i would say more cynical than realistic.

I think it's clear that nowhere did I say this was the only reason to enter into a relationship. However I do think your viewpoint only has the short-term in mind, and when you start to age to the point where you can no longer attract the kind of young strapping man you want, then you might find your self with a lot of needs and no-one to satisfy them for a long while.

Companionship with another person obviously isn't the sole reason for any relationship, but I think it's certainly an important and valid part of one, especially as you age.

So you are saying that, once one has aged, there is no/less chance at a relationship. Which suggests that when you age, you are also less attractive, at least as a woman, whereas many men GAIN status and desirability with age because they are wealthy. So then all you can hope for is that the guy has some kind of sense of loyalty towards you that stops him from trading you for or at least test-driving a younger model.

Fascinating how you are twisting my words into an argument that supports your own cynicism. However I shall bow out gracefully of this particular debate as I don't think we could reach an understanding with our somewhat radically opposing viewpoints. Anyway i'm not criticizing, if it works for you now in whatever terms you define that, then good for you.

I'm not too worried about the age thing.
My mum is 50 and she still makes men turn their heads.
I've got friends 40-50 who's husbands are absolutely crazy about them.

Charm at all age exists and love does lasts for some

to some extent, i think this is true, but the fact that many people stay together shows that many men don't simply jump ship at a convenient moment.

while looks are important (or at least attractiveness is) i must admit i'm a bit of a freak since i don't select women primarily based on looks but rather on: child-raising ability, temperament and the ability to have interesting conversations with.

unfortunately, although you can assess a woman's looks within a split second, these other factors take a lot more effort and in the case of the first either require observation when children are around or borrowing children for a date.

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hahahahaha....
keep posting pics of yourself with hot Swedish chicks on Facebook, Phil!

where did he find those????!!!

I recommend Sweden. There's loads of 'em there. And it's true that all of the men are a mix of Bjorn Borg and them geezers out of Abba.

Totally agree, some women actually shine in their 40's

yeah well, Botox can have that effect.

Edit: I see Begga's groan. I wasn't talking about yer mom. I was talking about the shining effect

because on other latitudes people have something called "moral values" ?

what exactly is lacking of moral value? what exactly is against any perceived moral value? She at least is honest.

Personally, while I don't agree with her approach, it is completely open: the other person (or persons) involved know exactly what is happening, and can choose to either go along with things or stay out of it. No deceit.

Why do a lot of young men get sexually attracted to older women I mean 40 to 50- don't sugar-coat it, I want honest answers I have a few theories:

1. They have low self-esteem so they think that an older woman won't reject them
2. They think older women are less likely to place demands on them- for money, commitment, babies
3. They have a mother complex
4. They grew up with older people so they relate to that era.
5. They find older women are more sexually confident
6. The woman is just very attractive (Demi Moore?)
7. They find older women more intellectually interesting
8. Older women are more open, more relaxed, nothing phases them
9. They think they are less likely to get an STD
10, Older women can give them more time/attention -as she has fewer demands such as working, studying, looking after kids

Agreed, while its not my cup of tea either, it's hardly immoral or duplicitous if everyone knows where they stand. If someone chooses to stick with it after knowing they are essentially considered disposable, then they have noone but themselves to blame if they get hurt.

perhaps they've been deceived by their experience with younger women ?

it actually makes me think, as I myself looking for a woman older than me.

that's interesting


adding : I still answer to younger women and chat & meet if they want, but I only contact 40 - 47.

meh---age is just a number, there's nothing more refreshing than dating an older woman then making the shift a girl who's 2 thirds your age

Older women are less caught up with self-confidence issues. They know their bodies, know what they look like and are aware that it's not all about looks anyway.

Really depend on the person I think. Most of the younger women I would date don't care about their appearance, No make-up, running shoes, not time spent on hair, sweat pants and a hoodie. Personally I find that soo much more attractive than then blind following of magazine trends I find here. Older women really can't pull that off anymore.