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I hope the females will forgive me for saying this but...you definitely should let your friend know that you were so excited and made plans ect. and you were disappointed that he cancelled on you (guilt trip). Then if he insists that he really wanted to but becasue of his girlfriend, the plan was changed. Now this is when you should tell him (maybe jokingly but half serious) to grow some balls.
I hope we don't need to give detail instruction on how to

But honestly, have you laid out money for all the arrangement and if you have and lost money because of it, you definitely have to tell him about it. I hate to say this but as a bloke, these type of "detail" things might escape him. he might not do anything about it and probably won't reimburse you for it but he should be told, so he can be more considerate and mature; we hope after this incident.

As to you being home sick, how about come out for a drink or meet up for a quick lunch at weekend? a change of routine help to break the boredom. Happy to arrange something with you and others to do something different at weekend!
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Old 07.09.2011, 16:42
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Re: Snub response

Ah, I see the mistake. You were thinking on behalf of someone else that didn't quite share your same basic settings or attitudes. Annoying that, I do it all the time.

I've been trying to get people to convert to my way of thinking on here too, but it's a thankless task. Much like cutting the grass with a pair of nail clippers.
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Old 07.09.2011, 16:49
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Re: Snub response

Girl invites male friend that she hasn't seen for many years* to visit and he arranges to come with his girlfriend/wife and see you and then cancels. Likely cause:

a) he got a better offer
b) his girlfriend /wife was making jealous noises

Either way, these things happen so don´t fret about it.

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* was there ever romantic relationship between you six or more years ago ? If so then (b) almost certainly applies.
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Old 07.09.2011, 16:57
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Life is too short to keep people in your life who aren't exactly that much into you. As much as you are into them.

Plus, guys can't multitask, can they..
Let it be, he's got another agenda, maybe you will hear from him, and you might also have another agenda. Now, go and hang out with a really nice buddy. Why dwell on grudge.
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Old 07.09.2011, 17:02
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Re: Snub response

Looking at it from their point of view could be like this:

We haven't seen either friend for years but don't have time to stay with both.
We can keep in touch with our friend in Schaffhausen as we have connected up on Facebook.
We really want to see the Alps as they are something really special that we cannot see at home.
Schaffhausen may be nice but it doesn't sound unique.
Therefore we will stay with our friend in the Alps.

Try to meet up with them where they are staying. You may get new friends in Switzerland into the bargain
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Old 07.09.2011, 17:11
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Girl invites male friend that she hasn't seen for many years*

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* was there ever romantic relationship between you six or more years ago ? If so then (b) almost certainly applies.
Pssst... Squidmonkey's a dude.



Not saying you're wrong with your idea. There's nothing wrong with that sort of thing; even in Australia. Just that he's a he.
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Re: Snub response

No man would make such a fuss.

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Not saying you're wrong with your idea. There's nothing wrong with that sort of thing, even in Australia. Just that he's a he.
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Old 07.09.2011, 17:18
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Oops...ok. So, clearly not question of potential multitasking.
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Old 07.09.2011, 18:55
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Re: Snub response

This kind of thread (and discussion in real life) always reminds me of this:

When a man loves a woman
Can’t keep his mind on nothin’ else
He’d trade the world
For a good thing he’s found
If she is bad, he can’t see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he puts her down

It's a no win situation, always has been always will be....



You're not the one keeping him happy, so he'll never choose you or anybody else over his lady.
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I wasn't too sure where to put this thread but this seems to be where the disgruntled post so I thought I'd plug it here.

Ok so I like a few of us on this forum am quite homesick so it was to my delight when I heard that a old work mate and really good friend of mine whom I lost contact with for 6 years (he hates facebook) was coming to Europe and was even swinging by CH to visit this weekend.

I must say I was very much looking forward to showing one of my mates around Schaffhausen, gummi boat on the Rhine, munot etc. Australia is a long way and Its not often that my mates get the chance to come to Europe let alone Switzerland. So after organizing accommodation and activities I chatted to him on the phone yesterday and it turns out that his woman decided that she wants to spend the time in the mountains with one of her old friends that she lost contact with so they wont have time to drop by let alone stay.

To my surprise this has really pissed me off. I'm not really sure what my response should be. It could be anything from nothing and complete indifference to deleting his partner from my facebook and give him a piece of my mind and ending the friendship (yes she has it only recently added).

Why did I post here, I'm not sure, however it would be interesting to get an outside point of view, especially from female posters.
I guess men have their priorities...

sex > bromance....

unless you can offer him both
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Women.
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Why did I post here, I'm not sure, however it would be interesting to get an outside point of view, especially from female posters.
So what's the latest? ... You know how we are,
we're always so damn curious how things turned out at the end and so on ...
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