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Old 07.05.2010, 09:40
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I know, I cannot drive, I cannot park my car, and in general when I'm driving I am very clumsy. I easily panic, too.
But is it necessary to shake heads and look at me with such contempt everytime I do something wrong? Even people not directly involved in my awkward manoeuvres feel the need to show their disappointment by looking at me and shaking their heads.
Is it happening only to me or this "shaking the head" habit is typically Swiss?
I find it so unpleasant!

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I am a good enough driver, never had a car accident in 20 years of driving. I often drive with my child on board, so I am very prudent, never drive faster than 50 or (maximum) 60 km/hour.
My weak side is parking: I am a perfectionist and I know I am not so good in parking, so I prefer trying longer than leaving the car parked so-and-so.
Today I woke up silly and thought to post a silly thread. But if I want to be serious, politically correct and even tearful, I'll tell you I had a very dear person who died because of a road pirate. Those are a different story, you know.
But let me tell you that when a person is in trouble with parking a car, there's no use shaking heads or insulting. (Actually there's NEVER use being so ostentatiously impatient with people in trouble, but this is up to your sensibility).
Forget this post please, it wasn't meant to be taken so seriously.

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Old 07.05.2010, 09:44
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I know, I cannot drive, I cannot park my car, and in general when I'm driving I am very clumsy. I easily panic, too.
But is it necessary to shake heads and look at me with such contempt everytime I do something wrong? Even people not directly involved in my awkward manoeuvres feel the need to show their disappointment by looking at me and shaking their heads.
Is it happening only to me or this "shaking the head" habit is typically Swiss?
I find it so unpleasant!
ha ha sadly you are not alone. I think it is something of a national pastime. I posted once about the very same thing when I took a little too long reversing out of a space at Aldi and was subjected to a very severe case that lasted for a good 5 minutes or so, and was also accompanied by exaggerated eye rolling!
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Old 07.05.2010, 09:47
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Re: people shaking their heads

Learn how to drive please.
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Old 07.05.2010, 09:51
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Re: people shaking their heads

You might want to take some lessons until you're feeling more confident. You are driving a metal death machine and there is nothing cute about awkward maneuvers, clumsy driving or panicking drivers who by their own admittance are doing something wrong.

You need to gauge your level of competence by the reactions you are getting.

Look to yourself first, then criticize the rest of the head-shaking world.
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Old 07.05.2010, 09:53
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Re: people shaking their heads

ehem...actually my mom drives a lot better than my dad and she is more careful. Plus if there is a small place for parallel parking my dad would get out of the car and let her do it...
She is the bestest!
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Old 07.05.2010, 09:57
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Re: people shaking their heads

I get shakes of the head just for driving my Jeep or when I'm waiting to pick the missus up. It makes me smile. Flipping tree hugging hippies
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Old 07.05.2010, 09:58
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Re: people shaking their heads

Do I roll my eyes, take away your car keys for life, or enable your behavior?

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Old 07.05.2010, 10:09
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You might want to take some lessons until you're feeling more confident. You are driving a metal death machine and there is nothing cute about awkward maneuvers, clumsy driving or panicking drivers who by their own admittance are doing something wrong.

You need to gauge your level of competence by the reactions you are getting.

Look to yourself first, then criticize the rest of the head-shaking world.
No, please, it's not so serious. My metal death machine always goes under 50 km/hour, and my awkward maneuvers mean taking ten minutes to park when a normal driver would take ten seconds. I wasted both sides of my car with those concrete pilasters at Coop, but NEVER touched anybody's else car (that's why I take hours to park: I have to be careful cause I know my conception of space is particular).
Or for instance, this happened yesterday and that's the reason why I posted this: I gave priority to a tram that didn't have priority, and the tram driver was so disappointed and head shaking!
I am not SO dangerous, really, I was only having fun of me.
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Old 07.05.2010, 10:54
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No, please, it's not so serious. My metal death machine always goes under 50 km/hour.
What about in a 60 zone? Or on a motorway?

It is prudent to drive at the speed limit, otherwise you frustrate other drivers behind you and this can cause them to make risky overtaking moves, which scare you too.

The other day I was driving on the motorway at an 80km zone and a woman was driving at 45km.... it was actually dangerous to see cars braking behind her and then trying to jump ahead.

not that im saying that she was driving poorly because she was a woman. plenty of crappy male drivers out there too i guess.
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I gave priority to a tram that didn't have priority, and the tram driver was so disappointed and head shaking!
Don't wish to sound rude, but you gave priority to a tram that didn't
have priority and you are surprised he/she shook his/her head!!!
Was there a driver behind you when you stopped, who also knew
you had priority and expected you to continue?

