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size means nothing...... you just need to know where to put 1 or 2 fingers and he will be on the floor in seconds
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Sutter, Im so sorry to read that and so angry at the same time. You should def. call the police and make a serious report about it, its violence and should not be tolerated. Im a 1.50m tall little lady, but if someone ever hurts my little boys I would make some serious damage.
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Make sure first you are not overreacting.

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Tried that as soon as my daughter came home crying ...
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... my son was to scared to go and ask for it back, so my daughter and her friend weht over rang the bell and asked for it back he was standing near my daughter to give the ball back to her instead he threw it hard at her head making her cry:
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So unless there is no direct witness and/or no hitting marks, you weaken your position for free if you use your weapons right out of madness.

Try first to figure out if he really is dangerous (might be a village histeria and children's fear is not always rational at all) and if it couldn't be that your and the neighbors' kids make life in that village unbearable. True that in CH children are relatively free as everybody knows they have a hard time at school e.g., but there is a limit, and you simply cannot say "It's just kids and 19 p.m.".


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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

Hopefully the child is not too upset nor hurt and can brush it off as the actions of a stupid man.

Hopefully the child doesn't learn violence is the answer to this problem as many posters here seem to suggest.
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Old 22.06.2012, 22:53
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

Rang the police they are the way hubby disappeared.
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I felt like hitting him but he his a very big man towers over me : Eek: all the kids are scared of him: Msnmad:



I agree i wanted to but my huby said no


Good for you, if this would of been in the UK i would of called the police got it sorted and him warned, but hubby says they wont do anything here: Confused:: Confused:
You poor thing, what an assh*le. I would call the police, and I really do think that they will do something, he attacked your daughter, a grown man, deliberately hits your kid with a football. This is a violent act, they will definitely take action. And maybe that is all that the village bully needs, a bully with authority!
It is also important that you report this in case of any future violence or abuse.

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even my swiss hubby said he would call the police.....
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Rang the police they are the way hubby disappeared.
they are on the way??
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

I'd agree that getting the Police involved is the right thing to do.

If today he's hurting your child and gets away with it, tomorrow he'll be hurting someone else's child.
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Rang the police they are the way hubby disappeared.
I hope everything is ok....
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Rang the police they are the way hubby disappeared.
What did the police say?

If your daughter had been seriously injured, (I know someone who got a ball in the face and got a broken nose) and I am glad she was not, the police would without a doubt be involved.

There is no justification for what he did and he obviously has a problem.
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

This man should be put away.
If it was me, I would punch first, explain later. Yeah I know kungfu.

In real life, calling the police is the best method. Please make sure you make as much noise and ruckus as possible in the neighborhood. You need to raise awareness about this bully and perhaps others may even come out with their own horror stories with the same arse.

You can also look up the ombudsman if you have one in the village. He can put a restraining order on the man in lieu of a real court case.

I feel for you. If someone lays a finger like that on my children, one of us will be seriously in hospital. And I don't think it will be me.

Take care. Do you need a bunch of us to turn up at your place? I would be glad to bring my bunch of yells angels....
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Invite him ( them ) for a BBQ and perhaps the relationship could improve from there.

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You godda be kidding Arschlöcher like that need their facial features rearranging.
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

Involve the Po-lise gurlfrend.
Then if there are any other official channels that you can follow such as village elders and what not, you should follow them.
I would politely (at first) inform said bell end that as a matter of principal you will get satisfaction in relation to this issue no matter what.
If the shoe was on the other foot and some kids were crossing an imaginary line and misbehaving I would expect some comeuppance (sp?) for them. It should be no different for an adult.
As a disclaimer I do not yet live in Switzerland so what do I know, but its just my opinion.
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

It may be a little to late to call the police at this point...

But it would be a good idea to tell the neighbour that any threat or blows on the children will in the future be reported to the police, and that you will ensure silence after 10pm and on Sundays, as requested by the law. For the rest of the time, he is welcome to use earplugs or to move to a more quiet street.

In parallel, I would drop in at the police, and ask them what you should do to protect your children. They may tell you exactly what to report and when (take the child with the bruises to the police, just call, write, whatever).
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

What ever you do don't be like my mum was, a vixen in the first degree.....

She fought for us in the most embarrassing way's. The older we got the less we told her, she'd march in there and read the riot act never considering that we children would rather be tarred and feathered than have me mother stick up for us,

There was many a time I couldn't look a teacher or girl-guide leader in the eye because my mum stuck up for me, god when I think about being chucked off the country dancing team.
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

I rang the police as soon as i got the advice from this forum straight away, my hubby was mad didn`t want them involved told me i had to deal with it, so i said ok as soon as they turned up (a few mins after i rang) hubby appeared and got involved) anyway we told them what had happened then they had a long talk with my daughter she told them what had happened, then they went to have a talk with him, came back and told us he was been warned of his actions. We was warned about this man when we moved into our house by another neighbour, who as 3 kids he hates kids grumpy git.
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

good, as its recorded.

speak to your neighbous about it also so they know the situation
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

I'm not the biggest fan of kids but I would never, ever do that. I hope that the police visit has scared him enough to make him think twice about his actions before he does something so disgusting again.

Poor you and poor kiddy.
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

Good on you for doing something about him especially through the right channels.

Hope you and the kids get some peace from him now.
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

Good! I'm glad you did that. I know you were warned about him and I'm sure you try to keep away from him. But what he did was unacceptable. If he had just yelled that would be one thing. Throwing the ball at a kid's head it just not on!

Hope your baby is feeling better.
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Old 23.06.2012, 13:35
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

My husband spoke to another neighbour about it and they clapped when he told them i had rang the police they hate him, they have 2 kids aswell and he his really nasty with them, found out he hates cats aswell he as an electric wire low around his garden so cats can`t go into his garden if they try they get an electric shock: Eek: Thanks for your support everyone means alot
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