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01.03.2021, 16:09
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | Really, you got to get up at 5:30 and you are woken up by some inconsiderate person rambling on at 01:00 am.... | | | | | Really, you finish your shift at 01:00 and some inconsiderate person starts making noise at 05:30 in the morning banging around the kitchen making coffee.
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01.03.2021, 16:12
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | I don't think the neighbor should have knocked at the door at that hour unless it was an emergency. That complaint could have waited until the morning and it probably would have been better received (and the complainer might have calmed down a bit).
As for the loud conversation at 1 am, I could understand how for a light sleeper this could be a major annoyance. Maybe your voice sounds even louder through the vents? I used to share an office with a loud talker and it is not fun having to hear that. It seems like those type phone calls go on forever.
By the way, not related to this story per se, a friend was once on a train and a guy was talking loud on the phone. There was an older lady trying to read a book. She became so annoyed that she started reading out loud at the same volume as the guy on the phone. He got the message and got off the phone. | | | | | Many years ago, new neighbours to the side of me, had all their internal doors open, plus windows open and loud noises. It was either a Friday or Saturday night, my work at the time was by an office, Monday to Friday. In my sleep wear, I tiptoed out and put a very polite note, I thought, under their front door, to let them know they were keeping me awake at whatever am hour it was, I cannot now remember the words I said to request them to lower the noise a bit or if I suggested to shut at least the internal door closest to me Maybe some say I should have got dressed and rang their bell to complain in front of their guests, that might have also disturbed other flats in my block, as I stated previously it is different how sounds travels. Due to the disturbing , I was very late up the next day, afternoon. Next day, some other neighbours, then let me know they had put my note on the Main Notice Board, with a comment something Like why had I not rang their bell and spoke to them face to face. I had not seen the note, as it had been removed by the time I went out the main front door. | 
01.03.2021, 16:14
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud
Between 22:00 and 07:00 noise should be kept down. I turn the TV down at 22:00 or use headphones to watch TV etc.
If I was the neighbour, I would not have come down, but I would have just banged on the wall, that is the real Swiss way  | The following 4 users would like to thank Talk to you later for this useful post: | | 
01.03.2021, 16:21
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | Between 22:00 and 07:00 noise should be kept down. I turn the TV down at 22:00 or use headphones to watch TV etc.
If I was the neighbour, I would not have come down, but I would have just banged on the wall, that is the real Swiss way   | | | | | It's the neighbor above. Presumably there's a thick concrete slab and lots of insulation due to the floor heating. I guess I'm an a**hole, will try to be less of an a**hole in the future.
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01.03.2021, 16:31
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | It's the neighbor above. Presumably there's a thick concrete slab and lots of insulation due to the floor heating. | | | | |
Makes no difference as he clearly heard you  The neighbour above me also has a concrete floor, but I always hear him "come" like a female dog. His woman makes zero noise, but he always moans non-stop! Starting to wonder who is shafting who | Quote: |  | | | I guess I'm an a**hole, will try to be less of an a**hole in the future. | | | | | Or just visit my upstairs neighbour to sort out your a**hole | The following 2 users would like to thank Talk to you later for this useful post: | | 
01.03.2021, 16:44
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud
move to a stand alone house.
honestly all these neighbourly dispute posts .... don't choose live mingled with other people if you don't want to follow the rules designed to make doing so passable for all....
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01.03.2021, 16:56
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | Hello,
Eventually I arrived to the complaints corner.
One of my neighbors, flat right above, came knocking at 1h00 in the morning to complain I was being too loud. The issue is that my wife was asleep in the bedroom and I was talking with my brother on the phone. I understand the silent hours from 22h00 to 6h00, but a phone call with all my windows shut?
I'm getting tired. It's not the first time the neighbor complains about something. We don't smoke but one day one of my guests was smoking on my balcony and guess who came down knocking.
The call with my brother was a bit tense. I think I let all the frustration out with the idiot who came down knocking at 1h00 and might scared him. I told the guy that If was being too loud we should call the police. He didn't want to. So, I called the police and he ran into his flat. But, is there a more civil way to avoid these unwarranted visits? | | | | | What did you do, Axa?
Kill them with kindness. There's no point in arguing with an angry person, even if you're in the right. (and you weren't...exactly)
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01.03.2021, 17:13
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud
Did you have your brother on a loud speaker and both of you raised voices? I am just asking because these types of conversations have become the norm in public in my area, somehow fashionable..trains, bus stops, you name it. Every time it happens I feel super awkward, but maybe youtubers and TikTokers have different idea of noise, privacy, even intimate life.
I am not saying that it's you. But you pay your rent and it's high in Switzerland. I think one off thing like that is ok. I wouldn't do it every week. If he can't wait to tell you in the morning then there is something else going on. In the midst of pandemics, people are expected to make unexpected family phonecalls, abroad and weird hours. Basta.
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01.03.2021, 17:23
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | What did you do, Axa? 