Traffic rules/priority etc are there for a reason, if everyone abides
by the rules/priority etc then everyone knows exactly what to do
and what will happen. If you decide to change the rules yourself
when you fancy it you put others in danger.
I'm a biker and I've been knocked off seven times by people who
decided to do what they wanted/bad driving or a mixture of both.
I'm sorry to sound harsh but if you have a problem driving then
don't, buy a bus pass.
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No, please, it's not so serious. My metal death machine always goes under 50 km/hour, and my awkward maneuvers mean taking ten minutes to park when a normal driver would take ten seconds. I wasted both sides of my car with those concrete pilasters at Coop, but NEVER touched anybody's else car (that's why I take hours to park: I have to be careful cause I know my conception of space is particular).
Or for instance, this happened yesterday and that's the reason why I posted this: I gave priority to a tram that didn't have priority, and the tram driver was so disappointed and head shaking!
I am not SO dangerous, really, I was only having fun of me.
Driving that slow in itself can be a huge danger to those around you. If you are wasting your bodywork on man made topographical features, it is time to face facts... I'm sorry but it sounds as if you need to either take lessons, or take the train.
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Old 07.05.2010, 09:52
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Re: people shaking their heads

Take solace- you can't possibly be this bad:


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Old 07.05.2010, 09:49
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Re: people shaking their heads

I shouldn't post this ( but that has never stopped me before )

but Mrs. G says that the reason women can't park is that for years they have been being told that this "_____________" is eight inches.



I don't really understand her sometimes.
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Old 07.05.2010, 10:03
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I know, I cannot drive, I cannot park my car, and in general when I'm driving I am very clumsy. I easily panic, too.
But is it necessary to shake heads and look at me with such contempt everytime I do something wrong? Even people not directly involved in my awkward manoeuvres feel the need to show their disappointment by looking at me and shaking their heads.
Is it happening only to me or this "shaking the head" habit is typically Swiss?
I find it so unpleasant!
you should be driving. seriously. when you run someone down are you going to giggle 'oops, clumsy me, never mind?'
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Unbelievable! *shakes head*
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Re: people shaking their heads

I do this constantly to idiots who can't drive. If they're near me trying to park with the window open (in an underground carpark) I make sure to tut loudly enough that they can hear. Sometimes I look dissappointed with their performance, other times I raise my eyebrows and wag my finger.

I'm confident it makes them feel good about themselves.


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I know, I cannot drive, I cannot park my car, and in general when I'm driving I am very clumsy. I easily panic, too.
But is it necessary to shake heads and look at me with such contempt everytime I do something wrong? Even people not directly involved in my awkward manoeuvres feel the need to show their disappointment by looking at me and shaking their heads.
Is it happening only to me or this "shaking the head" habit is typically Swiss?
I find it so unpleasant!
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I do this constantly to idiots who can't drive. If they're near me trying to park with the window open (in an underground carpark) I make sure to tut loudly enough that they can hear. Sometimes I look dissappointed with their performance, other times I raise my eyebrows and wag my finger.

I'm confident it makes them feel good about themselves.
I feel sure that it would do.
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I do this constantly to idiots who can't drive. If they're near me trying to park with the window open (in an underground carpark) I make sure to tut loudly enough that they can hear. Sometimes I look dissappointed with their performance, other times I raise my eyebrows and wag my finger.

I'm confident it makes them feel good about themselves.
Hello Economisto, it's nice meeting you, finally! Every time you raise your eyebrow it takes to me five minutes more to park, for your finger wagged I could employ half an hour, beware.
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Old 07.05.2010, 10:23
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Learn how to drive please.
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I do this constantly to idiots who can't drive. If they're near me trying to park with the window open (in an underground carpark) I make sure to tut loudly enough that they can hear. Sometimes I look dissappointed with their performance, other times I raise my eyebrows and wag my finger.

I'm confident it makes them feel good about themselves.
I prefer to opt for either a 'slow-to-fast' or a 'fast-to-slow' headshake, generally one or the other is appropriate for every sighting of inept drivers, like as in "Whoa, look at that dude trying to shoe-horn their SUV in a space only big enough for smart car, that deserves a 'slow-to-fast', that'll show 'em!'
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"shaking the head" habit is typically Swiss?
I find it so unpleasant!
I am sure, they were all Bulgarians, so nothing really to worry about. Just smile and shake back
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