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Old 22.05.2011, 22:22
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My fiance and I live together. She attends Law school. So we are 3 days at a certain spot and 4 days at another. Due to the distance of 1 place or another we have this agreement until she finishes which is in january. We have all the proof and so forth.
What is keeping you from staying 7 days at the other spot?

You are not on the lease agreement, if you are there 3 - 4 days a week EVERY week, you are not a visitor... stay at your own place and be happy when your sweetie is with you on the days she can stay there too.
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Old 22.05.2011, 22:40
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Re: Crazy insane Roommate

Why don't you and your fiance just get a flat together? Life is too short.

I must admit I found your OP a little confusing. Are you actually a proper resident in this flat? Or do you just sleep over with your boyfriend a few nights a week?

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Old 23.05.2011, 10:56
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Re: Crazy insane Roommate

I will keep my opinions on these "life coaches" to myself.

However, obviously its your fault for choosing to live with such a person, therefore you should move asap.
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Old 23.05.2011, 11:10
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Get a life!
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My new roommate has gone insane. We are talking more then bi polar disease.
Really. More than Bi-polar, eh?
I assume therefore you have had sufficient experience of this dreadful disease to make such a pronouncement?
Because if like me, you have any f'ing clue whatsoever about caring for a friend for two weeks in your own flat who is having an serious BP episode & then having to get them certified & watch them pick up the pieces of their life again for the 4th or 5th time in a decade, then you would think very carefully about flinging the term about flippantly, wouldn't you?
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Old 23.05.2011, 12:26
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Re: Crazy insane Roommate

pmarins, Chatting with people here is not helping you to move forward with your problem. Here are some links that may be helpful to you, regarding the laws and rights of tenants in Switzerland:

http://www.gerichte-zh.ch/themen/mie...mietdepot.html


http://www.hev-zh.ch/recht-steuern/schlichtungsstellen/

http://www.sz.ch/xml_1/internet/de/a...681/p24184.cfm
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Old 23.05.2011, 15:40
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Hi Pmartins,
When you post on this forum either complaining or asking for help, the last thing you want to read is `Get a life` or `live with it` - unfortunately that is what you often get. Okay, often it may be justified, especially with `Help, where can I get 4-ply luxury toilet paper on a Sunday!!`.
What you have to remember is that when you post an article of that nature, the following things happen:
a)Your profile is scrutinized to find out if you are either a bullshitter, or a hypocrite. . or both!
b)Your previous posts are then scrutinized to find out if you are a serial whinger or a hypocrite . . . or both!
c)Finally, the posting itself is scrutinized for correct grammar/interpretation . . . which is unfortunate as there are many for whom English is not their native language and so a bad adjective or misplaced comma can change the intended meaning.

I do sort of sympathise with you because I think there is a genuine grievance there but unfortunately it’s sort of lost in amongst the personal comments you made about the flat mate.
It seems to me that your opening words have a big influence on the situation `My new roommate. . `.
From what I understand, she is not YOUR roommate but she is the roommate of your partner.
Her name is on the rental agreement and yours is not – that does give her more rights than you I’m afraid.
You say that she has recently split with her partner and that could also be a major issue as she may have seen your 3 nights per week as tolerable at the time – but now she has no partner, she may find your happy relationship very uncomfortable for her.
Then small issues can get magnified out of all proportion.
With the issue of stealing, I think you do have a genuine grievance.
I’m not sure what happened with the key because in one post you say you lost it and then later you say it was stolen (presumably by the flat mate).
If she has got it, then getting another one cut would not solve the issue, as she could still get in. Then your partner would have to get permission to change the lock – I guess that would be at your expense.
I would challenge her outright and ask `Do you have the key, yes or no?` I would not be surprised to find that the key mysteriously re-appears soon after that.
If she is leaving anyway in the summer, maybe it would be best for all, if you stayed away for a few weeks (as was suggested).
Also. As JFD134 suggested, you have to be more discrete when discussing other people’s medical conditions.
For what it’s worth – I do agree with you that being a life coach has no relevance in this issue.
It’s not uncommon for people sharing flats to have to go into each other’s rooms from time to time. Especially if windows are open and there is a storm coming but more often if you’ve got a good level of trust with each other. Unfortunately for you, it seems the trust has been lost.
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Old 23.05.2011, 16:00
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You're a life coach and you're asking us?
Actually what I found equally confusing was the first half of the occupation:
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Old 23.05.2011, 18:33
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Nicola,

Until you have your key from your room stolen from the apartment while you are taking a shower. Items in your room stolen and now a notice from the Landlord saying that The contract is broken. She is trying to leave the apartment without paying fees. The rule of thumb is until she finds someone to replace and my fiance approves. Her parents wont let her move because she has to pay for the summer rent. So they wont let her move out. So she figures to complain saying the situation for her is unlivable. That is a red flag in the contract where she has agreed and signed for visitors. She complained to get the Contract torn up and she goes away a free bird
Wait? She wants to leave but you wont' let her because she won't pay her fees??? If I were you I'd tell her to get out & not worry about the fees. But anyway, if her parents won't let her move out, I think you & your girlfriend should move out, obvio.
In the meantime, change the lock on you bedroom door.
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Old 23.05.2011, 18:36
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That's easy for you to say.