Kill them with kindness. There's no point in arguing with an angry person, even if you're in the right. (and you weren't...exactly) | | | | | After a bit of reflection, react like an idiot | The following 6 users would like to thank Axa for this useful post: | | 
01.03.2021, 18:41
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | After a bit of reflection, react like an idiot  | | | | | I'd much rather be surrounded by loud occasional idiots than quiet passive aggressive all-the-time idiots. Keep it up!
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01.03.2021, 19:07
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | After a bit of reflection, react like an idiot  | | | | | These things happen ... it's obvious from your posts you're a decent person. Your neighbour just chose the wrong moment to cross you. Apologise and move on.
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01.03.2021, 19:10
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud
LOL reminds me of my MIL who is deaf as a rock. According to her, hearing aides are for old ppl and as long as she can hear what the news presenter on the tele says all is well
Trying to explain to her that she can only hear the TV because of the high volume totally fell on deaf ears
Nobody has complained though.
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01.03.2021, 19:11
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | These things happen ... it's obvious from your posts you're a decent person. Your neighbour just chose the wrong moment to cross you. Apologise and move on. | | | | | Exactly.
And maybe....move! Not just move on.
If you can hear your neighbours talking on the phone is obviously not ideal to live there - lack of privacy etc.
Some old buildings are so poorly insulated and maybe it was OK in the past when everyone was in bed at 10 p.m. but defo not now. | Quote: | |  | | | LOL reminds me of my MIL who is deaf as a rock. According to her, hearing aides are for old ppl and as long as she can hear what the news presenter on the tele says all is well 
Trying to explain to her that she can only hear the TV because of the high volume totally fell on deaf ears 
Nobody has complained though. | | | | | Lol, m-i-l is also a bit deaf but she hears everything when she wants. lol | Quote: | |  | | | After a bit of reflection, react like an idiot  | | | | | Lol, you're too harsh with yourself. The thing with the neighbours is that we're gonna see or hear each other more often than we'd like so I'd personally try to keep things on friendly terms if possible.
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01.03.2021, 22:08
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | Maybe I need few min to process this. But, modern building with perfect noise insulation, all widows shut? I understand the tumble dryer is noisy, but talking? Is it rude to talk in your own apartment no matter the hour? If this is the case, I'm seriously surprised. | | | | | The law says that quiet time is quiet. Exceptions are only made for unavoidable noise such as flushing the toilet (yes, that often touted rule is BS) or kids crying. A grown adult having a loud conversation is not "unavoidable". If they can hear you talking at 1 am, then they are well within their rights to complain.
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02.03.2021, 09:07
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | Did you have your brother on a loud speaker and both of you raised voices? I am just asking because these types of conversations have become the norm in public | | | | | That reminds of an Englishman who lived in one of the flats opposite. He would stand on his balcony and having shouting conversations, heavily sprinkled with profanity, over the phone to his employees. We called him Mr Shoutyman. He only did it during work hours. I met him a few times on the street and he seemed to be a very decent guy otherwise. When a neighbour's kid had been learning an ABBA song at school, she started singing at home. He heard her and put the album the song came from on his HiFi. She was so embarrassed!
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02.03.2021, 10:31
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | The law says that quiet time is quiet. Exceptions are only made for unavoidable noise such as flushing the toilet (yes, that often touted rule is BS) or kids crying. A grown adult having a loud conversation is not "unavoidable". If they can hear you talking at 1 am, then they are well within their rights to complain. | | | | | I get it. The limit is not some objective quantity of decibels, but "loud enough to be heard". That may work next time, for this one...war has started
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02.03.2021, 10:46
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | I get it. The limit is not some objective quantity of decibels, but "loud enough to be heard". That may work next time, for this one...war has started | | | | | Lol.  Force majeure.
I can't tell, I live in the building packed with wonderful, half deaf top musicians. We do decibels but talk softly.
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02.03.2021, 10:52
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | That reminds of an Englishman who lived in one of the flats opposite. He would stand on his balcony and having shouting conversations, heavily sprinkled with profanity, over the phone to his employees. We called him Mr Shoutyman. He only did it during work hours. I met him a few times on the street and he seemed to be a very decent guy otherwise. When a neighbour's kid had been learning an ABBA song at school, she started singing at home. He heard her and put the album the song came from on his HiFi. She was so embarrassed! | | | | | That's kinda cute..Wish it was King Crimson or Talking Heads, instead. While a shouty potty-mouth boss sounds like a proper god's gift, I like "community noises", tbh. It is a package of certain level of tolerance and neighborly help when needed.
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02.03.2021, 10:53
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | After a bit of reflection, react like an idiot  | | | | |
Just place a Migros Budget chocolate (door step/letterbox) with a sorry note. Life is too long to have fights with neighbours.
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02.03.2021, 10:58
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| | Re: phone conversation too loud | Quote: | |  | | | Just place a Migros Budget chocolate (door step/letterbox) with a sorry note. Life is too long to have fights with neighbours. | | | | | My local friends and I swear by Coop Bio dark chocolate with orange bits.
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