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How to overcome flying phobia?

My OH has an extreme fear of flying. Last time he took the plane (only a 2-hour trip inside Europe) he could not sleep 3 days before the flight, and during the flight he screamed and shouted "we are going to die" just because of a normal turbulence, and he was so scared that the stewardess had to intervene.

His previous long-distance flying was like 20 years go to USA, for which he described "almost died of fear".

What's more, because of him (or maybe also the air accidents these two years), I also start to have some fear of flight.

Now we will take a 9-hour flight. Are there some good methods to relief the scare? I was thinking of several possibilities: lots of alcohol (when you are drunk you are no longer scared?), or go to doctor to have some medicine (like sleeping pills to sleep in the cabin?).

Any advice?
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Old 17.04.2015, 16:24
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

Go to Europa park and ride Silver Star consecutively all day, and you'll he'll never worry about turbulence, again.
The London underground is more turbulent than average air turbulence.

Anyways, flying isn't dangerous ....... only crashing is.


It's irrational to have fear over something of which you have no control. Once you're in the plane your life is in the hands of other people, so just go with it and don't fight it.
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Old 17.04.2015, 16:29
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

Well I wouldn't recommend alcohol - fear and alcohol is not a good mix and if he's that wound up about flying the inhibitions that alcohol makes you lose may not bode well.
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My OH has an extreme fear of flying. Last time he took the plane (only a 2-hour trip inside Europe) he could not sleep 3 days before the flight, and during the flight he screamed and shouted "we are going to die" just because of a normal turbulence, and he was so scared that the stewardess had to intervene.

His previous long-distance flying was like 20 years go to USA, for which he described "almost died of fear".

What's more, because of him (or maybe also the air accidents these two years), I also start to have some fear of flight.

Now we will take a 9-hour flight. Are there some good methods to relief the scare? I was thinking of several possibilities: lots of alcohol (when you are drunk you are no longer scared?), or go to doctor to have some medicine (like sleeping pills to sleep in the cabin?).

Any advice?
Easyjet has a course about that. Im sure its in their webpage somewhere

Edit: http://fearlessflyer.easyjet.com
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Old 17.04.2015, 16:35
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

Ask your GP if a one-time Temesta or Ceresta fix would be an option. Both are benzos, hence prescription medications and should be used with extreme caution.
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Easyjet has a course about that. Im sure its in their webpage somewhere

Edit: http://fearlessflyer.easyjet.com
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My OH has an extreme fear of flying. Last time he took the plane (only a 2-hour trip inside Europe) he could not sleep 3 days before the flight, and during the flight he screamed and shouted "we are going to die" just because of a normal turbulence, and he was so scared that the stewardess had to intervene.

His previous long-distance flying was like 20 years go to USA, for which he described "almost died of fear".

What's more, because of him (or maybe also the air accidents these two years), I also start to have some fear of flight.

Now we will take a 9-hour flight. Are there some good methods to relief the scare? I was thinking of several possibilities: lots of alcohol (when you are drunk you are no longer scared?), or go to doctor to have some medicine (like sleeping pills to sleep in the cabin?).

Any advice?
I also took a pilot's lesson. I realised that if I could keep a plane in the air, a fully trained pilot definitely could.

As Aleydis has suggested ask your doctor for a short acting benzodiazepine. DO NOT mix it with alcohol. Regardless of whether or not your husband takes the medication, as Slaphead has said, do not let your husband drink. It will only reduce any ability he has to reason and would make him more likely to act out on his fear. I say this as someone who is also terrified of flying, but has done over 60,000 miles in the air.
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

Drug him up. Give him a bottle of cough syrup and tell him to chug it down as if was a sports drink.
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

A fear of flying course. Drugs from the doctor. Maybe hypnosis/psychotherapy .... But definitely not alcohol!!
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

I got this phobia few years ago due to a terrible turbulence. What worked for me to overcome it was to fly more frequently. In the beginning, it was really a terrible feeling and I got this horror hunting me during the flight, even if it was just a very short one (1.5 hrs or so). But afterwards, it got better and better, realising that everything is gonna be fine (or at least I start to believe) despite minor or even a big turbulence.
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

Fear of flying is usually a fear of losing control. In airliners you have zero control. From boarding to disembarkation you are sheep. Period. Now flying in airliners can get a little bumpy, but there's genuinely nothing to worry about.

