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Am I too sensitive?

I just need to get this of my chest.

3 of my individual friends met through me. We got together , the 4 of us, 2x before I left for Switzerland.

Of course it is not their fault that I left, and it is a free world after all but it really really hurts me seeing them on facebook, having fun conversations on where their next outing will take them, some posts even having 55 responses but in the meanwhile 2 of them don't even respond to my facebook posts.

I know , it is childish, I am a grown up and should not be jealous but still, it hurts...
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Old 29.08.2011, 13:47
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Re: Am I too sensitive?

In a word. Yes.
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Old 29.08.2011, 13:50
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Re: Am I too sensitive?

Yes...probably I am.....Though week with my mom's Birthday coming up , she past 10 months ago...

So I will just hide indoors this week, feeling sorry for myself and next week will pick myself up again.
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Re: Am I too sensitive?

I think it's completely natural for you to feel hurt and "left out." I'm sure that I would, too.

Just be sure that you don't let it turn to resentful jealousy. Your friends probably aren't purposefully ignoring you. They may just feel a bit disconnected from you and probably also a bit bad that they can't include you in some of their conversations because you're not there with them.

So I don't think you're being too sensitive at all. Besides, what kind of friend would YOU be if you did NOT care?

Hope things get better... I know all too well how difficult it can be to maintain good friendships at long distances.

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Have we dated....?
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I just need to get this of my chest.

3 of my individual friends met through me. We got together , the 4 of us, 2x before I left for Switzerland.

Of course it is not their fault that I left, and it is a free world after all but it really really hurts me seeing them on facebook, having fun conversations on where their next outing will take them, some posts even having 55 responses but in the meanwhile 2 of them don't even respond to my facebook posts.

I know , it is childish, I am a grown up and should not be jealous but still, it hurts...
actually, they may not have even seen your posts. facebook uses an algorithm that selective hides posts based on what it thinks is most relevant to you.
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actually, they may not have even seen your posts. facebook uses an algorithm that selective hides posts based on what it thinks is most relevant to you.
I wrote on their wall
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Re: Am I too sensitive?

aww I think it is natural to feel extra sensitive around this time, since it is close to your mom`s bday. I`m sure they didnt do it on purpose. Just a thought, have you guys talk about your move to Switzerland? It could be that they feel you left them behind.

If you guys are close friends then distance shouldnt make things different. My close friends are all scattered but we make the effort to remain close and see each other whenever it is possible.

My condolences about your mother...
Try to think of happy times! and perhaps treating yourself to something nice or something you love would help to lift your mood.
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Old 29.08.2011, 14:16
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Re: Am I too sensitive?

Don't feel bad about your sensitivity. It's perfectly okay to feel the way you do and which, can often be exacerbated by other factors as well - such as in your case, your late Mom's upcoming birthday...

Have you tried privately messaging or even calling said friends and letting them know how you feel?
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Re: Am I too sensitive?

Well, maybe this is all the more reason for you to get out and make new friends here.
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Of course it is not their fault that I left, and it is a free world after all but it really really hurts me seeing them on facebook, having fun conversations on where their next outing will take them, some posts even having 55 responses but in the meanwhile 2 of them don't even respond to my facebook posts.
technology is interesting. an insight into the mind of woman. what is significant enough to count responses and make a thread on EF would probably not even register with a guy.

no wonder i go upsetting girls all the time.

girl === over-sensitive.
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Re: Am I too sensitive?

Yes we talked, and as this is not the first time we left.....we know the deal. I am sure I am just being too sensitive, it was a though year with all that happened and with her Birthday coming up and after that the day of her passing I am just in a funk....I know myself, better not react/response when in this mood because I might lash out to them and they can't help it.
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technology is interesting. an insight into the mind of woman. what is significant enough to count responses and make a thread on EF would probably not even register with a guy.

no wonder i go upsetting girls all the time.

girl === over-sensitive.
Okay, first time I smiled today..... you are right but can't really say that
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technology is interesting. an insight into the mind of woman. what is significant enough to count responses and make a thread on EF would probably not even register with a guy.

no wonder i go upsetting girls all the time.

girl === over-sensitive.
We can't help it. It's wired into our biology. This is why we carry the babies and men don't.

A quote I love:

"Woman is the eternal savior of Man."

(Can't remember who said it, though.)
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technology is interesting. an insight into the mind of woman. what is significant enough to count responses and make a thread on EF would probably not even register with a guy.

no wonder i go upsetting girls all the time.

girl === over-sensitive.
Good job I'm immune then eh?!

Especially after posting on your FB wall and being ignored. Hehe!
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Yes we talked, and as this is not the first time we left.....we know the deal. I am sure I am just being too sensitive, it was a though year with all that happened and with her Birthday coming up and after that the day of her passing I am just in a funk....I know myself, better not react/response when in this mood because I might lash out to them and they can't help it.
Sweetheart... as much as I know it's probably tempting to stay inside and dwell on how you're feeling, what you REALLY need to do is get out and find something to take your mind off of things. Go to the museum or for a walk near the water... look at something beautiful and inspiring. And above all, know that your mother is still with you "in spirit." She would want you to be happy rather than to be feeling to like this...

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Sweetheart... as much as I know it's probably tempting to stay inside and dwell on how you're feeling, what you REALLY need to do is get out and find something to take your mind off of things. Go to the museum or for a walk near the water... look at something beautiful and inspiring. And above all, know that your mother is still with you "in spirit." She would want you to be happy rather than to be feeling to like this...

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Stop making me cry!!!! No thank you! Luckily with 4 kids I can't stay indoors and dwell.....So soon we are off again, picking them up, tomorrow playgroup...I will keep on doing those things, I know I have to and I will, but there are days like today that it takes a lot of effort and stupid things like facebook messages become a big deal....SIGH....
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Yes we talked, and as this is not the first time we left.....we know the deal. I am sure I am just being too sensitive, it was a though year with all that happened and with her Birthday coming up and after that the day of her passing I am just in a funk....I know myself, better not react/response when in this mood because I might lash out to them and they can't help it.
You've acknowledged how you are feeling and that's a great starting point to working it through and as you quite rightly say, best done from a position of not lashing out at others.
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