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Old 15.05.2012, 22:42
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Should parents of small kids (3 yo) stay with their kids in other kids birthday party

My 3 years old daughter was invited for a birthday party at the house of one of her swiss colleagues of Spielgruppe. On the invitation just mention the address and time of start and end. Do you know if the mother should stay at the party together with her even it's not mentioned on the invitation or what's the normal expected behavior in Switzerland? I ask this because normally in our country the parents of kids younger than 5 years old would preferably stay, but as things here in Switzerland are different
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My 3 years old daughter was invited for a birthday party at the house of one of her swiss colleagues of Spielgruppe. On the invitation just mention the address and time of start and end. Do you know if the mother should stay at the party together with her even it's not mentioned on the invitation or what's the normal expected behavior in Switzerland? I ask this because normally in our country the parents of kids younger than 5 years old would preferably stay, but as things here in Switzerland are different
I definitely stay!
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Old 15.05.2012, 23:05
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Re: Should parents of small kids (3 yo) stay with their kids in other kids birthday p

Three year olds have sometimes still really weird ideas in their heads and I would not leave them alone unless you feel that all is cared for. A birthday party where a few Mums stay to help then I would say it is ok to ask if you can leave the little one there alone and pick up later. However, going there and seeing she is maybe by herself or with partner then I would ask to stay.

I would say, do that what makes you feel comfortable and there is nothing against staying at a party and enjoying a piece of cake with the kids. I dont think anyone will have something against that.
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Re: Should parents of small kids (3 yo) stay with their kids in other kids birthday p

I would stay, at my niece-in-laws 3rd birthday every parent stayed, it's part of the fun for the parents too, to have some adult company.
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Old 16.05.2012, 05:40
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Re: Should parents of small kids (3 yo) stay with their kids in other kids birthday p

I would prefer to stay but then i would check first if all moms are invited. I had one of the most embarrassing moments of my life when i went for a birthday party where supposedly only my child was invited. no one ever said a word but little into the party, i could make out that the hosts had not planned for all moms to stay and i was definitely one of them. I checked with them and i left (though they were polite enough to ask me to stay on) and went back only to pick my child up.
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Re: Should parents of small kids (3 yo) stay with their kids in other kids birthday p

I guess you can simply ask the mum when you arrive! And don't forget to ask your child too: some kids are scared of staying somewhere they don't know well without a parent, while others are all proud to be without mummy!

For my son's birthday parties, I welcome parents if they want to stay, but many are happy to have a few 'free' hours to be quiet
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Re: Should parents of small kids (3 yo) stay with their kids in other kids birthday p

I would bet that the parent(s) of the birthday child have a definite preference, one way or the other, as to whether they would like other parents to stay. It may depend upon a number of factors such as the number of children attending the party, how long the party lasts, and what kind of activities are involved (e.g. if some sort of arts and crafts project is planned, it could be better for a three-year-old to have a parent apiece to help). Just ask!

You also know your child better than anyone else, and whether or not she will be comfortable without you and able to attend to her needs, like going to the bathroom, etc.
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I guess you can simply ask the mum when you arrive! And don't forget to ask your child too: some kids are scared of staying somewhere they don't know well without a parent, while others are all proud to be without mummy!

For my son's birthday parties, I welcome parents if they want to stay, but many are happy to have a few 'free' hours to be quiet
That's exactly what I think too. Not every three year old wants to stay at a friend's alone and some three year olds defenitely shouldn't
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Re: Should parents of small kids (3 yo) stay with their kids in other kids birthday p

I would be careful in assuming that parents are expected to stay. Normally a party in Switzerland is without parents. If a child can stay alone at a playgroup it should be able to do the same at a birth day party at someone elses house. Call the mother and ask her. It depends a lot on the party and how many children will be there. Three years is definitely young so it might be that parents are welcome too. This should, however, be mentionned on the invitation. If it doesn't say anything about that I would ask but think that parents are not invited. It might be that the mother asked two or three parents she knows well to help her out but I don't think that everyone is supposed to be staying. This is at least how it was when I was young but birthday parties did not start until kindergarten back then so then it was clear that parents would not be present.
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Re: Should parents of small kids (3 yo) stay with their kids in other kids birthday p

The party went well, my wife leave our daughter at the house with the other kids she enjoyed the party afternoon alone. When she arrived the other kids arrived as she realize the other mons also leave she decided to leave as well. An expression in portuguese "We were with our hearts in our hands" may explain how we felt during this time, but everything went fine
It was more one step in the growth of our little one.
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