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Age has nothing to do with manners, and that older "gentleman" lacked them.
As opposed to you having them, I suppose.
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Age has nothing to do with manners, and that older "gentleman" lacked them.
But snubbing a handshake is seen as bad manners, too, you know.
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Old 01.07.2012, 22:51
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They started to talk to me first while sitting at their table. I didin't make an eye contact, I was busy with my laptop, music was quite loud and I barely heard what they asked me. I could ignore them and continue working on my laptop, but I approached them and asked to repeat the question. And then it has started...
Everyone on this post has missed the fact that the two men behaved differently when their wives returned. If they were correct, they would introduce me to their wives. But they blatantly took advantage when the two ladies dissapeared in the toilet and the owners of the pub were outside.
Welcome to reality, dear. People are never going to act exactly as you would like them to.
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But snubbing a handshake is seen as bad manners, too, you know.
Ah, got it. The "truth hurts" responses get a groan.

Come on Argent, it is a fair point about snubbing a handshake.
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Old 01.07.2012, 22:54
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Re: Unwanted sexist comments from men in public

"If they were correct, they would introduce me to their wives"

How could they, you didn't even tell them your name?
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Ah, got it. The "truth hurts" responses get a groan.
You mean I was wrong when I said she had good manners? Oh NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!
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Old 01.07.2012, 22:55
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Re: Unwanted sexist comments from men in public

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But snubbing a handshake is seen as bad manners, too, you know.
I need to start a new thread about a gang bullying on the forum discussion.

This is a complaint corner and as everyone, I am entitled to write about unacceptable behaviours, not only by me but also by the other women.

If you feel burn out and tired after reading my posts, don't read them and don't comment. The comments like yours are a mere example of cyberbullying.

I am finished with this discussion for this evening. Thank you.
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Old 01.07.2012, 22:55
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Ah, there is the crux of the matter!

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They started to talk to me first while sitting at their table. I didin't make an eye contact, I was busy with my laptop, music was quite loud and I barely heard what they asked me. I could ignore them and continue working on my laptop, but I approached them and asked to repeat the question. And then it has started...
Everyone on this post has missed the fact that the two men behaved differently when their wives returned. If they were correct, they would introduce me to their wives. But they blatantly took advantage when the two ladies dissapeared in the toilet and the owners of the pub were outside.

A) you approached them and asked to repeat the question ? This means that you challenged them
B) The two of course behaved differently as soon as their ladies went to the toilet and again when they returned.
C) you even refused the handshake
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Re: Unwanted sexist comments from men in public

7 pages over being looked up and down, damn, if things like that bother you try an alternative style next time you go out.....



you wont get much male attention dressed like that, or maybe you will! there are some fitishists out there!
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I need to start a new thread about a gang bullying on the forum discussion.

This is a complaint corner and as everyone, I am entitled to write about unacceptable behaviours, not only by me but also by the other women.

If you feel burn out and tired after reading my posts, don't read them and don't comment. The comments like yours are a mere example of cyberbullying.

I am finished with this discussion for this evening. Thank you.
You'd rather start a thread about living the real world
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I need to start a new thread about a gang bullying on the forum discussion.

This is a complaint corner and as everyone, I am entitled to write about unacceptable behaviours, not only by me but also by the other women.

If you feel burn out and tired after reading my posts, don't read them and don't comment. The comments like yours are a mere example of cyberbullying.

I am finished with this discussion for this evening. Thank you.
And for that reason, I'm out...
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Old 01.07.2012, 23:10
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Re: Unwanted sexist comments from men in public

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I need to start a new thread about a gang bullying on the forum discussion.

This is a complaint corner and as everyone, I am entitled to write about unacceptable behaviours, not only by me but also by the other women.

If you feel burn out and tired after reading my posts, don't read them and don't comment. The comments like yours are a mere example of cyberbullying.

I am finished with this discussion for this evening. Thank you.

this is exactly what I was trying to avoid with my posts...

I think all of us can react in a different way, a little bit trying to respect any other view.
I'm not saying you cannot disagree each other, but I also think there's another way to discuss and ask for clarification.
But it seems easier to be many against one, groaning and let the people feel they're not welcomed here.
Much more when people try to argument or complain.

I'm not trying to defend the Argent ideas, I'm trying to propose a different way to approach complaints and I strongly advice to avoid this nice "groan" button.

And just to clarify, I don't know Argent and I was on the forum today just by chance.
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You'd rather start a thread about living the real world
Cyber warriors like you sit behind their laptops bored all Sunday, without any real meaning to their life.

Thank you.
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Old 01.07.2012, 23:14
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Re: Unwanted sexist comments from men in public

At this point, this thread has several veiled personal attacks and a lot of unnecessary anger. It is best to lock this thread. This thread, as it stands, is unlikely to "produce light," but rather to "produce more heat."
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