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Old 26.01.2011, 11:28
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Re: Why can't people just be happy with a good job & a decent life here?

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I had one like that too, Who complained not having money at all! BUT, travel all around the world 5-6 times per year and being on party most of the time....
Oh yeah, this particular woman has been on several round-the-world cruises.
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Old 26.01.2011, 11:30
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I really can't stand such people---they seriously irritate me to no ends!
Are they worse than someone complaining about someone complaining about someone complaining?
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Old 26.01.2011, 11:33
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Are they worse than someone complaining about someone complaining about someone complaining?

if this trend is to continue, can we perhaps adopt some type of exponential nomenclature. That last post gave me a seizure. Banananana.
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Old 26.01.2011, 12:26
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This thread seems to have turned into a thread complaining about people who complain.
Not turned into. It started out like that, ironically. People do things. It's a fact.
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Old 26.01.2011, 12:31
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Not turned into. It started out like that, ironically. People do things. It's a fact.
It's kind of infectious though isn't it?
I have really tried to not get infected & start complaining about things I can't change. I would have liked to live my whole life in a positive manner but then I moved to Switzerland & contentment takes on a whole new meaning, if I were to disassociate myself from the Swiss I know who complain about anything I would have very few friends so it's a fine line. It just gets on my tits sometimes.
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Old 26.01.2011, 12:51
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Not turned into. It started out like that, ironically. People do things. It's a fact.
Thanks for that insight.
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Old 26.01.2011, 13:34
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Re: Why can't people just be happy with a good job & a decent life here?

I can put up with a bit of complaining as long as people don't overdo it.
Some folks, however, don't know when to stop. I know somebody who has a good job and just got paid a handsome bonus. He's complaining that it's going to be deferred for three years.
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Old 26.01.2011, 13:40
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I can put up with a bit of complaining as long as people don't overdo it.
Some folks, however, don't know when to stop. I know somebody who has a good job and just got paid a handsome bonus. He's complaining that it's going to be deferred for three years.
Unless I don't understand the post correctly ... I would be furious and complain about this for at least 3 years too, oh yes I would.
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Old 26.01.2011, 13:56
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Re: Why can't people just be happy with a good job & a decent life here?

Unfortunately we've all been conditioned to looking for happiness in things/ positions and possessions. And as we're all striving to be and have more, we never feel satisfied with who we are or what we have.

Then we feel bad because we're supposed to be happy with our lot in life. So we read self help books/ see psychologist etc, which don't work as we don't like what we see when we examine ourselves. Its all too hard so we look outside for fullfillment to things and possessions.... and the whole cycle keeps going.

Hence the complaining!
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It's kind of infectious though isn't it?
I have really tried to not get infected & start complaining about things I can't change. I would have liked to live my whole life in a positive manner but then I moved to Switzerland & contentment takes on a whole new meaning, if I were to disassociate myself from the Swiss I know who complain about anything I would have very few friends so it's a fine line. It just gets on my tits sometimes.
I wouldn't say it's infectious. It's just seems normal to always complain. Some people are more content than others, and happiness has been speculated upon for as long as we have been able to think about it. It's like that modest mouse song, "lives:" 'everyone's afraid of their own lives. If you could be anything you'd want, i bet you'd be disappointed, am i right?'

One's circumstances are a lot less important than one's attitude or natural disposition, so i don't think it's fair to try qualify someone's dissatisfaction or habit of complaining as valid or not. Complaining about an allegedly invalid complaint is equivalent to the original complaining.
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Old 26.01.2011, 14:16
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Re: Why can't people just be happy with a good job & a decent life here?

Because the grass is always greener on the other side..

Me for one, i am happy here..lived for 7 years in Ireland and seen my share of green grass, now enjoying the white snow
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Old 26.01.2011, 14:38
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I'm so happy I'm not alone! I have one here in front of me right now, he comes to work everyday with a small cloud over his head, all meetings with him become negative and any initiative seems impossible to be achieved.

