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Old 29.12.2010, 01:00
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Re: Meeting New Friends and Dating

i don't think language is a major problem when dating - more concerning would be the vast cultural gulf between swiss and british culture.

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Old 29.12.2010, 01:06
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i don't think language is a major problem when dating - more concerning would be the vast cultural gulf between swiss and british culture.
To clarify:

Swiss Girls: talk, inspect, get out for dinner, have long chats and nice time for 2 / 3 dates then decide to be with you or not.

British Girls: Vodka / Redbull and more Vodka Redbull, crazy night out and you're done......(pregnancy test after 2 months)
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Old 29.12.2010, 03:00
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Nothing definite but I'm having a very good time being me.
The flip side is that occasionally it is just enjoyable being alone. Space is such a vital commodity in Switzerland so sometimes you have to resort to creating your own; well mentally at least. I'm sure Bernhard would back me up here- if he wasn't doing exactly that and taking a social break right now

So for all those who enjoy being alone-an ode to solitude

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To clarify:

Swiss Girls: talk, inspect, get out for dinner, have long chats and nice time for 2 / 3 dates then decide to be with you or not.

British Girls: Vodka / Redbull and more Vodka Redbull, crazy night out and you're done......(pregnancy test after 2 months)
Funny - but unfortunately not compleately true! I am living here now for 1 year, am female and now some Swiss ladies. I can tell you: "Vodka / Redbull and more Vodka Redbull, crazy night out and you're done" is true for them as well.

Where are the interesting man in Zürich?
At first sight some men (any nationality) here appear to be interesting but then come up with some scary / weird stuff at the 2nd or 3rd date!
Plus my experience is that men and women in Zürich are not interested in serious relationships. Many of my friends (m and f) agree on this fact. It is always "friends with benefits". That repels women like me to get to know men...

Conclusion:
In Zürich it is easy to meet people and make friends. Not so easy to "honestly"/"seriously" date.

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On the other hand I have 2 friends who found their BIG LOVE here.... Nothing is impossible.

Good luck!
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The flip side is that occasionally it is just enjoyable being alone. Space is such a vital commodity in Switzerland so sometimes you have to resort to creating your own; well mentally at least. I'm sure Bernhard would back me up here- if he wasn't doing exactly that and taking a social break right now
With all due respect, and for obvious reasons, I don't think Bertrands (im presuming thats who you meant) periodic desire for solitude represents the vast majority of people living within Switzerland.

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Where are the interesting man in Zürich?
At first sight some men (any nationality) here appear to be interesting but then come up with some scary / weird stuff at the 2nd or 3rd date!
Plus my experience is that men and women in Zürich are not interested in serious relationships. Many of my friends (m and f) agree on this fact. It is always "friends with benefits". That repels women like me to get to know men...
But thats just stereotyping on their part, surely you must realise that. I know a fair few blokes either in serious relationships or that want one, and the same goes for women. Sure, due to the nature of the ex-pat scene, many people are here short-term so adjust their attitudes accordingly, but many are here for the forseeable future, and feel more settled.
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Re: Meeting New Friends and Dating

I've read enough nonsense here, now lets get practical and solve the issue with a scientific approach.

So Mr doggdig the practical way to achieving any end is to plan it carefully. First of all we need to know what you are equipped with to take into the dating battlefield.

Looks: If ugly is 0 and "women look at me and melt" is 10, how would you rate yourself?
If below 7, can you make up for it with a good sense of dressing?

Money: Are you rich? Total assets worth atleast a few million CHF and monthly income of CHF 250k+?
If you're not rich then:

Can you sustainably bullshit about being rich, having yachts parked at distant lakes, holiday homes in remote places etc for, say 2-3 dates, without breaking sweat until you get her in the sack without any remorse or guilt?
Do you have the endurance to deal with the crap she would throw at you afterwards upon realising what happened?*

Wit & Sense of humour: If "would tickle someone and they wont laugh" being 0 and "can say something hilarious in the nick of time to someone fuming at me and make them crack up" being 10, how would you rate your sense of humour?
If below 6, can you make up for it by buying frequently random small gifts like chocolates, candies, flowers etc?

*Note: You need level 8+ wit and sense of humour to successfully and happily pull off pre date BS part.

Desperation (for the lack of a better words like importance and urgency):
If "my friends hot looking gf ask me to give her one and I wont do it becuase ist wrong" being 0 and "I look at a whole roasted chicken and I get ideas" being 10, how would you rate your desperation?

If below 6, can you induce it with alcohol and wacky backy stuff?

Extra points for if you can spot what a particuler woman thinks her best features are, or if she is sporting a new look, jewelery or dressing and compliment her appropriately.

