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Re: Any good family lawyer for defending fathers in child custody matter?

Basically same advice. A 'friend' of ours was arguing for 50/50, until it was pointed out that he would also need to take time off work to cover 50% of the kids school holidays through the year, and could not just drop the kids back to their mother any time it wasn't convenient for him to look after them. 50/50 means 100% of half.


I assume, by what you say, you do actually have a car. And it is also not unreasonable for each parent to meet half way for handovers.


And how far do you commute for work ?


Right now, her top priority is setting up as stable and supportive environment for work and living as she can for herself and baby. From what has been said, she's focused on getting near the grandparents for extra support.


Have you already agreed on visitation for now and it is substantial ? And if you do agree, don't miss a single appointment, don't be late, and don't make it difficult.


It will be harder for you, especially with such a small baby... but they grow soon enough...certainly by 18 months I'd expect them to sleep over at your place if you have set up regular visitation. You're in this for the long haul... take the long-haul view and do whatever you can to make the effort.
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