The solution (IMHO) is to take control of the issue and practice. Do you know someone with a PPL (Private Pilot's License)? If not, I'm sure that you have friends of friends who do, or figure out where your local small airfield is. Book a 30 minute slot, just the basics. I'd recommend telling the pilot of the fear issue and having a walk around the airplane, the pilot can explain about the engine, how the flaps work etc. and then just maybe taxiing along for a couple of minutes in the full knowledge that they won't take off.

See how that goes, it's about being in control and if your husband doesn't feel at ease, let it go. Otherwise, take it to the next stage and ask to fly just a single circuit. Your husband can tell the pilot if he wants to return at any time. By allowing your husband to think that he can control the outcome, you're taking away an element on which his fear is based. Repeat as required, building up the point where your husband wants to go, but don't push him along the way, it has to be at his speed.

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The solution (IMHO) is to take control of the issue and practice. Do you know someone with a PPL (Private Pilot's License)? If not, I'm sure that you have friends of friends who do, or figure out where your local small airfield is. Book a 30 minute slot, just the basics. .
This helped me quite a bit
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

Educate yourselves about how flying works.

There are Tons of info on the net. That's what I did. Understand how planes work and fly, know what sounds you hear mean (wheels etc), read the statistics (not the recent ones ) and try to read on websites that deal with the fear of flying.

When you are done, you will probably end up having fear of Cars, Busses and Trains. But you will be OK with Planes.
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Fear of flying is usually a fear of losing control. In airliners you have zero control. From boarding to disembarkation you are sheep. Period. Now flying in airliners can get a little bumpy, but there's genuinely nothing to worry about.
With someone in my family - it's exactly this. They like to be in control -even when they are going by car they like to drive rather than be driven.

They're not going on a plane anytime soon.
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

For some reason some people "confuse" fear of loosing control with fear of dying a terrible death that will take a couple of minutes.

Sometimes the phrase "fear of loosing control" sounds better than "I am afraid I will be falling from the sky for a couple of minutes"!

That explains why they are not afraid to take trains, busses etc. although they are not driving!

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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

I am not a lover of flying as I have got older and I also have a daughter who has a real phobia. I fly most months so I have a little ritual that I do every time
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As mentioned the issue of not being in control is a key thing.

When I book I always select an aisle seat, usually ( with Easyjet) in the middle Row 12/13. They always ask if you are happy to sit there + you have more space. These rows are the emergency exits.
The critical times are take off and landing. I always make sure that I am occupied at these times - I even start chatting to who ever is next to me or engross myself in a crossword/sudoko.
Close your eyes and try to visualise somewhere where you love to be- in the mountains/beach - if the beach, imagine pushing your toes in the sand.

I always comfort myself that I have a BIL who is an Airline Captain and 3 flight attendants in the family who have flown thousands of miles!1
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Old 17.04.2015, 18:30
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His previous long-distance flying was like 20 years go to USA, for which he described "almost died of fear".
I had a bout of this when I've had to fly with loved ones. And then I noticed I had no fear of it at all when I fly by myself.

A therapy suggestion: Have him fly by himself. Before he does, have him write out a last will and testament, and assure him you'll execute it when he's gone. Also, tell him to make peace with everyone he knows and the world. Then maybe he can come to grips with his own mortality, and lose the fear of flying. Just a thought.
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

Working on this issue with a son who developed this fear after the last several major airlines went missing or crashed. He has flow for years but the media does a great job of covering these types of accidents and it only fuels the fear for some. We are working on counseling to help. If your insurance will cover it, it might be worth it. I fly back and forth from Zurich to the United States almost once a month. I hate take offs, landing and anything inbetween, but I get on the plane, say my prayers and know that I am not in control. This is the greatest thing to give up. I wish you success in finding an answer to help. Know that other are on this same journey with fear of flying.
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For some reason some people "confuse" fear of loosing control with fear of dying a terrible death that will take a couple of minutes.

Sometimes the phrase "fear of loosing control" sounds better that "I am afraid I will be falling from the sky for a couple of minutes"!

That explains why they are not afraid to take trains, busses etc. although they are not driving!
For me, my fear of flying is not at all about losing of control, but the fear of death (esp. death in a very tragic way). When I'm in the plane I imagine the scenario where my body is torn in pieces by explosion in the air, or thrown to the mountain...
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Re: How to overcome flying phobia?

Do you worry about getting on a bus or in a car?
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