Dont worry about Swiss women these techniques are tried and tested around the globe.
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Old 29.12.2010, 11:31
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Desperation (for the lack of a better words like importance and urgency):
If "my friends hot looking gf ask me to give her one and I wont do it becuase ist wrong" being 0 and "I look at a whole roasted chicken and I get ideas" being 10, how would you rate your desperation?.
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Re: Meeting New Friends and Dating

This thread is a joke.
I am male, arrived there last June.
I've been going out only with Swiss women and I keep being in demand.
They actually crave foreigners since Swiss men are weird.

For female expats trying a Swiss man, that is another story for sure though and yes, keep looking for expats.

There is one thing to do with Swiss women: be persistent and make the first move. They just test you with their first rebuff.

Easy said obviously but if you could only date drunk women in the UK, you won't make it here.
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I've read enough nonsense here, now lets get practical and solve the issue with a scientific approach.
And ....
how would you rate yourself on all these points Mr. Wasted?
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Old 29.12.2010, 11:50
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There is one thing to do with Swiss women: be persistent and make the first move. They just test you with their first rebuff.
Can you provide examples......as this might mislead the OP and can end up arranging his first date in the bedroom directly
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how would you rate yourself on all these points Mr. Wasted?
I don't think you wanna know.......just mentioning "I look at a whole roasted chicken and I get ideas" doesn't look so promising imho
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I don't think you wanna know.......just mentioning "I look at a whole roasted chicken and I get ideas" doesn't look so promising imho
Mais oui, I want to know!

In the meantime, don't we all miss how simple things were, back then ... when ...

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Old 29.12.2010, 12:23
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And ....
how would you rate yourself on all these points Mr. Wasted?

he's single... wouldn't you guess it?
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how would you rate yourself on all these points Mr. Wasted?
Madamoiselle, Je suis un homme très de peu de mots et humilie surtout.

I am badly in need of some assessment as of late. If you are so curious, why dont we go on a date. I'll bring the scoresheet and you can score me.

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I don't think you wanna know.......just mentioning "I look at a whole roasted chicken and I get ideas" doesn't look so promising imho
Smart ones learn from others.
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Old 29.12.2010, 12:28
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Mais oui, I want to know!

In the meantime, don't we all miss how simple things were, back then ... when ...

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Madamoiselle, Je suis un homme très de peu de mots et humilie surtout.

I am badly in need of some assessment as of late. If you are so curious, why dont we go on a date. I'll bring the scoresheet and you can score me.
Voila....a date
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hmm sounds a bit daunting. Surely they're not all goldiggers?
No they're not, you are just reading replies (mostly) from those who have come here in their (corporate) worker bubble & the social scene attached to it or from those who see dating as a means to a shag (or those that are just plain goddamn ugly). In fact, all could be relevant to many of these posters so take the answers with a pinch of salt.
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he's single... wouldn't you guess it?
Is he now. I thought he had sought out advise on here on how to propose?
Looks like he's a busy man ...
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After brief but intensive research into the dating game, I've come up with the following:

- EF Forum is fabulous
- Swissfriends is great to pass the time and you might meet some nice women
- glocals has some fantastic single events
- go to some EF get togethers to meet friends
- English classes at Migros Klubschule or KV have lots of very nice single women (just pretend you don't speak English well )
- Come to Brunnen on Feb. 25 to meet a lot of local Swiss women
- Go to local fests
- go to local bars
- lots of single women who mountain bike nowadays
- lots of single women ride trains
- get involved in a hobby here... you never know
- Enjoy Switzerland even if you don't have a partner
- If you like yourself, the world will like you too.
I'd agree wholeheartedly with that one...unless of course you are plain ugly, then it's easier said than done after a few knockbacks & to be honest MANY of the English speakers in CH are not exactly your Richard Gere's (most are bald & wrinkly).
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I'd agree wholeheartedly with that one...unless of course you are plain ugly, then it's easier said than done after a few knockbacks & to be honest MANY of the English speakers in CH are not exactly your Richard Gere's (most are bald & wrinkly).

Ha ha!!
Many rich Swiss are also like this!!

Have been on a couple of dates with older Swiss guys with influential positions and money, but I am obviously not a gold digger. If the attraction isn't there, then it's not for me, despite the size of his bank account.
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I'd agree wholeheartedly with that one...unless of course you are plain ugly, then it's easier said than done after a few knockbacks & to be honest MANY of the English speakers in CH are not exactly your Richard Gere's (most are bald & wrinkly).
It's Wentworth Miller for me - even if he is gay!
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