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Going out alone as a girl, a good way to meet people?

Oh dear me!

Moving to a different country [especially with the language barrier] proves to be quite frustrating at times.

I finally managed the courage to go out two weeks ago alone and I met some friendly people which was nice! The only problem that came across was that as they met more of their friends I started sticking out more and more. I felt like such a nuisance because the people kept having to translate since a lot the people did not speak english. I understand I should realize they should not be expected to know english. I don't expect it. I just felt this situation may just keep repeating itself.

To go out this weekend or to not to go out?
I'm not so great going out alone and my family has joked "it doesnt look good for a girl to out alone at night.."

But honestly, is it that bad? Is that not how you meet people.

Btw, I live near Kussnacht am rigi..so if you speak english and you are in the area..say hi!

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Old 24.02.2011, 19:05
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Ok, it's time you checked out the social threads. You need never go out alone again!
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or you can get the best of both worlds. Go out alone to the EF social events !!
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or you can get the best of both worlds. Go out alone to the EF social events !!
A young girl at an EF event. .. We should warn her about...you know who...
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haha, well what would you recommend? I sort of live far away from where most of them seem to be taking place...
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Re: Going out alone??

Working in a bar I see a fair few girls going out alone, though usually it's during the week rather than the weekend (or maybe they don't stand out as much during the weekend as there so many people around). I'd just suggest you watch how much you drink though (if that's your thing), get drunk by all means but avoid getting hammered (easy to do when you're on your own I found) and be aware of your surroundings.

After splitting up with my ex I was forced to go out alone a lot(perhaps more "accepted" for a guy?) if I wanted to leave "our" apartment. I absolutely hated doing it but forced myself really. Once I was out and if there was live music or at least a bit of ambiance I didn't mind as much but always felt very conspicuous when sitting/standing alone. Sometimes people invited me over and while that was very nice I always felt a little awkward (I did at least speak a decent level of French but translations or rephrasing was often needed ).

Basically what I'm saying is if you enjoy it then you should definitely do it as long as you are wary of any "dangers". Some people may find it strange but really, who cares? You are doing it for yourself and they probably can't understand how difficult being in a new city/place by yourself can be.

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You can meet people by going out sure but generally it's easier to meet people through work, university, social groups or clubs etc

I would highly recommend the EF nights out. I've only been to one (hoping to go to a second one tomorrow!) but everyone was very friendly, spoke English and I was even offered a bed afterwards to save a long trip back from Zurich by train that night. It was exactly what I needed while going through some rough times. This forum has its critics but it's readers are for the most part fantastic

I wish you all the best and we might even share a drink one day at an EF event!
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haha, well what would you recommend? I sort of live far away from where most of them seem to be taking place...

If you are in Greppen (as per your about me), there are fairly constant sbb connections to and from zurich or Lucern well into the morning. There are many who make the 'going out' trip from Basel into zurich, party it up and take the last (or first) train back. Fairly well connected overall, but you will have to put a bit of effort forward if you're living in...well whever.
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Oh dear me!

Moving to a different country [especially with the language barrier] proves to be quite frustrating at times.

I finally managed the courage to go out two weeks ago alone and I met some friendly people which was nice! The only problem that came across was that as they met more of their friends I started sticking out more and more. I felt like such a nuisance because the people kept having to translate since a lot the people did not speak english. I understand I should realize they should not be expected to know english. I don't expect it. I just felt this situation may just keep repeating itself.

To go out this weekend or to not to go out?
I'm not so great going out alone and my family has joked "it doesnt look good for a girl to out alone at night.."

But honestly, is it that bad? Is that not how you meet people.

Btw, I live near Kussnacht am rigi..so if you speak english and you are in the area..say hi!

Hi. I am not in your area, and anyway I`m too old for you to joll with.. But .. I would say, what you are doing (going out) is about the best thing you can be doing!

So what if you don`t speak the language .. the more you socialise, the more you will pick up!

I enjoy going out too, and before I could speak/understand German, people translated for me, and seemed to enjoy doing it (?) hahaaaaa ..... IF they spoke "a leetle beet of english".

Don`t worry about sticking out in the crowd. The crowd probably appreciate you being there! It does take courage to go out alone .. but it IS the best way to meet people ...AND to learn the language!

I had my most delightful early german conversations after a few beers! .. and the other person actually understood what I was saying!

If you stick to your own language groups to socialise ...... the slower it will be for you to learn the language.
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Re: Going out alone??

