.

I don't know if the ATS in Untersiggenthal will take her. You will have to ask them directly.
I know cats that had outdoor access who still peed in the house.

Even if the bullying stopped, some behaviour patterns that were learned still stick. Maybe rehoming her where she is the only cat might make a difference, and if she can have outdoor access not to near a busy road, perhaps she will be fine.
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Re: Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

Hi

Some cats pee on furniture to get attention. Did it start again when the baby came? Try to pay some more attention to your cat, play, pet, just talk to her. No guarantee, but simple enough to try...
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Old 05.01.2013, 18:57
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Re: Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

Wow you poor thing.

We have two cats, two brothers and they are 8 months old, Thor and Loki. Loki is the more sensitive one, and we have discovered that stressful situations cause him to pee on the bed, the first being when we went on holiday for a few days and we came back to the bedding being peed on.

He just had an accident this week, but that was the day after the New Years Eve fireworks and we had my german in-laws with us for 12 days....so that stressful situation is totally understandable hehehe

We let both of them out of the house, they have their own cat ladder and door, so they can come and go as they please.

We are going to try the Feliway, as it sounds like it could be a great help.

I do feel for you. My sister had a cat and when my sister got pregnant the cat started urinating in the house. The vet, and this was back in NZ put the cat onto herbal antidepressant pills but unfortunately it didn't work but they managed to find a new home for her (the cat not my sister hehe)

We were away for a weekend a few weeks back, and we locked the bedroom door and put a plastic cover on the couch and covered it with old towels and took all cushions away, and he didn't have an accident so that was a good sign.

I think try the options of allowing the cat outside, and the Feliway and paws crossed they work.
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Re: Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

This is so sad, Janer. I really hope it works out soon.

If you want to try letting your cat outside, you could first have your yard (or a part of it if it is really large) netted over with Katzenschutznetz so that she can roam around while remaining confined to a safe area. I think there are companies that can install it for you. It will come at a price, but certainly less than the cost of replacing further mattresses and so on. The addition of an outdoor cat house might make her feel more comfortable if there are times when she just needs to get away from it all.

Best of luck to you all!
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Re: Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

I, too, feel your pain.

I adopted the cutest girl but she didn't integrate well with my other cats. There was a large rivalry between her and another female I had - mostly evil looks, no blows. For 3 months she peed on everything in the house. Eventually she got "better", but never stopped entirely until the other female died of liver disease

Over the years she would go months without incident and then one day: pee on the couch. I couldn't find anything that would indicate why, but she died (years later - I'm very patient and she had the cutest face) suddenly of heart failure, and I still don't know what caused it.


IF you decide to let one but not the other cat outside, I highly recommend a magnetic cat door. I used one for another cat of mine and it was fantastic. He could come and go as he pleased, but no one else could. This is similar to what I had: http://www.amazon.com/Catwalk-Multi-.../dp/B0016H9GK6

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Old 07.01.2013, 08:47
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Re: Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

While this certainly sounds behavioral, I am surprised no one has mentioned taking your kitty to the vet. Not for prozac, but to check for other problems. Your cat knows your bed is an important place for you, and she's saying as loudly as she can that she needs help. If you haven't already done so, take her in for a check-up. Could be a uti, bladder problems, or something else causing her stress or pain.

Also +1 on the suggestions to let her outside, even if on a leash.

Hope it works out.
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Re: Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

Cat doors that will not let strange cats in is a good idea, we got one too after neighbour's cat discovered he could come in to fight with ours - so a normal cat flap could cause the poor kitty even more stress.

However, we tried to put collars on our cats and they lost one every couple of days. So we got this one:
http://www.sureflap.co.uk/products/d...ochip-cat-flap

Works with microchip so no collar needed, you can register up to 32 cats.
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Cat doors that will not let strange cats in is a good idea, we got one too after neighbour's cat discovered he could come in to fight with ours - so a normal cat flap could cause the poor kitty even more stress.

However, we tried to put collars on our cats and they lost one every couple of days. So we got this one:
http://www.sureflap.co.uk/products/d...ochip-cat-flap

Works with microchip so no collar needed, you can register up to 32 cats.
...a product clearly aimed at all the crazy cat ladies of the world!
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...a product clearly aimed at all the crazy cat ladies of the world!
My thoughts as well
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No 32 is maximum - I promise you don't have to adopt as many for the cat flap to work!
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Re: Heartbroken about my cat, I don't know what to do :(

is she castrated?

pee or spraying has lot of reason in cat. Some of them is not about natural behavior rather is sign for some illness .for example kidney stone

you should do Xray for her & be sure is not because of illness

pet are part of family we can't leave them just for some problem. I know is really bad situation but try to find why she is doing maybe you can stop it

I have a male cat & have same problem with him ,he is usually spray on the wall but it happened some times he did in bed

what I'm doing now let him go out & it help a lot. He walking around garden and spray everywhere (actually he showing his territory by this to another cats)

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