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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

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What exactly happens at Greek parties? Always wanted to know...
If I tell you, I'll have to kill you. We have a strict policy - whatever happens in a party, stays in the party. So, you do not have any other option. You have to join to satisfy your curiosity...


And I'd advise the same for the OP.
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Old 01.11.2012, 23:42
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We cant tell... you have to see for yourself
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

My husband works in financial branch and im a chinese. We had long distance relationship long time ago. And we are not the only one, i know some couples also like this. Here many international couples, really.
But ur right, swiss r slow to make friends with, the only thing is just need time...take ur time and u will find ur right one :-) good luck
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what to talk about then? seriously? roflcopter!!! youre in a f"ckin club so what about music? how she likes it, where shes from, another drink? what clubs she frequents, what shes doing? and hey... no sleazy cheesy but i really like your hairdo and it suits you. but mean it! a plus if it actually has a nice cut. its a harmless compliment but a compliment, yknow what i mean?

guess you dont ;-) where you from n how old are you, mate? just curious...
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

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Can you elaborate more on how exactly you were approached and by whom?

Let's say I enjoy gym, fitness, zumba...I can go there for 2 months and meet no one, since during the training you keep quiet and do what you came there for, after that there are separate locker rooms for guys and girls and once out the door, all the people usually glue immediately their iPhone to call someone and hell they run home or whereever.

What I am intrested about are real stories and experiences, what exactly happened and how, not some theoretic biespiel about what might be...
Elaborate? A few of the occasions, I was on my way to do normal housewife activities, dressed very housewifey, and random guy walks up and asks "I was wondering if you'd like to go have coffee with me"..

Once or twice I was on my way home from a friend's house, one occasion to play D&D (and it wasn't terribly late, maybe 10pm'ish), and another for lunch, and again, random guy walks up, "wondering if you'd like to go have coffee with me"...

Once was (again) going home from D&D and guy blatantly asks "want to come over my apt so we can bang?" lol

Apparently walking up the street, dressed like I've never done anything more interesting than make home-made mashed potatoes is a siren's call to some guys.


In your case though, what you maybe are missing is that although "hookups" may happen as a result of seeing someone you're keen on within the scripts of sit-coms, most people I've ever met go to the gym for a work out. Hooking up with fellow gym members tends to happen more if you've got something more in common than that. (Like something with a chance to converse during the activity)

Perhaps also your issue with meeting folks at the gym is that you're trying to wait til after to talk - try getting there early and talk to people BEFORE they get all hot and sweaty. Although I know from my experiences at the pool that Swiss folks aren't shy about showering after, they still tend to plan "okay, pool until >insert time here< then activity b, followed by activity c, so that we're home by <insert time here>". So, arrive early and catch em before the plans are made, or make plan to get together another day.
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

Girls are the same everywhere in the world. Give 'em eye contact, smile and make them laugh and you're already friends. Then just see how it goes from there.

And I've been working at the ETH the last 4 Thursdays and all the girls (and in fact the guys also) also seemed to be very friendly, open and chatty. If I was 20 years younger and single...........

So, maybe head down to the Viadukt market (it's where I run my shop) on a Thursday night when we have a regular "English" pub night, a massive turn out tonight of really fun and happy people. And judging by the way some were going, some probably got lucky tonight. Next week it could be you OP.
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

Just smile. It can open a way to a nice chat in the bus/train

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Old 02.11.2012, 08:39
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

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Night scene is nothing better, unless the girl(s) are a bit drunk, which is a rare occurence given the price of alchocol.
If you cannot afford to get them drunk try rohypnol.

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Just coldness, lack of any avanturistic spirit, pre-historic believes and social conditioning, etc.
With social conditioning do you mean that girls do not like whining loners? Or that they prefer guys who can afford to invite them to a dinner?

I don't really agree that this is a particularly Swiss thing though...
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

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oups, I just blew myself)
Very appropriate to this thread, perhaps more so out of context. Perhaps the OP could take it as advice?

OP: I've never had an easier time of it, nor had better looking women, than since I came to Switzerland. Zürich is a great city, loads of fun. Here's a free tip: if you're disparaging the girls' conversation topics here on EF, you're probably giving the same message to them in person, verbally or otherwise, and that's not going to get you laid.
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yeah it makes sense

Another problem might be...what to talk about after the "do you have a lighter" and for how long and all...Since it sometimes bores the hell out of both parties. I am more for grab a girl nearby, go to the bar for a drink and then sing and laugh and party with no substantial talk kind of stuff...Well maybe the talk would come later, after party lol...
But seems I'll have to adjust the strategies for this freaking Swiss scene...
Earlier , you were complaining about being bored by the basic level of conversation. What exaclty are you looking for?

What are your interests - not much substance in partying at the best of ties, even though it is fun. If you don't have any interests or hobbies, then develop some so that you can meet people with common interests.

Are you bored, or are you boring?
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Earlier , you were complaining about being bored by the basic level of conversation. What exaclty are you looking for?
He's looking for someone who will:
  1. Be completely attractive
  2. Approach him without any effort on HIS part
  3. Engage him in small talk, without HIM having to be interesting himself
  4. Go home with him for a romp at the end of the night
  5. Leave in the morning before he wakes up

You, perchance, aren't taking your cues from Night at the Roxbury, are you?
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

Op, the third sentence of your post describes Uni students as overworked. This tells us that you are delusional.

Why are posting your embarrassing lack of success on a public Internet forum whilst there are cute Asian students to be guided around Europe's capitals?!?!!?! Madness!
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

Read 'The Game' by Neil Strauss and check out youtube for 'Daygame' and 'PUA'.


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Some gals inclined to "hooking up" tend to like to keep that on the down low, more of a "friends with benefits" thing, with the benefits being relatively secret.
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

Well - that was interesting reading!

The strangest thing about this life is that only when you "give up" and accept your life ..... then you meet someone special.

Seems that the "desperate to meet someone" thing becomes almost a subliminal message that repels contacts?

Get involved in something you really enjoy, work on your grooming/personality/conversation - in case you DO meet someone interesting, but don`t dwell on it - take it easy!
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

This guy is funny I think we'll keep him!

Right dude... What you need is a hunting partner! Relax and play this game properly!
Send me a pm lots of shit going on this weekend!
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Can you elaborate more on how exactly you were approached and by whom?

Let's say I enjoy gym, fitness, zumba...I can go there for 2 months and meet no one, since during the training you keep quiet and do what you came there for, after that there are separate locker rooms for guys and girls and once out the door, all the people usually glue immediately their iPhone to call someone and hell they run home or whereever.

What I am intrested about are real stories and experiences, what exactly happened and how, not some theoretic biespiel about what might be...
Find a hobby that (a) interests you in itself (b) allows social interaction. Many years ago I was a single and lonely expat in Brussels. Always enjoying do-it-yourself hobbies, I joined a local amateur dramatics to work backstage and build sets. Now married with grown-up children I am still building sets but now in Vaud (my carpentry has not improved but I'm certainly not lonely).
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oups, I just blew myself
This is another of those hook-up moves that don't work. So I'm told. At least, according to a friend of mine who could. Apparently.
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Re: How to hook up in Switzerland?

As you seem to just need to hook up and relax a bit about this subject, perhaps one of these threads could be of use.

How safe are the strip clubs in Zurich ?

http://www.englishforum.ch/swiss-new...ex-stalls.html

Why so many erotic stores in Switzerland?
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