Thank you very much for your encouraging words!

hopefully i'll be able to meet you at some event or another
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Re: Going out alone??

Just browsing the threads .. thought I`d add a bit of informational advice to this thread.....

In SA, once upon a time, I took myself out for dinner, alone.......

Ahhhh .... I learned ... when doing that ..... next time ... take a book with, prop it up on the table (request a SMALL table for one) ... and read your way along while eating ... slurp your fingers clean, look contented, munch slowly, smile at your book like you really enjoying yourself!

I did not do that ... and on leaving ... got all those wistful "sorry for you being stood up" looks! Only when I got to my car did I realise everyone else in the restaurant thought I`d been stood up on a date!
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Re: Going out alone??

I saw this thread had to reply.
If you want to go out alone, just do it! When I was travelling, I took myself out for dinner, it was a positive experience, in the way that I know a lot of people wouldn't do it, and there I feel better and confident for doing something that scared me.

Another time... Whilst living in NZ, I really wanted to go out one evening but couldn't find anyone to go with me... so I went alone, I was nervous for sure; the bars were full of groups of friends.... However, I met a couple of guys, and started talking to them, went on to another bar with some music and well, here I am living in Switzerland with one of said guys, almost 4 years later with a gorgeous daughter and a beautiful life
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If you want to go out alone, just do it! When I was travelling, I took myself out for dinner, it was a positive experience, in the way that I know a lot of people wouldn't do it, and there I feel better and confident for doing something that scared me.

Another time... Whilst living in NZ, I really wanted to go out one evening but couldn't find anyone to go with me... so I went alone, I was nervous for sure; the bars were full of groups of friends.... However, I met a couple of guys, and started talking to them, went on to another bar with some music and well, here I am living in Switzerland with one of said guys, almost 4 years later with a gorgeous daughter and a beautiful life
I love stories that have such a happy ending
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Just browsing the threads .. thought I`d add a bit of informational advice to this thread.....

In SA, once upon a time, I took myself out for dinner, alone.......

Ahhhh .... I learned ... when doing that ..... next time ... take a book with, prop it up on the table (request a SMALL table for one) ... and read your way along while eating ... slurp your fingers clean, look contented, munch slowly, smile at your book like you really enjoying yourself!

I did not do that ... and on leaving ... got all those wistful "sorry for you being stood up" looks! Only when I got to my car did I realise everyone else in the restaurant thought I`d been stood up on a date!
you should have cried to see if they let you off the bill
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Just browsing the threads .. thought I`d add a bit of informational advice to this thread.....

In SA, once upon a time, I took myself out for dinner, alone.......

Ahhhh .... I learned ... when doing that ..... next time ... take a book with, prop it up on the table (request a SMALL table for one) ... and read your way along while eating ... slurp your fingers clean, look contented, munch slowly, smile at your book like you really enjoying yourself!

I did not do that ... and on leaving ... got all those wistful "sorry for you being stood up" looks! Only when I got to my car did I realise everyone else in the restaurant thought I`d been stood up on a date!
I think I have a business idea: blow-up dinner companions. One that folds into the handbag - these ones are too heavy to carry wit you...

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I think that it depends why you are going out alone. People go out to socialize I don't. So you might like going out alone. I like being anonymous. I travel alone a lot- I enjoy it. I always meet interesting people, although I am not trying to meet people. I just can't help talking to people, but usually I want to do my own thing, so I turn down all invitations from strangers irrelevant of age or sex. There are men who will persuade a woman to get you to follow her, then they will be waiting- shocking but true! Sometimes it is tempting. I once got invited onto one of the Super yachts during the Cannes film festival-stiff like that, but basically you have to say "No". I have had some strange encounters. I never tell anyone that am traveling alone. I say that my partner is with me but on business.

I would advise that you plan your route and keep to it and have someone that you check in regularly with, in case something happens. You also need to know how to deter sexual advances. I don't wear expensive jewelry and keep money stashed in different places. I always make sure that I have a phone handy preferably one with internet, sometimes more than one phone.


I tend to wander- when exploring new places, I get too curious, that can be dangerous, especially when you get lost in the dark. The only thing I haven't done and really want to do is to go walking in the Adirondacks - alone.
Oh and if driving don't pick up hitchhikers. Don't get into feeling sorry for and helping people. Always check hotel rooms before paying for them- check doors windows etc.