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Hi Pmartins,
When you post on this forum either complaining or asking for help, the last thing you want to read is `Get a life` or `live with it` - unfortunately that is what you often get. Okay, often it may be justified, especially with `Help, where can I get 4-ply luxury toilet paper on a Sunday!!`.
What you have to remember is that when you post an article of that nature, the following things happen:
a)Your profile is scrutinized to find out if you are either a bullshitter, or a hypocrite. . or both!
b)Your previous posts are then scrutinized to find out if you are a serial whinger or a hypocrite . . . or both!
c)Finally, the posting itself is scrutinized for correct grammar/interpretation . . . which is unfortunate as there are many for whom English is not their native language and so a bad adjective or misplaced comma can change the intended meaning.

I do sort of sympathise with you because I think there is a genuine grievance there but unfortunately it’s sort of lost in amongst the personal comments you made about the flat mate.
It seems to me that your opening words have a big influence on the situation `My new roommate. . `.
From what I understand, she is not YOUR roommate but she is the roommate of your partner.
Her name is on the rental agreement and yours is not – that does give her more rights than you I’m afraid.
You say that she has recently split with her partner and that could also be a major issue as she may have seen your 3 nights per week as tolerable at the time – but now she has no partner, she may find your happy relationship very uncomfortable for her.
Then small issues can get magnified out of all proportion.
With the issue of stealing, I think you do have a genuine grievance.
I’m not sure what happened with the key because in one post you say you lost it and then later you say it was stolen (presumably by the flat mate).
If she has got it, then getting another one cut would not solve the issue, as she could still get in. Then your partner would have to get permission to change the lock – I guess that would be at your expense.
I would challenge her outright and ask `Do you have the key, yes or no?` I would not be surprised to find that the key mysteriously re-appears soon after that.
If she is leaving anyway in the summer, maybe it would be best for all, if you stayed away for a few weeks (as was suggested).
Also. As JFD134 suggested, you have to be more discrete when discussing other people’s medical conditions.
For what it’s worth – I do agree with you that being a life coach has no relevance in this issue.
It’s not uncommon for people sharing flats to have to go into each other’s rooms from time to time. Especially if windows are open and there is a storm coming but more often if you’ve got a good level of trust with each other. Unfortunately for you, it seems the trust has been lost.
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Old 23.05.2011, 18:48
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its better you move out or keep cops informed about this behaviour,, if she's really crazy then she might end up doing something and you can be in more trouble,,
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Old 23.05.2011, 18:50
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Re: Crazy insane Roommate

For what it's worth, I've had a roommate in the past whose girlfriend started living with us. I let it go for the first month or two, spoke to him about it after that, and after about 3 or 4 months (which, IMHO, is already quite patient) told him and her both that either my share of the rent goes down to 1/3 overall, or they start spending half their time at her place. So I'm actually more inclined towards sympathy to the roommate.

You really need to consider whether the amount of time your spending there constitutes visiting or living, and then reassess your situation.
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Old 23.05.2011, 19:34
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Re: Crazy insane Roommate

If there's something that makes me VERY MAD is when people accuse others of being "insane" "untrustworthy" or whatever, just because they're on medication.

Anyway, about your problem: since you're oh so annoyed by this "crazy" person, then just don't go to that flat! Stay at your own house and your fiance can go there, if he wants to. Seems like the problem might be that you're staying over too often without paying rent...

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Old 23.05.2011, 20:06
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If there's something that makes me VERY MAD is when people accuse others of being "insane" "untrustworthy" or whatever, just because they're on medication.
Anyway, about your problem: since you're oh so annoyed by this "crazy" person, then just don't go to that flat! Stay at your own house and your fiance can go there, if he wants to. Seems like the problem might be that you're staying over too often without paying rent...

You wrote what I wanted to write also...
And calling someone ''insane '' (in this case) is really hurtful for that person.
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Old 24.05.2011, 10:36
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Very easy mate . . .
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there you have it
What should I do?


Pretend that she live the hause (especially if she has no cotract) or find a new solution for yourself

maybe this is an alarm that she is becoming totally crazy
...and one day you will be not able to mage the situation

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please close this thread and delete it thanks
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Sadly it doesn't work like this.

The thread can be close if the mods feel like it should, but it can't be deleted.
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Sadly it doesn't work like this.

The thread can be close if the mods feel like it should, but it can't be deleted.
Yep!
This is the internet. Nothing is EVER deleted. Not really.

When in doubt, don't post. It does save a great deal of grief.
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thanks nil

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