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haven't read all the answers - but I don't think elderly people react that way because a pregnant women wears tight clothes but because a woman wears tight clothes

I just always thought that being pregnant is the most normal thing so why should I show off my belly as if I'd done something no one else could do to get a baby bump? (yes if I had a sixpack I'd show it off cause THAT takes a lot of work ).
Actually, just a note, there are many girls that couldn't and can't get a baby bump...While six pack is something most people can achieve if they leave bad food alone and move. But I get your point.
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Re: Pregnant - Please do not show too much figure ;o)

Some show their G-String and everybody got a butt. Some show their belly.

I don't see the problem with that.

If you wear fit clothes, why should you wear something else while pregnant?
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If it helps any, I was hit by old ladies with handbags and called a variety of names, some of which I had to research as had not heard them before when I was pregnant all because I looked several years younger than I actually was, luckily, time has now caught up and then some

I was wearing the very traditional 'flowing' robes when pregnant, so can only put the above attitudes to the delay in the older generation to respond to culteral changes in the uk at the time.
For me this can only happen in Russia (no offense, it indeed happened)....but in Switzerland?...hard to imagine. In spite of that, someone dares to hit pregnant woman?!?! That's crazy and dangerous. I'd call police for that.....

- a "well-self-protected and always keep watching the situation and people around" pregnant woman.
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Re: Pregnant - Please do not show too much figure ;o)

when someone stares at me, I stare back in the same way. ^^
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Although, I must say ..... 40 years ago .... when brave young wives walked proudly on the beach in their bikinis with their bulge .. they THEN got the disparaging looks from the elderly.

(Who moved the cheese?)
Gosh, that sounds liberated. Where was it?

I always thought that Demi Moore moved the perimeters for pregnant dressing, after posing naked and beautifully pregnant on the cover of some magazine.
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Pregnancy is not a "lifestyle". Women have been giving birth for thousands possibly millions of years. It's not something new for any generation. Old people look at women today showing off their bump because they're wondering "what the hell is she trotting around like shes doing something new,it's no big deal. I've had 10 of them." A woman throwing her pregnancy in the face of others by dressing inappropriately for her belly size is annoying to most people, that includes young ones too. Its about staying within good taste really.
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I think that pregnant women have enough to deal with, without the appropriate attire police. They should wear whatever makes them and their baby happy.
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I think that pregnant women have enough to deal with, without the appropriate attire police. They should wear whatever makes them and their baby happy.
The baby isnt' even born yet! A pregnant woman is quite noticeable, no less if she's walking around with her large belly hanging out walking down Bahnhofstrasse. Sorry, its just tacky and inappropriate even if she's not pregnant. Does that make her "happy"? Then they wonder why people are "staring at them."

Pregnancy should be respected by the woman who is carrying the child. Its a point in a womans life when she most vulnerable and beautiful too. (Well, sometimes LOL) Its a shame when some ruin it trying to make it a "fashion statement" or "trendy". Its not. To some women it may be their first or they've had a hard time getting pregnant, but they must not forget women have given birth in the backwoods, on trains, in the taxi,onthe bathroom floor...etc! Some have had it rough for sure, and they've got the scars to prove it...LOL Its a time when a women should be more sophisticated not a rebell. Out of respect for herself and her soon to be born child. Women have been having children for millineums, so pregnant women today can chill out basically...Its amazing some of these "throw it your face" pregnant women act like its never happened before. Have respect for your elders please!...LOL
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I think that pregnant women have enough to deal with, without the appropriate attire police. They should wear whatever makes them and their baby happy.

I agree with this! I base most of my daily clothing choices (currently 27 weeks pregnant) on what feels best for me and baby. The baby lets me know if something isn't quite right (too tight here or there) and it depends on what I'll be doing that day. But that said, I also like to be fashionable whether I'm pregnant or not. When I wear those old fashioned pregnancy shirts I feel like a tent walking down the street. When you're gaining weight at a rate unlike any other time in your life (or for me the first time in your life) it's difficult enough to dress...and even more difficult to still feel attractive in what still fits you. I don't dress to "show off" or get attention for my belly...but it's really out there and impossible to hide, but also I'm not ashamed of it. There are many people with crazy fashion tastes who walk around and aren't necessarily chastised for it...but for some reason pregnant women get a whole separate "appropriate fashion police" allocated to them. But, I have to say for the most part, I have experienced what Nil said, that most people smile and give a knowing nod at the belly, even if I'm wearing a t-shirt stretched tightly over it.