I have tried many things like adding plants on my desk and listening to music all the day, colorful screen-saver but I gotta tell you I'm scared to death one day I will be like this after years being poisoned. I'm finding my way out of this.
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Re: Why can't people just be happy with a good job & a decent life here?

Some peoples i guess complain some don t
i have notice the one that complain don t have
serious thing to complain !
I had a very tough childhood and the last years had been
tough two parents died, yes i was very sad but my heart as open
as alway s for others and i could have complain as many more
shit happen,but i Was not complaining.
I guess maybe what keep me strong is all this tough
things in life earlier as a child

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Old 26.01.2011, 17:02
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Some peoples i guess complain some don t
i have notice the one that complain don t have
serious thing to complain !
I had a very touch childhood and the last years had been
tough to person die parents, yes i was very sad but my heart
as alway s for others and i could have complain as many more
shit happen,but i Was not complaining.
I guess maybe what keep me strong is all this tough
things in life earlier as a child
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i do not know what you try to say with your guy who had his head who blow!
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Old 26.01.2011, 17:49
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Because we never, ever feel good enough.
Perfectionist culture. Over responsible. On the other hand, besides all the lecturing on what I could have done better, my local friends are pretty verbal on supporting my achievements. Very methodical. They will point out the shortcomings, cheer for the successes, raise their finger and direct me certain direction, very discretely, without putting themselves in the spotlight, it's refreshing. I do find them a lot more forgiving to an outsider than themselves. And, the closest local soul is one of the most empathic and diplomatic person I have met. I wonder if being self critical (or moaners, trying to see what to improve) might be a sign of humility and modesty. It does get old when you just want to run around a bit, let your hair down, bond over little joys and be spontaneous. One thing is sure, I haven't heard much promoting oneself on our group of colleagues. I love the way people blush here when you compliment them on something they have done really well.

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...I would put it all behind me with a good bout of sleeping around.
Well, there actually are some people who don't treat their petites bobos by promiscuity...

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...if they can't handle a change in schedule and complain if a meeting is rescheduled for a half hour...
You know I have noticed this myself. This almost touchable sentiment of unwillingness. No flexibility, if the schedule changes, if somebody needs a teacher to supervise, the willingness to take a task upon oneself, to stay over in la salle de maitres for a wee bit longer after school to discuss something..Carefully watching how willing others are to help out. No team cohesion, bonding over complaining...I am not sure how local that behavior is, and, there are exceptions. I think it is because people are proud to be told what to do. And they don't want to be seen like they are fishing for a promotion, trying to get ahead of others.
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Old 26.01.2011, 17:50
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He just wrote his Skype mood as: Leben heisst für mich, mehr Träume in meiner Seele zu haben als Realität zerstören kann.. FFS, life goes on.
I know, I like being tragic only when I am doing it for fun, or to annoy someone but not on a regular basis...I also can not stand people that dwell over stuff like that, I had a friend who was still saying her ex boyfriend loved her but he had had to break up with her two years ago...but when she saw him she saw it in his eyes FFS get a life a move on! THe guy married someone else a year later... cheesus!
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Old 26.01.2011, 17:55
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I know, I like being tragic only when I am doing it for fun, or to annoy someone but not on a regular basis...I also can not stand people that dwell over stuff like that, I had a friend who was still saying her ex boyfriend loved her but he had had to break up with her two years ago...but when she saw him she saw it in his eyes FFS get a life a move on! THe guy married someone else a year later... cheesus!
Yeah..true love. He loved her deeply indeed, if he got married with someone else a year later... .
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Yeah..true love. He loved her deeply indeed, if he got married with someone else a year later... .
Yeah but what could I tell her besides "look looser get a life, he has moved on"...then they call me insensitive
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Yeah but what could I tell her besides "look looser get a life, he has moved on"...then they call me insensitive
True. But sometimes, some people, need a hard slap on their face to wake up so they can see the reality, instead of dreaming on AND complaining.
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