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Old 26.06.2012, 13:11
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ah that ideal world where everyone can be reasoned with, op should have gone over and given the guy a big hug
No need to get sarcy with me, I was just explaining Uncle Max's position.
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Old 26.06.2012, 13:12
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Let's just behave like toddlers and smack each other the moment we think we are Right or some grievance needs settling.

That'll make the neighbourhood nicer and set a good example to the child in question. While we're at it, we may as well arm ourselves openly and get rid of the Police, as it'd save us money and we could take care of our problems ourselves.

Or, you know, perhaps we could be grown up? Build bridges, move on...

Relevent Groan button below right. If you can read.
And what message does it send out to children by letting him get away with it? that adults have the right to hit any child they want for any reason??

I agree 100% that calling the police is the right thing to do, that doesn't change the fact that this guy needs a damn good slap, of course if he gets sent to prison for hurting a child then a damn good slap would be a welcome respite for him
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Old 26.06.2012, 13:18
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

1. The guy's a jerk. Can't change that.
2. The police have made first contact. The guy's been officially warned.
3. Sutter has her neighborhood's support.
4. The neighborhood kids know that action will be taken if the guy acts up again.
5. The guy has a wife who's probably suffering silently.

This is how neighborhoods deal with miserable characters.

Of course, the Dixie Chicks have another solution but I wouldn't recommend it:

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Old 26.06.2012, 13:19
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

I think Sutter did the right thing in calling the police and I don't agree with actual violence against the guy, but I do believe the threat of violence can be effective.

Twice back in the UK I had too deal with neighbours from hell who were making life for us and other neighbours really difficult. A quiet word in their ear (in my case the ringleader of the gang), when no-one else is around along the lines of "Do this again and next time me and my friends will not call the police, we'll take the matter into our own hands" is a start, but I found my parting shot of "You know, I'm really not worried about going back to prison" was very effective on both occasions.
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Old 26.06.2012, 13:22
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Assault? It seems very possible that the guy threw the ball back at her and she failed to catch it. He didn't hit her or slapped her- and it could just have been a unfortunate accident. He is grumpy and he does not like kids or cats - ...
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... the neighbors report.


I know I promised to stay out of this silly thread, but boy it's getting on my nerves.

How can people complicate their own and the others' lifes if the solution could be so easy: OP, talk to the guy's wife, who already had shown some empathy towards you and your kids, for God's sakes, as would do anybody else, and don't act out of hysteria, panic or anger,

don't listen to people following their herding instinct here, as they don't have to live next door to that guy, unless you don't want to sell your (at the moment one finds out who is your neighbor) worthless house and move out, commit a crime, suicide or whatever.


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The Swiss aren't very good at confrontation. If the neighbors were relieved that someone finally called the police, then it was definitely time Sutter did.

What's more, Swiss men feel inferior when women show more courage than they do.
Well, I wouldn't make a principle out of it (however crime rate is neither half of that one in the US),

but I suggest keeping your weapons when someone is really in danger and when you are sure of that,

don't use them inflationary, out of suspiscion, being just mad, or because a forum suggest it.
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Old 26.06.2012, 13:27
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I think Sutter did the right thing in calling the police and I don't agree with actual violence against the guy, but I do believe the threat of violence can be effective.

Twice back in the UK I had too deal with neighbours from hell who were making life for us and other neighbours really difficult. A quiet word in their ear (in my case the ringleader of the gang), when no-one else is around along the lines of "Do this again and next time me and my friends will not call the police, we'll take the matter into our own hands" is a start, but I found my parting shot of "You know, I'm really not worried about going back to prison" was very effective on both occasions.
That's what I'm talking.
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Old 26.06.2012, 13:28
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And what message does it send out to children by letting him get away with it? that adults have the right to hit any child they want for any reason??

I agree 100% that calling the police is the right thing to do, that doesn't change the fact that this guy needs a damn good slap, of course if he gets sent to prison for hurting a child then a damn good slap would be a welcome respite for him
He didn't "get away" with anything. The cops have it on record, which although not satisfying for the Lynch Mob, at least shows civility. Which, hopefully, we strive for amongst ourselves.

It seems the chap is a touch touched in his mind. Best not to go around beating our care in the community members, even if it would teach 'em a lesson. It's his wife who's really in need. I wonder if the community around her are able to talk without her getting too defensive?
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Old 26.06.2012, 13:28
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

I have no intention of going round to him and being violent, if I was a violent person I would of done it the day he hurty daughter. BBQ smoke doesn't bother him. Pm me if you want to see a photo why
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... if I was a violent person I would of done it the day he hurty daughter. BBQ smoke doesn't bother him. Pm me if you want to see a photo why
Have fun.

