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How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

How rude would it be if....

A) I told the man sitting next to me to please keep his voice down while talking on his mobile. I really don't want to know if he's meeting up with his buddy to eat fries at the Badi tonight.

B) I told the woman behind me to keep her voice down during her long phone conversation

C) I told the person across from me to turn his music down

If you were asked to keep your voice down, how would you feel? Embarrassed? Angry? Apologetic? Annoyed?

Just because we're travelling second class doesn't mean we can't be a bit respectful...
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

I guess how "rude" it is depends on the personality of the person you reprimanded, and how polite you are when telling them.


Personally, I'd be tempted to join in on their conversation. "Oh, you like burgers? Have you tried (this) place?" After all, their holding it in a public place, at public volumes, so its not like you went out of your way to invade their space
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Old 11.05.2018, 18:38
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Just because we're travelling second class doesn't mean we can't be a bit respectful...
If you are travelling in a 'silent' carriage fine, otherwise sorry but you don't get to make the rules in a public carriage. Buy some ear plugs.
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

Music on a train can be rude but I personally don't mind as long as the person is not next to me, else I just press the off button on their radio and they can suck it up.

Phone calls on normal volume are to me just a part of the train unless they deliberately speak loud in an attempt to seem interesting to others.
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

I'm torn. One the one hand I don't like it when someone yaps on the telephone next to me on the bus, but on the other hand, I ask myself why I care. I'm not taking public transportation to relax.
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

A couple of months ago I was travelling on the train and this jolly Italian sexagenarian 7 seats down the carriage somewhat "forgot" his mobile on speaker about as loud as it gets... and so the entire carriage of 100+ people was hearing from his wife how nice a day she had shopping at the mall and at the spa, and how she was going to have a nice bath and wait for him to get home to join in and have some hanky-panky together...

Nobody thought about joining in the conversation, must admit it was tempting but did not have the courage...
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

C) happened to me. Once the embarrassment had worn off, I was grateful. I hadn't realised that my Bluetooth headphones had failed to connect and had no idea that the whole carriage could hear my music.

It was Mike Oldfield.

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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

Bring a big ghetto-blaster and drown them in gangsta-rap.
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Old 11.05.2018, 19:26
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

I only mind people sharing loudly stuff that can potentionally bite them in their proverbial, or shows behavior that indicates lack of self respect (young girls letting guys yelling really ugly stuff at them for attention, etc.).

Otherwise, to adress OP's question - if there isn't a threat or violence involved, who am I to tell people off? Don't teachers spend enough time working on discipline at work to keep their inner cop on a break, when they are merely bugged by other people indiscretion? No, I don't bug others for noise, I move away. Too many folks (kids included) with hearing problems, too. Why make them feel lousy. They are not at fault for your auditive overstimulation coming from work, really.
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

Interesting replies. I was sitting next to a younger man the other day and we were both listening to a guy next to us talking loudly on his phone. We both rolled our eyes and afterwards I asked him if it's always like this in second class. He nodded and said if I wanted silence, I should travel first class.

Sorry, but I don't buy that. The Swiss hate someone being 3 minutes late but it's OK to talk loudly on the phone on the train? Come on!
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Old 11.05.2018, 19:40
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If you are travelling in a 'silent' carriage fine, otherwise sorry but you don't get to make the rules in a public carriage. Buy some ear plugs.
Ah, but neither do you. Showing respect towards others should outweigh your need to be unnecessarily loud on the phone, especially if it's a longer call.
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Interesting replies. I was sitting next to a younger man the other day and we were both listening to a guy next to us talking loudly on his phone. We both rolled our eyes and afterwards I asked him if it's always like this in second class. He nodded and said if I wanted silence, I should travel first class.

Sorry, but I don't buy that. The Swiss hate someone being 3 minutes late but it's OK to talk loudly on the phone on the train? Come on!
People are just as noisy in first. The difference being that most of the calls are boring business stuff.
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Old 11.05.2018, 19:43
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People are just as noisy in first. The difference being that most of the calls are boring business stuff.
There still is a "silent" carriage in first
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

Whenever I'm annoyed about people's behaviour on a train, I'll post a thread on an anonymous internet forum afterwards.
Ihat will teach them!
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

Olygirl, if someone is bothering you, then by all means ask them to change their behaviour. There is a huge difference between "telling them off" and just asking. Since your thread is about not being rude, I'm sure you can do it politely.

For example:
  • Excuse me, I'm not sure whether you realise that the people around you can hear the personal details of your conversation.
  • Please would you speak less loudly? Thanks.
  • Excuse me, you see the jacket, over there, three rows away? That's my seat, and when I sit there, I can hear your music. Would you please turn your music down a little?

I think such such requests are perfectly fine, and when they are made quietly and politely, I have seen them work very effectively.

Of course, this too is a question of choosing your battles. You'd need to assess, for yourself, how much energy it'd cost to brace yourself against the possible (but probably rare) negative reaction(s), versus what it would cost just to endure until your next stop, and set these against how easy or difficult it would be for you to change carriages.
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

If you did A, B and C on your daily commute, I guess you are officially the "grumpy lady" now.
If two people on the train talked loudly to each other - would you tell them to keep it down? On a handy at least you got only one side.
That said, we got a new neighbour (in the next house!!) and he likes to phone outside and I understand every word the remote person says. He himself actually doesn't talk all that loud but due to the patio type building of the two houses .... this one just makes me laugh. He will find out some day. LOL.
And there is a building site two streets away with one labourer constantly on the phone, shouting so loud that I wonder why he invests money in phone-bills. HE annoys me horribly and considering the time he spends on the phone, renovating that house will take years.

Last week a friend called and I told him I was gonna call him the day before but the weather was too nice. He knew I meant I didn't want to phone outside yet didn't want to go inside.
An other friend I once told I couldn't take her call because I was with a friend. That didn't make the least bit sense to her.

So, it's the century of the handies. That's how it is. Yes, I do remember the ghetto-blasters. Not sure I would still take them as relaxed as back then
Don't think first class would be any better except instead of having fries it will be about having oysters?

I think it's alright to tell people, most are simply not aware of their behaviour. I would much rather pull a stunt like this sometime though:



I saw an other one once, where someone said to the one on the mobile:" Is this [insert name you heard person saying before here]? Wow, how is he? Gosh we once went ..... together yadda yadda yadda." It was quite funny as the phone-conversation was no longer possible.
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

Ghetto blasters? I remember the red second class smoking cars with their stale odours and empty seats. Before they were discontinued, people had begun smoking pot in them as well.

Anyway, I'm usually pretty witty and my Swiss German is irresistably "charming" so as long as I don't come off nasty, my strategy might work.

I'll let you know...
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Old 11.05.2018, 21:28
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

Just yesterday someone showed me this:
https://youtu.be/Aw09zU9Ps1I
saying the daily commute sometimes made him consider taking similar action.
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Re: How rude would it be if.... (mobile on train complaint)

I'm not a complainer, but we all have our limits and this would be mine...
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It was Mike Oldfield.

You might well be embarrassed lad.
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Just yesterday someone showed me this:
https://youtu.be/Aw09zU9Ps1I
saying the daily commute sometimes made him consider taking similar action.
This is exactly why I don't answer calls in such situations

By the way, in spite of the hair, that was not me.
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