I say to all pregnant (and non-pregnant) women...wear what feels good for YOU...and if that's a huge yellow striped shirt with pink bows and green yoga pants, cool...or if it's high heels and a fashionable (and perhaps tight) dress/shirt...well, you go girl...and I hope you have someone at home to rub your feet at night.
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There are many people with crazy fashion tastes who walk around and aren't necessarily chastised for it...
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Basic Life Advice .... If you please yourself, then you please others. If you try to please others, neither of you will be pleased.

Wear what makes you happy, what you are comfortable with.

Then you have time to concentrate on Life!
I'm marking this Thread so that the next time we get one about 'little old ladies shouldn't wear jeans, shouldn't wander around in bathing costumes which show their no longer quite so elegant thighs, shouldn't wear tight-fitting cycling gear, low-necked dresses, bright colours, clothes designed for teenagers...' I'll be able to remember what you all said.
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Re: Pregnant - Please do not show too much figure ;o)

I believe that not everything is good to wear. Some clothes should never have been design and I feel part responsible for that!

BUT

A preggo showing her belly? Come on! It is not like we put some fit clothes in the morning thinking:

- I am going down the street with sexy clothes on to show to the rest of the world how fertile I am! I am pregnant!!! Admire me!



I just refuse to look like a tent in the time of my life that I feel like a beluga! And I refuse to spend money on clothes that I don't like and that I will use only for a specific time line.

I have my normal clothes on and I have some maternity jeans (and this is because I can't fit in my normal jeans)

You see my belly? Yep

Do you see my boobs? I hope not, but those two got so big that I can't find a place for them....

Do you see my skin? not more then any other woman.

So give me a break and let me be hot (as much as a beluga can be).

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I believe that not everything is good to wear. Some clothes should never have been design and I feel part responsible for that!

BUT

A preggo showing her belly? Come on! It is not like we put some fit clothes in the morning thinking:

- I am going down the street with sexy clothes on to show to the rest of the world how fertile I am! I am pregnant!!! Admire me!



I just refuse to look like a tent in the time of my life that I feel like a beluga! And I refuse to spend money on clothes that I don't like and that I will use only for a specific time line.

I have my normal clothes on and I have some maternity jeans (and this is because I can't fit in my normal jeans)

You see my belly? Yep

Do you see my boobs? I hope not, but those two got so big that I can't find a place for them....

Do you see my skin? not more then any other woman.

So give me a break and let me be hot (as much as a beluga can be).

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Re: Pregnant - Please do not show too much figure ;o)

I just refuse to look like a tent in the time of my life that I feel like a beluga!


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You see my belly? Yep

Do you see my boobs? I hope not, but those two got so big that I can't find a place for them....

Do you see my skin? not more then any other woman.

So give me a break and let me be hot (as much as a beluga can be).

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YOU ARE SO RIGHT!! I`m still me - why should I dress differently when I`m pregnant? It is fantastic that they now design decent clothes for pregnant women. Your body is behaving crazy - so dressing like you use to is really a relief
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Hmmm: Tried to find "thank you" Nil, but I can`t see where to push. Hopefully I`ll learn.
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Hmmm: Tried to find "thank you" Nil, but I can`t see where to push. Hopefully I`ll learn.
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Re: Pregnant - Please do not show too much figure ;o)

As a Swiss - I would have said before that Swiss people do not stare any more than others. But, having come back to live here, I notice this too! I certainly was taught that it is bad manners to stare, but my Swiss parents.
Just before I left for the UK (6 months = 40 years), I went for lunch with my younger brother, who had just spent 6 months in hospital after a full frontal encounter with a car (he driving a motorbike). He was badly scared, and his face was defo not 'quite' the right shape, even after several ops. A group of 2 women and 2 men, stared at him and were obviously talking about thim the whole time - fortunately he could not see them and did not notice. At the end of the meal, I told my bro I had to go to the toilets, and to wait for me outside. I went straight to their table and told them that I'd hope that if them or one of their loved ones ever had to develop a severe handicap, they wouldn't have to deal with staring idiots like them. They were a bit shocked.

Now I do stare back, and tackle them with whatever 'witty' répartie I come about at the time. However I'd say that if you dress 'un-usually' then it is just great, but must be prepared for others' reactions and not be offended.
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The baby isnt' even born yet! A pregnant woman is quite noticeable, no less if she's walking around with her large belly hanging out walking down Bahnhofstrasse. Sorry, its just tacky and inappropriate even if she's not pregnant. Does that make her "happy"? Then they wonder why people are "staring at them."

