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Re: Swiss naming customs

Am I the only one feeling sorry for this Max Baumann? The OP has doubts about his nationality, his names and most definitely about his character. If anybody dating me would express such doubts, I'd run away as far as possible.
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Re: Swiss naming customs

Thank you all for your responses (especially NZSwiss, Mar, and Captain Greybeard, who were especially helpful).

Just to clarify a few points

As I said in a previous post, I didn't post his real name, so don't worry, I had thought that through.

Second, I wasn't trying to say he wasn't Swiss, just that I had been told that it was very unusual for someone Swiss to have more than two names – one given name, and one surname. I now know this isn't true.
But this young man is, as I say, mysterious, and my friend suggested I look into it, so I just wanted to check. I know I'm paranoid, but it ended in such a mess with the last guy I dated, and the trouble caused affected my friends as well as myself. I don't want to make the same mistake twice. As people have mentioned, the issue lies with me, and I know that, but I just like to be sure.

Third, I'm not dating this guy yet, lol!! To ask this question if I was already dating him, I appreciate, would be a bit much. This names thing just raised a red flag, and I just wanted to resolve the issue in case we did start dating in the future. Now I know that it's likely he really is Swiss, I feel comfortable asking him more questions directly, which is exactly what I'll do.

Finally, I'm sorry for any offence this question caused. I wasn't trying to cause trouble – in fact, quite the opposite. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't getting into another difficult situation. My young man knows nothing of this question, and there's been no harm done, so don't worry. I can see you've all formed your own opinions about me, and I don't blame you for the conclusions you've come to, but please do appreciate that I was only trying to do what was best for everyone, bizarre as my methods may seem.

Thank you again, all of you, for your help.
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Maybe you shouldn't give his full name publicly here on a forum. If it was me I would be annoyed to find somebody was posting my full real name.
Same comment - there are many Swiss on EF - it is a small World out there- and especially in CH. Moderators- could you please edit the name out, please. Edit - OK posts crossed.

My Swiss brothers both have 3 names, and I have 2. Anyway, the guy may well be Swiss but have a multicultural background- like so many of us.
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Re: Swiss naming customs

To all future posters before you reply, the op changed the guys name.
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Re: Swiss naming customs

And to the OP. How do you know that the guy gave you his real name?
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And to the OP. How do you know that the guy gave you his real name?
Is that a very appropriate tease or are you serious?
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Is that a very appropriate tease or are you serious?
I am serious. You have doubts as to his nationality. So a man who may potentially lie about his nationality may lie about anything.

I gathered from your post that you saw him just once. Am i right? If you saw him constantly then he probably wouldnt lie but just once....
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Re: Swiss naming customs

I've seen him more than once, but I don't see him that regularly. I'm seeing him again on Friday so I will ask him more about himself then.

What it comes down to is, you're right, if he is lying to me about his nationality than he could be lying to me about anything. I think all I can do is either take the plunge and trust him or wait until I'm a little more ready for a new relationship.
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Re: Swiss naming customs

It's pretty idiotic to decide if someone is who they say they are based on how many first and last names they have.

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My young man knows nothing of this question
It looks to me like you know what you want.

I understand you had a tough time with the last guy you dated. But it's time to let go of that and trust again. If you don't, you'll never have the full relationship that I suspect you want.

Good luck with Max, or Roger, or Beat, or whatever his name is. And even if he turns out not to be a direct line to a Swiss bank account and invigorating mountain air holidays, what does it really matter if he makes you feel good? Maybe he grew up in Switzerland, or has Swiss heritage (so many Americans claim to be "Irish" because their great-great-great-great grandfather thrice removed once bought a linen tea towel, so maybe your young man qualifies that way) -- whatever, he's still a person and if you enjoy his company, go for it.
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