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View Poll Results: How long did it take you to make friends here?
Less than a year 68 42.50%
1 - 2 years 23 14.38%
3 - 5 years 14 8.75%
5 - 7 years 1 0.63%
Over 7 years 7 4.38%
Still haven't made any friends (specify how long you've lived here) 47 29.38%
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Old 15.04.2018, 17:12
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Whilst the pool is politically neutral looking at the discussion made me laugh. Why do so many people have the obsession of having a Swiss pet (friend)? Friendship is beyond nationality, race, age.... This is funny as in the developed areas the Swiss nationals are the minority so they must feel terrible about all the bloody foreigners hunting for them "Oh, you're Swiss, so cute, I'd like you to be my friend

Go out, hang with likeminded people and be happy
haha, that was quite fu...wait a minute...Leszek? That does not sound Swiss at all,
That was not funny. Please prevent from any humorous attempt in the future.

Any real Swiss around who wants to be friendled?

PS: no zurcher or genevians, I am after decent speaking people and I'm not desperate.
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Old 15.04.2018, 17:18
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When we left our home country, I lost a friend of 20 years from school, and we were Godparents to her boy and very 'bestie-close' friends. Even though in the first year away I wrote emails and newsletters, soon after we received a 2 line email saying that we were no longer Godparents due to the distance and they did not want to see us when we returned for holidays every other year. People usually like stability.
Wow! really?! Where are you from that people behave like that, especially "besties"? I can see one point of view (...and I'm really pushing the boat out here) where they would like more of a physical presence from you as godparents to their child...but to say they no longer even want to see you when you come back on holiday and stuff??? I think you're well rid of people who think that way, what did you ever do to deserve that treatment.


Are they permaybe just a wee bit jealous that you have grasped an oportunity to live in a foreign land per chance?
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Old 15.04.2018, 17:21
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Hundra - thanks.. we actually joined a wonderful group .... just this week so all is good.
We thought we did as well, till we were asked to place our car keys in a big fish bowl...we left.


Saw Ozibird there in his budgie smugglers...


aye, just joshing
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Old 15.04.2018, 19:42
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you know that actually happens? Not here though, abroad. The weirdest thing
Ha ha, yes, I've been to places before Switzerland and usually people are curious to know you because 'people are curious' and you are foreigner so you can bring some amusement to their lives
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Old 15.04.2018, 20:08
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We thought we did as well, till we were asked to place our car keys in a big fish bowl...we left.
Why, no takers?

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Old 15.04.2018, 22:07
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Why, no takers?

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Nope, it must have been the Lada key ring on our car keys that kept them at bay
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Nope, it must have been the Lada key ring on our car keys that kept them at bay
But you left with a Maybach, right?
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But you left with a Maybach, right?
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ut of course! Arrived in an Uber 'cos the Lada was broken down, mingled with the rich old codgers, then left with a Maybach...all done smoothly la Raffles!
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Whilst the pool is politically neutral looking at the discussion made me laugh. Why do so many people have the obsession of having a Swiss pet (friend)?
Your post was really funny, I like it. But on a more serious note.... many folks write here in a highly emotional state.. ( in this case - frustrated, bored, feeling lonely in a foreign land, etc etc. ) I don't believe they're obsessed or "hunting" a pet friend, but at one point or another people want to mix more with the locals, I think it's just normal.

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Friendship is beyond nationality, race, age....
Yes, true, but see the explanation above.
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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

working place is the first source of friendship to me.
Making swiss friends, might be a bit harder..more for the language than anything.
Though you might find mind many swiss people looking to improve their foreign language knowledge : )
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working place is the first source of friendship to me
Likewise, but I've only worked with Swiss people.

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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

Hi,

Have made lots of fellow foreign friends but no swiss friends.
Maybe the swiss are reluctant as they know we will move on, who knows.
But I do get the feeling that there are so many of us now that they feel threatened in terms of employment, rentals being pushed up etc, cant really blame them for being slightly resentful at times.
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I do get the feeling that there are so many of us now that they feel threatened in terms of employment, rentals being pushed up etc.
Total nonsense.

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Total nonsense.
Probably true in places like Basel and Zurich.

Not the places we live, though.
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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

they only want to speak Swiss. If you speak fluent Swiss German... maybe you will make some friends.
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Old 07.05.2018, 15:25
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they only want to speak Swiss.
What language is that?
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Old 07.05.2018, 15:26
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they only want to speak Swiss. If you speak fluent Swiss German... maybe you will make some friends.
Nonsense, I still have Swiss German friends that I met over 30 years ago speaking mainly English (and some French) at the time, nowadays with some SG thrown in, though as a former girlfriend once told me 'you don't speak Swiss German, you speak Schriftdeutsch with a a Swiss accent!'

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What language is that?
Italian.

At least, that's what all the Swiss around here speak!

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What language is that?
It's actually four, "speak Swiss" is short for all four national languages.
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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

From my point of viewm, there is no real friend here in Asian society. People just really don't care others.
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