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Re: Turned down my dinner invitation

If one of my mates had cancelled the day before, I would have spoken to him to find out if everything was OK with him and the GF, or whether he had just screwed up and doubled booked. etc


Either way, If it was my mate, the conversation would have ended along the lines of ' Thats alright mate... Your a twat ....didn't want to cook for you anyway. So beer next week then ? '

I think I'm with coco.nails on this one

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Old 01.07.2011, 10:04
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If one of my mates had cancelled the day before, I would have spoken to him to find out if everything was OK with him and the GF, or whether he had just screwed up and doubled booked. etc


Either way, If it was my mate, the conversation would have ended along the lines of ' Thats alright mate... Your a twat ....didn't want to cock for you anyway. So beer next week then ? '

I think I'm with coco.nails on this one
Really? So glad to hear it.
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Old 01.07.2011, 10:06
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Re: Turned down my dinner invitation

ok... here I go off topic again..
in honour of Canada Day today
AND in honor of American Independence Day Monday
( my split personality )
I'll be hosting a BBQ this weekend... RSVP please?
serious replies only.
I don't want to spend all that time cooking and you plonkers stand me up!, I'd just cry.
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Old 01.07.2011, 10:08
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Re: Turned down my dinner invitation

The reason why your girlfriend told you to drop your friendship with him is probably because you turned into a whinning beast and she thought that for everybody sake, including you, it would be better when you get a bit of a distance.

To be honest, while I was reading the message, I was a bit surprised when I stumbled upon the "we both have girfriends". Your reaction is so explosive it looks more like an offended lover than friend...

He should have warned you in time. But instead of getting insanly angry with it, have an adult conversation and ask him to warn a little bit before, because you put a lot of work in this dinner. I'm sure he'll be happy to have a home made meal next time.




And can we please stop saying he's acting like a girl? Girls don't act like that when someone cancels a dinner, for heaven's sake.
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Old 01.07.2011, 10:12
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And can we please stop saying he's acting like a girl? Girls don't act like that when someone cancels a dinner, for heaven's sake.
Oh PUH-leeeeze....women are terrible. If one of your girlfriends cancels dinner or a date, ya'll turning it into some dynasty stuff.....applying "the art of war" and running through the house screaming "she's trying to destroy me".....
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Old 01.07.2011, 10:17
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Oh PUH-leeeeze....women are terrible. If one of your girlfriends cancels dinner or a date, ya'll turning it into some dynasty stuff.....applying "the art of war" and running through the house screaming "she's trying to destroy me".....
I'll probably just blow the trumpets and scream "YEEEEEEEEEEEEEES!!!! THE WHOLE BLOODY STEAKS JUST FOR MEEEEEEEEE!!!!!"



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Really? So glad to hear it.
LOL Was supposed to be Cook but in sympathy with the OP... I made bit of a freudian slip
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Old 01.07.2011, 10:28
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Re: Turned down my dinner invitation

just saw this thread so here's my 2 swiss cents....

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saying he had to see his girlfriend that night

Girlfriend is always more important than friends.
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Girlfriend is always more important than friends.
It depends how serious the relationship is.
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Old 01.07.2011, 10:34
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chance of sex is always more important than friends.

fixed that for you
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Old 01.07.2011, 10:36
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It depends how serious the relationship is.
That is unfortunately too true... And the girlfriend is always the last to know
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That is unfortunately too true... And the girlfriend is always the last to know
If she wouldn't stop complaining about Sally ditching her on Sushi night and let me watch the friggin game, she'd know. (I'm just illustrating my point...I don't watch tv let alone games)
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Old 01.07.2011, 10:56
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Re: Turned down my dinner invitation

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...I think both of these alternatives would have drummed up more EF sympathy. Why not when it's simply a mate that lets you down?
Because mates are mates. Not your significant other. Unless you're a girl under ~16 years old.
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Because mates are mates. Not your significant other. Unless you're a girl under ~16 years old.
what nationality is the op I wonder? mates rules must be different then the UK

chance of a shag = free pass from your mates
mate pisses you off = they buy the first round
never pull a mates ex

follow these rules and you can't go far wrong
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Old 01.07.2011, 11:06
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Because it's a simple HTFU situation.

That's what girlfriends usually do to male-male relationships.

If you'd changed the gender of the OP, you'd have had difficulty working out that it was a "man" who wrote it. I say "man", as I am still not sure that is the case.
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what nationality is the op I wonder? mates rules must be different then the UK

chance of a shag = free pass from your mates
mate pisses you off = they buy the first round
never pull a mates ex

follow these rules and you can't go far wrong
What if she's not my mate's ex...would that pass still apply?
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I have a close friend who I have known for years. We often have dinner together, at his place or mine. We both have girlfriends, but neither of us live with them. I invited him to dinner at my place recently, going to great trouble to prepare to make him welcome. However, one day before, he cancelled, saying he had to see his girlfriend that night. I was furious, and still am. He sent me an SMS to apologise after telling me personally, but I didnt answer, as I feel pretty let down. He's a good mate.

Do you think I am wrong to be angry? We work in the same bank, but I have now avoided him for 3 days. I dont want to stop being mates with a good friend, football mate, drinking buddy, but I am pretty pissed off. I hate cooking, but went out of my way to get in stuff for a nice evening. My girlfriend says drop him, as you just dont do that to a friend.

What do you think?
Jesus, he ain't your girlfriend mate, MAN-the-fu*k-UP
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Old 01.07.2011, 11:48
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I don't think so, if he goes on a girly sulk for 3 days.
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Old 01.07.2011, 12:17
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I'm just wondering how the thread would have turned out with the following minor tweaks to the plot...

1) I invited my Swiss colleague to dinner the other night but he didn't show up...

A whole range of "the Swiss" related stereotypical responses at how the Swiss have no social skills and no respect for foreigners' attempts to mix in.

2) I invited my (female) colleague to dinner the other night but she didn't show up...

Jocular questions about the size of the OP's manhood / his cooking skills, and (pah!) women (pah!). Followed by advice like "Ignore her" and "Obviously a stuck up cow".

I think both of these alternatives would have drummed up more EF sympathy. Why not when it's simply a mate that lets you down?

If it were a case of the invitee not "showing up" - regardless of gender or nationality - I'm sure plenty of the responses would have been different, including my own.

However, canceling with a day's notice AND follow-up apology SMS? Sorry, no dice.

Disappointment I can see, being so miffed to ignore the other person for days though, including not responding to SMS with apology / explanation, that's a bit too much.
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Re: Turned down my dinner invitation

Next time the dude comes around, cuff him, black bag over his head and straight down to the cellar room you've spent days decorating just for this special occasion.

You'll starve him first, no appetizers here buddy; get him praying for forgiveness. A couple of rounds of water-boarding follow, threaten him with a one way trip to Gitmo with no choice of wine on "Rendition One", then a night of white noise (Céline Dion is an acceptable alternative). Only when he crumbles and is willing to share the names of other menfolk that backed out of "male dinner dates" will you consider sharing the Black Forest Gateau that you had made for him especially with his initials highlighted with icing sugar.

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