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Grab the neighbour and tickle him for hours.
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Old 26.06.2012, 22:44
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Grab the neighbour and tickle him for hours.
Put cats inside the cat fence. Then he'll have to chase angry cats.
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Old 26.06.2012, 23:01
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size means nothing...... you just need to know where to put 1 or 2 fingers and he will be on the floor in seconds
kick to the side of his knee and he goes down hard crying & screaming like a baby

Bullies get their courage from people not standing up to them, trying to placate them and reason with them. All of that only reinforces in their heads their power.

Even if the police don't do anything right away you need them to be involved as it doesn't sound like this is going to end.

I recommend stereo speakers pointed in his direction from 19:00 to 22:00 as a good way to help him de-sensitise to noise

Doubt his wife has any influence, if he's a bully and agreesive to strangers it's not hard to imagine how she is treated

Also, a group of dad's showing up on this ass wipes doorstep telling him in no uncertain terms they'll all be back if he again hurts a kid will send the right message
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

Call the police, it seems that its the only language such people speak!
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Invite him ( them ) for a BBQ and perhaps the relationship could improve from there.

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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

I agree. We have a neighbour with a severe alcohol and mental problem who has been terrorising the neighbourhood for years. Nobody did anything. Police intervened in most serious incidents, but seemed powerless in view of the limits imposed by the law (such as could not even force him to get into police car if he did not want to!). We put up with him for as long as we could, but then he made sexually explicit remarks to our daughter, went in and out of psychiatric units (useless!) and finally forced his way to our home, attacked me and then tried to turn on my daughter. The swine is lucky to be alive! But the same evening, he was released from psychiatric hospital, with some sleeping pills to calm him down. The next morning he tried to break through our door with a double cross metal bar, promising to kill us all "bloody foreigners" and that he'd set fire to the house while we slept! He is in jail, now, so I believe as no one tells us anything ("confidentiality prevails over your safety, Sir!").

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, I was told to request an appointment in writing. When I asked how long it would take to get an urgent appointment, I was told "It's like the tip of a canon, you have to wait until it cools down"!!!

I've been knocking on all the doors to try to get some coordination in this sorry affair, but as you can see, there never is any easy answer. And if I had broken the bastard's neck, which was my deepest wish, I am the one who would have ended in jail.


Guess you are more civilized than I am. When I first moved to Switzerland had some older kids picking on my son and also a crazy farmer who tried to slap some of the kids. I was in the garden and a friend of my son came over to me and told me what was happening , so I chased the older boy (literally ran chasing him to his house he was able to get away from me, so I knocked on the door and his father came out. I calmly told him waht would happen if I ever caught his son bullying my son or any of the other kids. I also went over to the farmer at his house and told him to his face that if he ever touched my son his wife would be a widow.

Never had a problem in the village since.
Seems that the Swiss are too scared to take matter into their own hands.
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Re: my blood is boiling i am so mad at my neighbour hurting my daughter

Get a subscription to "Guns and Ammo" and drop one of the monthly magazines in your neigbhours mail box. Walk by after a few days to ask if it may have been accidentally delivered there and talk about how much you love guns, have a big collection, and if anybody ever f#ks with you it's your guarantee of being protected. You may want to wear a bandana while ringing on his door for maximum effect.
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Guess you are more civilized than I am. When I first moved to Switzerland had some older kids picking on my son and also a crazy farmer who tried to slap some of the kids. I was in the garden and a friend of my son came over to me and told me what was happening , so I chased the older boy (literally ran chasing him to his house he was able to get away from me, so I knocked on the door and his father came out. I calmly told him waht would happen if I ever caught his son bullying my son or any of the other kids. I also went over to the farmer at his house and told him to his face that if he ever touched my son his wife would be a widow.

Never had a problem in the village since.
Seems that the Swiss are too scared to take matter into their own hands.
Whether your post is made up or not is irrelevant.
All of those people saying call the police, make my piss boil.
Stand up for yourselves for goodness sake!
Bullies do it because they can smell cowardice.
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Bullies do it because they can smell cowardice.
Is that a Givenchy fragrance and can one buy it in Migros?
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I guess this problem has been solved six months ago
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How are things going with him Sutter?
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