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Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

Is it a sensible thing to do?
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

No.

Teaching children to be cautious around strangers, on the other hand, is.
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

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Teaching children to be cautious around strangers, on the other hand, is.
what about being cautious around extended family (uncles, aunts etc.)?
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

I would say fear takes away (or at least impairs) a child's ability to judge a person. Fear becomes the default reaction.

Caution forces them to think about the situation for themselves and therefore equips them better for a larger range of situations, extended family included.
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what about being cautious around extended family (uncles, aunts etc.)?
The basic principles of 'stranger danger' apply to all adults, whether they are the child's relatives, teachers, family friends or some random bloke in the street.
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Old 12.09.2011, 18:17
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

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The basic principles of 'stranger danger' apply to all adults, whether they are the child's relatives, teachers, family friends or some random bloke in the street.
And particularly members of ex-pat internet forums.
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

It's hard to answer because I think there are so many different levels of fear.

This thread reminds me of a wee chat my husband and I had the other day. He noticed that kids here seem to greet passersby quite regularly compared to the UK and Canada (where we've previously lived). I find that too.

His thought was that elsewhere, kids are taught to fear strangers. It does make me wonder if teaching kids to fear strangers prevents them from participating in the simple smiles and "hellos" that I think make the world a nicer place to be.
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

I teach my kids to be wary of strangers and the usual don't walk of with them, they now know that if mummy is there and talking to somebody then they can say hello too, however I have noticed that my 2 and a half year old is a lot warier than my 6 year old. My oldest (whether it is because of her learning difficulties or not) says hello to absolutely everyone she meets and I have to be wary as she is more likely to walk of with someone without a hesitation and has been like that since she could talk, whilst my youngest looks at them as if gauging if she should say hello or not. I think that the fear/wariness thing has a lot to do with the child as much as parents teaching them.
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

When I have kids they will be taught to always be with more than 1 person.
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

Teaching children to fear strangers will result in an inordinate amount of fear for them as we can be surrounded by many more strangers than acquaintances, friends, and family in the course of a single day (or even hour). Why not teach children to be aware of their surroundings at all times and to act quickly, decisively, and appropriately when a stranger's behavior crosses the line and makes them uncomfortable? That way, strangers are given the benefit of the doubt, which 99% of them deserve.

You eventually have to let your kid go to a public washroom on his or her own, and you don't want him or her to be burdened with anxiety about it.
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

I suspect that statistically, children are hurt more by people they know and trust (ie: the adults in their lives) than by strangers. It is the same for women.

There is a principal in family counselling that you can better protect your children through your relationship with them. Be close to your kids. Let them know they can talk to you and listen to them when they do.

The greatest protective factor in any child's life is one caring adult.
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

It isn't just strangers that kids need to be aware of. They are more likely to be hurt by someone they know. Instead of installing a fear of all strangers I believe in teaching about what's appropriate, what parts are private and that secrets should never be shared with an adult.
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Re: Teaching Children to Fear Strangers

well, the thing that made me start this thread was the 'fear of dogs' thread.

i kinda thought it was stupid to worry about children fearing dogs, when we quite often instil in them a fear of people, which potentially could have a much bigger negative influence on their lives.
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You eventually have to let your kid go to a public washroom on his or her own, and you don't want him or her to be burdened with anxiety about it.
Do people worry about this? Even if they are standing outside waiting?

I look forward to the day I can let my son go and have a wee in a public toilet without me or daddy having to accompany him there.

Currently we have to go with him to stop him spending half an hour messing about with the soap dispenser and hand-dryer. Never thought about dodgy people being in there...
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