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Re: Time for family cat to go to heaven, should kids attend?

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.....we always buried the pet and usually grew some flowers over the spot. I know that that is not allowed in Switzerland ...
In most Gemeinde it is allowed to bury one's pet weighing less than 10kg in your own garden. It has to be at a depth of at least 1.2m and away from any water sources.
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Old 22.05.2015, 14:50
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Re: Time for family cat to go to heaven, should kids attend?

I would never put a pet of mine in a Communal Pet Bin!! I didn't even know such a thing existed.

They have spent all their lives with us, they deserve respect at the end of their lives like any other member of the family.
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Re: Time for family cat to go to heaven, should kids attend?

Thank you all for taking the time to reply. After careful consideration I have decided to give the kids the choice and will discuss the process with the vet further. interestingly my older one has already said no ( too upsetting) but my younger wants to be with her to the end. I will prepare towels in case she urinates. I will update when it is done, most likely in one week as we want the cremation booked for soon after (as we will transport her ourselves).
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Old 22.05.2015, 20:57
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Re: Time for family cat to go to heaven, should kids attend?

It's great that your vet can come to your house. When i realised that Saturna was dying i rang the SOS Vets people in Geneva. They said that they would not come to my home, i would have to take her to the Vet that was on gard that night.

There was no way my cat was going to die in a taxi driving through geneva at 4 in the morning. I decided that she would stay at home.

She purred until the end, and was comfortable in her bed in her home. That's all i could do for her - just keep her comfy.

My thoughts are with you.

But!! I still can't get over the fact that your cat is 20!! Wonderful. What memories you must have, hold on to them.
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Re: Time for family cat to go to heaven, should kids attend?

We all have different sensibilities and ways of dealing with things, and that is OK. For me, be it with people or animals, the essential thing is to be there for them when alive- what happens afterwards is truly irrelevant. To me that does not show lack of respect at all- when the 'soul and life' has gone- nothing matters. Same for me, when the time comes - my family are instructed to share the saved money from a funeral between a few favourite charities of mine.

But I am so glad we agree that getting the vet to come to your home and avoid the stress of transport and the smell of the vet's, etc- is showing true kindness and love. We knew the time was coming with our Gatsby- and I had talked to the vet and asked if he would come to our home (quite a long way away and across the border) - and he said 'you'll know when the time has come- call me and I'll come over as soon as I can. I sat on her matt with her, her head on my lap, stroking her ears and talking to her- and she didn't know a thing. When it was all over- what happened was irrelevant (large plastic bag and in the back of the van for common cremation, that's ok. She will always be in our heart, and that is what matters). Glad your friend could fall asleep of her own accord with you by her side Patsi- and not suffer the stress of being taken away.

We have quite a bit of land here, and great neighbours- and both Slinky and Pudding (both 16ish- rescues so exact age unknown) will be buried in the field, and a tree planted for each. Gatsby was 42kg- so that was just not appropriate.

Please, do not let her linger- her not suffering for another week is so much more important than what happens after. Thinking of you- such a difficult time.
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Old 23.05.2015, 14:09
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Re: Time for family cat to go to heaven, should kids attend?

Yes it was great that she died in her own home, with me talking to her and stroking her. And that purr, it is still in one of my brain cells!! It's funny, she was fine all day doing her cat things. And all of a sudden around 2 in the morning she had a fit. She died around 5 in the morning. And, never having seen it before, rigor mortis is fast. So, i arranged her body like she was asleep.

The worst was at 8 am. I called the vets, Gata knows them - in St Jean. Great vets. They told me that they could not come and get her.

I did the walk, which usually takes 10 minutes from where i lived, with my dead cat in a banana box wrapped in Geneva bought towels(!! yes they are easily bought). The longest walk in my life.

And i basically threw the box at the vet. And stormed off. (the cute Australian one!!)

I did call later to apologise. But, at the time, after all the money i had paid them for my cats the least they could have done was to come and get her. Two minutes in their car against my walk would have helped with the loss i was going through. Walking down the street on a nice sunny morning with your dead cat in a box crying your eyes out, is something i would not wish on anyone.

That's when they asked me if i wanted an autopsy!! No thank you. She's 16 years old and has died of old age, i don't want her cut open. But i did ask for her ashes, and as i said above - i still have them.

Odile, i wish that i had a garden to be able to bury my beloved pets in, and put a few flowers on there. Unfortunately, most of us live in flats. And i dont think the geranium pots will suffice!!

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Please, do not let her linger- her not suffering for another week is so much more important than what happens after. Thinking of you- such a difficult time.
Yes, what matters is not letting her suffer, if the time has come we shouldn't let our feelings and not wanting to let go take priority over what is best for our pets.

Odile, so sorry for your loss.

Love to the OP and to you too.
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Re: Time for family cat to go to heaven, should kids attend?

Patsycat, I'm sorry for what you had to go through. I would have expected a long term vet to at least offer assistance after-hours, for a fee. Sorry you were left in the lurch like that.

Just a comment for those who know they might soon face this dilemma: Some of the Tierkrematoria will arrange a pick up; it's a good idea to speak to your vet ahead of time and ask about your options. If plans are made to be put into action later, it's often easier than having to organize this at such a difficult time.

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i wish that i had a garden to be able to bury my beloved pets in, and put a few flowers on there. Unfortunately, most of us live in flats. And i dont think the geranium pots will suffice!!
If one wants to have a reminder perhaps consider cremation then bury the ashes. This can be done in a garden or yes, in a pot. A friend created a lovely balcony planter of spring bulbs, evergreens, and perennials, mixing the ashes in the soil. The nice thing about this solution is that she can take the planter with her when she moves.

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