If you go to a bar, (I don't go to bars) but I do dance wildly. Sometimes I just have to go out to dance. I make sure that I phone a trusted person to pick me up, have the car parked where I can see it in good light. Walking to the car I make sure that I am on the phone with someone. I only drink water. I never leave a drink unnattended-if a group joins me I keep my hand over it. I never allow anyone to buy me a drink or give me gifts.
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To go out this weekend or to not to go out?
I'm not so great going out alone and my family has joked "it doesnt look good for a girl to out alone at night.."

But honestly, is it that bad? Is that not how you meet people.

Btw, I live near Kussnacht am rigi..so if you speak english and you are in the area..say hi!

I know exactly how you're feeling. When I first got here I was kinda locked up in a village in Schwyz, no bars, no nothing, and the natives were friendly but... So I finally got myself in the car (no public transport from there) and went to the big city (Zug) to the pub. After a few times I knew some of the regular drinkers and one night I found MG's s-i-l on a barstool. Another happy ending here
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Re: Going out alone as a girl, a good way to meet people?

There is a community program in Küssnacht am Rigi called the Kulture Cafe. http://www.schulenkuessnacht.ch/inde...e-der-kulturen. I went a couple of months ago and there were quite a few younger people there so it could be a good way for you to meet new people. I'm from Canada too but probably a bit too old for you to hang out with but it would be nice to see you there. The next one is on March 7th from 18:00 to 22:00 and it is located in the school house on Seemat 2 down by the lake. http://www.treffderkulturen.ch/aktuell.htm
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It's Fasnacht in Küssnacht. I was there last Sunday with my friends and had a nice time. In fact, I had the most fun standing in line to buy something. That's where you really can meet new people. However, that also means you may have to start the conversation.

You'd be surprised how easily the Swiss can be engaged in a conversation at these festivals.

Enjoy!
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Re: Going out alone as a girl, a good way to meet people?

Hi I am quasi your neighbor, living in Risch, about 3 min away from Küssnacht.

So if you like to meet, laugh chatter and are not afraid of a (serious)dog, drop me a pm line and tell me more about you...
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Oh dear me!

Moving to a different country [especially with the language barrier] proves to be quite frustrating at times.

I finally managed the courage to go out two weeks ago alone and I met some friendly people which was nice! The only problem that came across was that as they met more of their friends I started sticking out more and more. I felt like such a nuisance because the people kept having to translate since a lot the people did not speak english. I understand I should realize they should not be expected to know english. I don't expect it. I just felt this situation may just keep repeating itself.

To go out this weekend or to not to go out?
I'm not so great going out alone and my family has joked "it doesnt look good for a girl to out alone at night.."

But honestly, is it that bad? Is that not how you meet people.

Btw, I live near Kussnacht am rigi..so if you speak english and you are in the area..say hi!

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I think that it depends why you are going out alone. People go out to socialize I don't. So you might like going out alone. I like being anonymous. I travel alone a lot- I enjoy it. I always meet interesting people, although I am not trying to meet people. I just can't help talking to people, but usually I want to do my own thing, so I turn down all invitations from strangers irrelevant of age or sex. There are men who will persuade a woman to get you to follow her, then they will be waiting- shocking but true! Sometimes it is tempting. I once got invited onto one of the Super yachts during the Cannes film festival-stiff like that, but basically you have to say "No". I have had some strange encounters. I never tell anyone that am traveling alone. I say that my partner is with me but on business.

I would advise that you plan your route and keep to it and have someone that you check in regularly with, in case something happens. You also need to know how to deter sexual advances. I don't wear expensive jewelry and keep money stashed in different places. I always make sure that I have a phone handy preferably one with internet, sometimes more than one phone.


I tend to wander- when exploring new places, I get too curious, that can be dangerous, especially when you get lost in the dark. The only thing I haven't done and really want to do is to go walking in the Adirondacks - alone.
Oh and if driving don't pick up hitchhikers. Don't get into feeling sorry for and helping people. Always check hotel rooms before paying for them- check doors windows etc.

If you go to a bar, (I don't go to bars) but I do dance wildly. Sometimes I just have to go out to dance. I make sure that I phone a trusted person to pick me up, have the car parked where I can see it in good light. Walking to the car I make sure that I am on the phone with someone. I only drink water. I never leave a drink unnattended-if a group joins me I keep my hand over it. I never allow anyone to buy me a drink or give me gifts.
Sounds like fun...

You know it's not paranoia if 'they' really are out to get you! It sounds as if you live a very closed off life, and maybe read into the garbage that horror movies feed you.
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