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Old 09.08.2018, 19:22
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Dolores .... Dolores.... Dolores . Where do we start ?

I'm not sure if you're seeking advice, but you did say you wanted to get things off your chest. Since you did it on a public forum, then I'm sure you don't mind if others give you their opinions.

First of all, very interesting choice of handle name. Not only is Dolores Abernathy (from the show West World ) doing her own sort of soul searching, but Dolores literally means 'pain' .

Anyhow, back to the issue you're having with the terrible break up .

Yes, it was a terrible thing that this guy did to you. Stringing you along, making you believe the relationship was working, and in the end breaking off the relationship in a bad way. ( I'm guessing he's the one who broke it off by how angry you still are about the whole situation).

He sounds like a regular, everyday jerk boyfriend . As someone else mentioned, him being Swiss honestly has nothing to do with that. Anybody with poor relationship skills can act the same way ( and do ! ) .

The problem now is that you keep replaying this hurtful situation, and it's keeping you from being happy. You mentioned that you haven't been able to stop thinking about it for a year.

When you became friendly with this guy, and went on the first date --- you already mentioned that he was "boring " . You said, you really didn't want to go out with him, but you thought you " shouldn't be so picky " .

This was a mistake in your thinking . You immediately labeled this guy as not good enough for you. So, when this guy decided he didn't want to date you anymore, and then eventually broke off the relationship , it left you thinking and feeling ' How can he not want to be with ME ? He is the boring one. I'm so much better than him ' This has injured your self confidence, and you are having trouble getting past the idea that someone 'so boring' and 'so dumb' and 'so fat' wouldn't like you.

Part of this feeling of being less than, or unwanted may actually come from your cultural background. You mentioned that you are Chinese. I know from watching things online, that Asian cultures view relationships differently than Western cultures - whether it's family, business, friendships, or personal relationships.

In personal relationships, when someone breaks up with a Chinese woman they're essentially also breaking up with the family . You may have even gotten criticism from your family about the break up. Again, which hurt your self esteem , and perhaps the reason why now you are dating someone who, in your opinion, is very successful.

Think about the relationship you are in now. This new person is successful, treats you well, and makes you happy. Why spend your energy thinking of someone who hurt you ? Not only does it continue to cause you stress, but it can also ruin your new relationship .

Try to stop thinking that the Swiss guy was less than you or better than you . When you find yourself replaying thoughts about your bad relationship, change those thoughts to positive thoughts . Thoughts about how happy you are in your new relationship .

Wishing you the best


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Thanks for your comments! Wonderful!
You are right on lots of things.
There are two things is incorrect.
1. My family have nothing to do with him, no connections. I am 100% of my own decision.
2. I actually didn't think about this guy at all now, maybe a few seconds in few months...Not worthy ha...I just want to omit out the last piecec of things that left on me...
3, This don't influence my current or other relationship at all. That person is really out of the circle that could give me such an influence...

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To the OP, I'm really sorry- I thought we had something special
What???? who are you? Are you joking?

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Yeah, maybe.

When I read a torrent like this...


... then I'm torn between hoping it is all fiction and nonsense, hoping that if it is real the poor man never stumbles across this thread to read the vitriol poured out about him, and thirdly, hoping that someone does, indeed, show him (and the man who has replaced him) this thread, so each man can see what he's up against.


I understand you are feeling emotional complex and disorder now, probably have that empathy towards that "pool" man because maybe you found the mirror of yourself inside a little bit..it must feel pain in the balls when a female directly saying the fundamental truth that discloses the ugliness of male(sending dick pic to girls without common agreement, can't even type but still megalomaniac, clumsiness, subconsciously consider that female should perform as the society wished, female objectification...etc)..

It is hard for you to listen to a female consideration about a man as exactly how a man speaking about a female in their secret time, during their man-talk, mansplaining time? isn't it? it hurt your balls!

Do you know the art of Sacha Baron Cohen?

I know you secretly dark wish I fall and want to call all of them to against me...lol...Really sorry to disappoint you...ha!

Anyway...

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Old 09.08.2018, 20:12
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It is hard for you to listen to a female consideration about a man as exactly how a man speaking about a female in their secret time, during their man-talk, mansplaining time? isn't it? it hurt your balls!
Umm, I don't think that SHE has any BALLS.

