If you want a soft (or frictionless) borders you need to be in the EU, the single market or the customs union.

If you want to be in the EU, the single market or the customs union you need to agree to free movement.

If you want a say in what the rules are, you need to be in the EU.

Otherwise, hard borders, WTO trade regimes, limited aviation rights, lost manufacturing, lost opportunities, labour shortages (in jobs you wouldn’t do) etc. Lower quality, higher prices.

Isn’t it time to admit defeat realising that you cannot have your cake and eat it too.