Pregnancy should be respected by the woman who is carrying the child. Its a point in a womans life when she most vulnerable and beautiful too. (Well, sometimes LOL) Its a shame when some ruin it trying to make it a "fashion statement" or "trendy". Its not. To some women it may be their first or they've had a hard time getting pregnant, but they must not forget women have given birth in the backwoods, on trains, in the taxi,onthe bathroom floor...etc! Some have had it rough for sure, and they've got the scars to prove it...LOL Its a time when a women should be more sophisticated not a rebell. Out of respect for herself and her soon to be born child. Women have been having children for millineums, so pregnant women today can chill out basically...Its amazing some of these "throw it your face" pregnant women act like its never happened before. Have respect for your elders please!...LOL
A mother's emotions affect her baby. Emotions are chemical transmitted, which, as the baby is sharing the same body, will be felt by the baby too

Also there are of course certain clothes that could (I am assuming) make the baby uncomfortable if the mother is uncomfortable. Also if the shoe heel is too high it pushes the pelvis, by changing the posture. Plus they are dangerous on stairs etc.

Apart from that- do I mind seeing a woman's pregnant belly?- of course not. I feel honoured that she is sharing her joy with the world. Life is so full of pressures on women to be unnatural- getting plastic surgery etc.,so I applaud women who don't want to hide what a woman's body is capable of.

Some of these women are so beautiful. I see men looking at them and go totally gushy. A new study has shown that more men want children than women now. Yes. the men who love them can mix love and sex and can be so totally into the way a woman's body changes. But I suppose that you don't want that in your face either?

Throw it in your face? Walk around with their bellies hanging out? What is your problem? Women get pregnant and they do not have to hide it just to please people like you.
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Re: Pregnant - Please do not show too much figure ;o)

I've experienced many people staring at my daughter breastfeeding, very discreetly, using a shawl, in the UK. the first time was at a Motorway station, where the only place to feed new baby was in the toilets! so she had no choice. I could have quite happily smacked a few people that day (sorry, but I did really) - as a new mum a few days after having a Ceasarian (we were driving up to our house so we could look after her as her OH had to go away), struggling a bit to establish feeding - she really did not need that. Starers were defo NOT Swiss btw.
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A mother's emotions affect her baby. Emotions are chemical transmitted, which, as the baby is sharing the same body, will be felt by the baby too

Also there are of course certain clothes that could (I am assuming) make the baby uncomfortable if the mother is uncomfortable. Also if the shoe heel is too high it pushes the pelvis, by changing the posture. Plus they are dangerous on stairs etc.

Apart from that- do I mind seeing a woman's pregnant belly?- of course not. I feel honoured that she is sharing her joy with the world. Life is so full of pressures on women to be unnatural- getting plastic surgery etc.,so I applaud women who don't want to hide what a woman's body is capable of.

Some of these women are so beautiful. I see men looking at them and go totally gushy. A new study has shown that more men want children than women now. Yes. the men who love them can mix love and sex and can be so totally into the way a woman's body changes. But I suppose that you don't want that in your face either?

Throw it in your face? Walk around with their bellies hanging out? What is your problem? Women get pregnant and they do not have to hide it just to please people like you.
No she doesn't have to please me, at all. But there are times when good taste is lacking and at times pregnant women are guilty of this too.

You must remember that women give birth to all kinds of children. That means those women pregnant now are carrying our new Einsteins, artist, criminals and child molesters too. They were all "born". So a pregnant woman flaunting her stomach in a ridiculous manner may be carrying our new Bill Gates or Hitler! I'm not impressed really...carry on
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No she doesn't have to please me, at all. But there are times when good taste is lacking and at times pregnant women are guilty of this too.

You must remember that women give birth to all kinds of children. That means those women pregnant now are carrying our new Einsteins, artist, criminals and child molesters too. They were all "born". So a pregnant woman flaunting her stomach in a ridiculous manner may be carrying our new Bill Gates or Hitler! I'm not impressed really...carry on
So you really think that the way a woman dressed ( irrespective of how it makes er feel) will have any bearing on whether a child turns out to be an Einstein or a criminal ? I don't get the connection. What I do understand is that hurtful comments such as your can cause some women to feel ostracized and resentful about being pushed to mask a beautiful natural process. Feeling ostracized and resentful can interfere with the mothering process. These women are not guilty of anything.
I am happy that you have conceded that these women don't have to please you. You are right they don't.

Some people have a real hang-up about other people's bodies. I really wouldn't care if the whole world went naked. These are just bodies, we have them- old, young, pregnant, different shapes and sizes, whatever, so get over it. Clothing choice- whatever they look like, is not a criminal act- it is not hurting anyone. If it hurts you then look to yourself for the reasons.
If I hear any pregnant women being the butt of derogatory remarks, then I will defend her, so would any of my sisters.
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