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Re: Swiss Stare

here's your answer:

staring at people on trains



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Old 29.06.2013, 10:49
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I think it's rude. I look away, pause, look back. (They're still staring.) I look away, pause, look back. If they're still staring, at this point I say "Staring is very rude, what's your problem?" They bluster. Very very rarely continue to stare but if they do I have something to say about that too.

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Since when was staring rude, maybe you think it is but its only rude if everybody thinks it is.

Besides never seen anyone staring here, if you have then thats because you are staring in the first place otherwise how would you see the other person staring. Indeed it is more rude not to look at someone when the look at you so they are actually trying not to be rude.
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Old 29.06.2013, 10:51
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exactly.. dont go running without the proper attire...

Go running like this and you are saying please look at me I'm hot!
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Go running like this and you are saying please look at me I'm hot!
Thanks for posting this. The entire thread would have been useless without pictures.
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Since when was staring rude, maybe you think it is but its only rude if everybody thinks it is.
I think in some cases it is. Sometimes people keep staring each other as they find it attractive, which is still okay. But there are some other stares where people give you that look that you should not be at that place. Its like they don't like what you are doing/wearing etc. etc. That is rude.
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Old 29.06.2013, 12:13
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I think in some cases it is. Sometimes people keep staring each other as they find it attractive, which is still okay. But there are some other stares where people give you that look that you should not be at that place. Its like they don't like what you are doing/wearing etc. etc. That is rude.
Maybe they are staring at something behind you!

As I said you are staring at them also simply look away and then you dont even have the perception of someone staring. While you stare them you only make the problem prolonged
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Since when was staring rude, maybe you think it is but its only rude if everybody thinks it is.

Besides never seen anyone staring here, if you have then thats because you are staring in the first place otherwise how would you see the other person staring. Indeed it is more rude not to look at someone when the look at you so they are actually trying not to be rude.
If you notice someone staring at you, then it's because you stared first at him?
And it's rude not to look at someone staring at you?
Do you know the difference between staring at and looking at?

As for the rudeness of staring, I found in western societies this to be the case.

I guess it's some Bünzli inbred thing here. Educated Swiss tend not to do that.
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Old 29.06.2013, 12:26
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Re: Swiss Stare

There are three ways I handle it, depending on my mood and the circumstances:

a) stare back until they look away (works best with kids)

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b) totally ignore

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c) ostentatiously look in their direction without meeting their eyes, just looking slightly past them (confuses the starer completely since they expect you to stare)
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Old 29.06.2013, 12:35
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But there are some other stares where people give you that look that you should not be at that place. Its like they don't like what you are doing/wearing etc. etc. That is rude.
I think this is the type of stares that most people are usually complaining about...we're smart, we get the "vibes".
Such a pity that there are persons out there who enjoy making others feel bad or something. Small minds.
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Old 29.06.2013, 12:45
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c) ostentatiously look in their direction without meeting their eyes, just looking slightly past them (confuses the starer completely since they expect you to stare)
And don't forget to smirk, it's important.

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Old 29.06.2013, 12:56
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I think this is the type of stares that most people are usually complaining about...we're smart, we get the "vibes".
Such a pity that there are persons out there who enjoy making others feel bad or something. Small minds.
Really? I thought posters were refering more to a sort of stony look like this one

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Old 29.06.2013, 12:57
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Re: Swiss Stare

I'm guilty of staring but, thankfully, it's usually blankly into space. Normally it's far too early in the morning and I'm sat on the tram mentally going through my day or planning my holiday or wondering what to do with that mince in the fridge which is a few of days past its sniff-by-date.

Occasionally, my stare happens to fall on the poor bugger opposite me who could have stripped naked and be dancing Gangnam Style and I would still have the dead-eyed, what-to-do-with-the-mince look on my face.

If it's you, I'm sorry if you think I'm Swiss and am doing it just to piss you off. Next time, just lean over and say, "make up a bolognese sauce and freeze it" and I'll be really grateful.
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Old 29.06.2013, 13:47
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Re: Swiss Stare

If I catch them staring for more than a few seconds, I put on the biggest grin I have and either start waving with over enthusiasm, or ask them "How can I help you"? Scares them every time.
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Old 29.06.2013, 13:55
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I don't deny it at all, I just said that's quite common in Europe and I don't there' s a big difference between Swiss, Italian or Spanish staring. And I certainly don't know because people take it automatically as an offence.
And cafés, for example on the Limmatquai in Zürich, have the seats arranged to allow the guests to look at whomever passes by
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Really? I thought posters were refering more to a sort of stony look like this one
Oh, but that's a (kind of) admiring stare, no?

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If I catch them staring for more than a few seconds, I put on the biggest grin I have and either start waving with over enthusiasm, or ask them "How can I help you"? Scares them every time.
Nice, people complaining about staring but spying on others just in case they might be stared at.....
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Old 29.06.2013, 16:35
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Re: Swiss Stare

How do you know people are staring at you?

It means you are staring around looking for anyone looking at you?

You need to take dance lessons, and learn to dance in public. You`ll learn to not make eye-contact because you`ll lose your control and trip and fall.

Haven`t you noticed that dancers look just over the top of peoples`s heads - it looks like eye-contact, but its not.

Anyway, if you feel stared at, enjoy it. It means you`re interesting to look at.

As long as you`re not wearing skin tight hot-pink tights with a too short Tshirt.

It`s ok if you look like the guys favourite jogger on this thread.
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How do you know people are staring at you?

It means you are staring around looking for anyone looking at you?
look |lʊk|
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stare |stɛː|
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look |lʊk|
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The point of differentiation being.....?
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Old 29.06.2013, 17:06
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here's your answer:

staring at people on trains



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Stop staring at the other threads!
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Re: Swiss Stare

Just wanted to confirm that the "Swiss Stare" really exists!! Most of the time they will stare you down if your child is making any noise on the trams (just a slight peep might get a stare); Also, never litter anything away. Of course you should always throw out your trash, but someone might not think to hard about a small apple peel ... this will definitely invoke the "Swiss Stare".

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