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Old 16.06.2012, 18:04
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Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

I was at a dinner recently where a guy known to the group brought his new girlfriend and introduced her profession as a Life Coach. She looked to be in her late 20's, maybe early 30's so it got my curiosity up to know what qualified her to be a Life Coach to others'. I was thinking certainly she must have already accomplished some amazing things to be qualified to coach others and get paid for her services at a relatively young age.

I've often wondered this about people who I see in ads or articles about them being a Life Coach but I've never spoken to one. So I asked her to tell some of the things she's done or accomplished that led her to become a professional Life Coach. She proceeded to give a bunch of vague answers about being a good person and having found herself and thought she could help others. She doesn't have a degree in Psychology or a related field, has never worked even as a counselor for say alcoholics or in shelters and doesn't have any type of a degree at all. When I asked for more details about what happened to lead her to that conclusion the conversation died out and they walked away to another group.

Later I was told the guy complained what a jerk I was and that I was very rude to have embarrassed his girlfriend in front of others. 2 others who were there at the time this happened told me I didn't come across as sarcastic or talking down to her and they thought it was strange the answers she gave.

Does anyone know a Life Coach and do they consider it rude to ask them such questions?
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Old 16.06.2012, 18:11
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

No not rude at all, seems you unerved her with all your questions but they were valid. I have recently heard she is going to work on a lifeboat
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Old 16.06.2012, 18:17
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

Not rude at all. Too many people out there pretend to be something they have no idea about. What is a life coach anyway? I'm a mother ..there..I'm a life coach
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

"life coach" where I come from is code for "younger woman who is angling to become a much older man's second wife".
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Old 16.06.2012, 18:21
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

Life coach = license to print money
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Old 16.06.2012, 18:23
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"life coach" where I come from is code for "younger woman who is angling to become a much older man's second wife".
Where I come from it just translates to "I sucker stupid people out of their money." But I admit, the two definitions have similarities.
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Does anyone know a Life Coach and do they consider it rude to ask them such questions?
I wish I knew some, so I could ask :-).
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Old 16.06.2012, 18:49
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

I know one but she has a degree in psychology
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Old 16.06.2012, 18:54
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

nah, i think that it is good for them. there's an awful lot of people who are sustainability consultants or life coaches or blah blah blah for places here and when what exactly they do or who exactly they help is questioned, the flimsiness of their field is evident.
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Old 16.06.2012, 19:11
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I know one but she has a degree in psychology
I'm not totally sure that's an improvement.
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

Absolutely not rude - especially as she purports to be able to coach people in difficult situations, so the skill of leading a potentially controversial communication should be right down her alley. If she cannot handle that, well...

A friend of mine advises graduates on career and personal decisions, but she has a degree in psychology and one in philosophy, has years of (other) job experience, runs a business - and a family. Such a person, you can trust to ask the right questions and help you find good answers. Someone who cannot even answer questions relating to herself is not a good choice.

Don't let anyone tell you that interest in others is a bad thing, just because it exposes their weaknesses.

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Old 16.06.2012, 19:25
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Where I come from it just translates to "I sucker stupid people out of their money." But I admit, the two definitions have similarities.
Yes, the bold part are the similarities.

If you stick your head out and sell yourself as a coach do you have to be able to deal with potential customers asking valid questions. If you cannot answer why somebody should hire you is your business model not that good...
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Old 16.06.2012, 20:14
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

It is a great shame that the overall tone towards life coaches is negative. Some people would really benefit from having somebody straighten out a few things in their life and a good life coach could help. But anybody can setup as a life coach with no relevant skills and this is the problem.

A good life coach is there to advise you and give you feedback on your situation and help you realise that you have all the answers and help you on your way. Unfortunately the couple of life coaches that I know fail to realise this and are too busy caught up in the 'I'm a life coach' mindset of 'I know everything, together we can fix the world'.