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Did the OP get enough attention and can we close this thread now?
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Do you know the art of Sacha Baron Cohen?
This would also go some way to explaining this thread.
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Old 09.08.2018, 21:02
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Did the OP get enough attention and can we close this thread now?
I'm sure she's on drugs!
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Old 09.08.2018, 21:05
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I'm sure she's on drugs!
Ahhh, poor youth. Being on drugs sure used to be more fun.
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Old 09.08.2018, 21:33
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What???? who are you? Are you joking?
One option would be that I'm really your ex-boyfriend and one option is that it's something called humor. Have you come across humor, or is this a first encounter?

Seriously now, it's so sad to read that you dated a man that you obviously despise, something that indicates an incredible level of desperation and lack of better options.
You are supposed to be spending time with people that you get along with.
No one should keep such a bad relationship on life support.
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Old 09.08.2018, 21:48
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Re: Dated a douchebag Swiss dude(personal experience)

I think the breaking point was when he discovered that 'she' was a 'ladyboy'.

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Old 09.08.2018, 22:20
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I'm sure she's on drugs!
Maybe she fell out of a tree..
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I could give you a Nobel Prize in forum literature!
If at all it will be in Chemistry or Medicine
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Did the OP get enough attention and can we close this thread now?
Yes, could close now! thanks!

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One option would be that I'm really your ex-boyfriend and one option is that it's something called humor. Have you come across humor, or is this a first encounter?

Seriously now, it's so sad to read that you dated a man that you obviously despise, something that indicates an incredible level of desperation and lack of better options.
You are supposed to be spending time with people that you get along with.
No one should keep such a bad relationship on life support.
Exactly! Agreed! Thanks a lot!

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I'm sure she's on drugs!
I never took any drugs, don't even smoke or drink alcohol... but I always seem on drugs...I don't need alcohol or drugs to get high, or maybe fall from the Swisstree? hahahahaha...
no worries...

I had enough dose here, indeed. It becomes an amusement park for me now when seeing somebody trying to say bad about me and the things I've experienced which is they barely know about...And some others are just read as the audience...and joking around(which I like that parts), or some give sincere opinions(Bravo!)

Very interesting personal, social experiment...:)

Please close the thread, the show is over!
Thanks for participate!

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I never took any drugs, don't even smoke or drink alcohol... but I always seem on drugs...I don't need alcohol or drugs to get high, or maybe fall from the Swisstree? hahahahaha...
no worries...

I had enough dose here, indeed. It becomes an amusement park for me now when seeing somebody trying to say bad about me and the things I've experienced which is they barely know about...And some others are just read as the audience...and joking around(which I like that parts), or some give sincere opinions(Bravo!)

Very interesting personal, social experiment...:)

Please close the thread, the show is over!
Thanks for participate!

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I actually stopped commenting on other peoples postings. But on this posting....
I feel compelled...
Sorry OP. Your post is IMO one of the worst attempts, either at trolling or as an experiment of some kind. .
Obviously not the worst attempt to trolling....(s)he's good. Just read the other replies.
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Obviously not the worst attempt to trolling....(s)he's good. Just read the other replies.
Could be a russian hacker with such BAD English
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How nauseating! Moving on now....
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Re: Dated a douchebag Swiss dude(personal experience)

This is the first time I see a "woman" using the "dude" so so so many times

On the other hand, how come there isn't some extra info on how the sekx was so bad ? Why was he really bad actually ? pls explain
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Re: Dated a douchebag Swiss dude(personal experience)

Maybe Dolores is a troll, and maybe not .


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2. I actually didn't think about this guy at all now, maybe a few seconds in few months...Not worthy ha...I just want to omit out the last piecec of things that left on me...
3, This don't influence my current or other relationship at all. That person is really out of the circle that could give me such an influence...
You could have easily written down your thoughts on a piece of paper and thrown it away, or written it in a journal. Yet, you are still thinking about this one year later, and you came onto a public forum seeking validation from people who don't know you.

Ask yourself some questions .

How much do I respect myself ?
Should people in a relationship be respectful to eachother ?
Do I have a purpose in life that makes me happy?
Am I focusing on that purpose ?
What do I want from other people that I can do for myself instead ?

Be honest with yourself, be aware of when you think about the problems in your past relationship, and try to turn those thoughts into positive thoughts instead.

HTH,
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Old 10.08.2018, 15:31
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Re: Dated a douchebag Swiss dude(personal experience)

Dolores hears voices inside her head. Has done for more than 30 years.

Username is an anagram for hoe betrays Arnold.
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Old 10.08.2018, 16:20
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Username is an anagram for hoe betrays Arnold.
Who is 'Arnold'?

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Who is 'Arnold'?

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He created Dolores Abernathy!

(Westworld, HBO series)
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