To the OP - well done, a few well aimed questions never hurt anybody.
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Old 16.06.2012, 20:16
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I know one but she has a degree in psychology
I don't think this helps, my ex-wife has a psychology degree and she is the last person I would recommend to give advice. We get on well so it really isn't sour grapes, I don't think any degree or qualification actually helps.
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Old 17.06.2012, 01:18
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I was at a dinner recently where a guy known to the group brought his new girlfriend and introduced her profession as a Life Coach. She looked to be in her late 20's, maybe early 30's so it got my curiosity up to know what qualified her to be a Life Coach to others'. I was thinking certainly she must have already accomplished some amazing things to be qualified to coach others and get paid for her services at a relatively young age.

I've often wondered this about people who I see in ads or articles about them being a Life Coach but I've never spoken to one. So I asked her to tell some of the things she's done or accomplished that led her to become a professional Life Coach. She proceeded to give a bunch of vague answers about being a good person and having found herself and thought she could help others. She doesn't have a degree in Psychology or a related field, has never worked even as a counselor for say alcoholics or in shelters and doesn't have any type of a degree at all. When I asked for more details about what happened to lead her to that conclusion the conversation died out and they walked away to another group.

Later I was told the guy complained what a jerk I was and that I was very rude to have embarrassed his girlfriend in front of others. 2 others who were there at the time this happened told me I didn't come across as sarcastic or talking down to her and they thought it was strange the answers she gave.

Does anyone know a Life Coach and do they consider it rude to ask them such questions?
I my book, you did nothing wrong...but I'm suspecting, that we both "suffer" from having similar ways of talking to people...and at times, said people, especially those with massive sticks up their rear end take it the wrong way and get offended.

On the topic of life coaches, I find that this recently emerged to be one of those trendy professions (along with zumba instructors, distance learning educators, dog walkers etc.)...where people can easily obtain certifications and basically just feed of the hype that modern media and Hollywood are constantly bombarding us with....but thankfully, not everybody falls for the Rayban and Uggs boots wearing, Ipod and Decaf-doubleshot espresso-fruity-mocha-frappucino carrying expectations that some overly flamboyant metro/homosexual is currently having in store for the gullible.
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Old 17.06.2012, 01:19
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

This is probably me being a miserable old sod and trying to drag this into politics (sorry), but I thought something similar about young members of parliament/representatives here in CH.

Why should I vote (not that I can) for anyone who has never had a 'real' job, I guess the counter-argument is that they bring a breath of fresh air to the collective and represent that amorphous group 'the young', but really, how have you earned the right to represent the electorate?
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

"Life Coach" is not a Certification or Professional designation, unlike a Lawyer / Surgeon / Accountant / Engineer... in that sense it is fair for anyone to print up a business card and call themselves a coach or a healer or holistic whatever.

If I was going to hire one, i would certainly feel entitled to ask some pointed questions. Asking them at a social event, (particularly when they embarrass themselves with vague answers..) well that may or may not go down so well.
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Re: Was I rude to ask a Life Coach why they were qualified for the job? ?

I'm not going to vigorously defend life coaches, but from what I know they don't profess to have more wisdom than ordinary folk, which the OP's questions seem to suggest was the belief. They encourage people to address and resolve their 'issues' by approaching them systematically, breaking them down into manageable steps. So coaching is more about getting people to solve their own problems by looking at them differently. Nothing to do with being given a set of instructions or answers.

This is how it was once explained to me, anyway.

The name "life coach" is a bit crass and probably causes the misconception. Maybe mentoring might be better? Without wanting to defend the lady at the party, I suspect she might be a bit fed up being asked the same sort of misconceived questions?

Or maybe she really is a chancer!
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They encourage people to address and resolve their 'issues' by approaching them systematically, breaking them down into manageable steps. So coaching is more about getting people to solve their own problems by looking at them differently. Nothing to do with being given a set of instructions or answers.
So basically, a diet version of a psychologist without a degree?
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So basically, a diet version of a psychologist without a degree?
Quite possibly, yes! Though I guess that like psychologists / psychiatrists, you get good ones and bad ones.
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