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Old 12.11.2012, 16:56
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Re: The rare friendly neighbour

I belive my neighbour is a war criminals of some description.

He comes across as somehow familar but I haven't nailed it yet.

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I am the friendly neighbour in my building.... till one neighbour told me he likes to watch me cycle my bike so he can view me form behind...and would enjoy to have a buffet off my bum..

After I squezed my infalted head out the door i decided to be a little less friendly towards him lol

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Old 12.11.2012, 17:23
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Swiss neighbours are not normal neighbours. They are angels sent by God above. Cherish them.
We have some really strange (in a nice way) Swiss neighbors in house at back of garden.

In Summer my family have bbq`s every weekend, with friends, which end in guitar playing and singing until cut-off time at 10, when they retire to the kitchen to continue making their noise.
This last summer, with house renovations/studying/etc there was not much time for (regular) parties.
This neighbor came over, with a box of chocolates - and asked if everyone was OK? ...... Said he and his wife had missed the noise/singing! He said they`d sit outside, have a few wines, and enjoy the songs!

Ok, the end result was - when family decided to give another party, held later, in Autumn, in their barn, they invited this neighbor over. And he and his wife SO enjoyed it .... he ended up having to carry his wife home over his shoulder, while she continued to sing merrily!
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Old 12.11.2012, 17:29
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Re: The rare friendly neighbour

Ahaha same here, apart that there is no 10pm curfew - we can carry on as long as we want - as the neighbours will just join in. Lucky enough that we are there for each other, and yet all know how to keep sufficient distance too.

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Re: The rare friendly neighbour

I don't care if my neighbours are noisy or quiet, easygoing or standoffish, as long as they mind their own bloody business.

I can't be doing with people ringing the doorbell wanting to chat and all that nonsense. If I want to be sociable, I'll go outside: when I'm at home I want the company of nobody but my wife, or the occasional invited guest.

Much as I love America, this 'friendly neighbour' thing is something that would probably drive me mad. You keep your cookies, darling, and I'll keep my silence. There, now we're all happy.
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Old 12.11.2012, 17:53
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Bah humbug

Your new avatar is lovely, skating on thin ice

I see what you mean - but i can assure you that when you are stuck indoors, either crippled by an accident, or with very young children, a friendly face knocking at your door with a few home-made biscuits and a smile is the best thing ever. Until you've experienced this total isolation, it's hard to understand.
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Old 12.11.2012, 17:58
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Re: The rare friendly neighbour

Being friends with your neighbours is a bit like being friends with your colleagues: great but potentially risky.

Like Odile mentioned, it can be wonderful when you're elderly or with kids, etc. But if things take a wrong turn, you'll then have to go on living next door to them, and that can become awkward at best. Not to mention that some people can't set the limit between friendly and stalky...
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Re: The rare friendly neighbour

I have some really friendly neighbours. All are Swiss. We look after each other's plants, chat by the mailbox and talk about their dogs. The most friendly are retired. The only standoffish people are the 30 something moms. I get along fine with their husbands. Not sure why I attract the stares from that crowd but it does not keep me awake. The kind dinner invites from the 40 and 50 year old neighbours make up for their younger compatriots reserve.
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Old 12.11.2012, 18:31
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Re: The rare friendly neighbour

I think it is another one of those things where everyone has different expectations and boundaries.

Where I grew up in the UK, we had great relationships with our neighbours either side and a couple doors down each side too. It was a relationship that consisted of either being friendly with their kids growing up as a kid myself, to helping the oap's next door, to letting them know we were having parties and/or BBQ and may be noisy or whatever. Also, saying good morning, or hello when seeing one another in the morning or during the day. That was about it. If anyone ever had a problem, though I dont recall any, it would just be handled with dropping it into a convo when seeing each other in the garden.

When I moved here, my old neighbours in Wollishofen were nice enough. I didnt see them much, but would say hi on the stairs and again advise of parties or would accommodate a noise reduction when the 3am windows vibrating on a Wednesday evening was getting a bit much.

Where I live now in Kilchberg I would assume my neighbours would think of themselves as friendly. On one hand I would kind of agree, but they are also very nosey. The best relationship I have is the with the 30 something guy below. We barely see each other, when we do we chat about random stuff and or the odd behaviour of the rest of the building.

The rest of the building are 50+. Nothing wrong with that, and the oldy oldies i.e. 70+ are very nice, sweet and keep themselves to themselves and wave when I go past them on the steps as they are enjoying the lake view on a nice day. But my direct neighbours, again retired but closer to the 50-60 region I think are just either damn rude, completely different culturally, or combining niceties with privacy intrustion. This resulted in some wars to begin with, then some ignoring, and now just a mutual acceptance that neither will be moving so lets just be amicable. In the most part this has worked out well in my favour.

Next door and I just ingore each other, and the above one just tries to be nice and makes suggestive comments like, "I have this tool thats great for digging up the weeds that grow between our tiles, do you want to borrow it?" hmmm, I guess you want me to tend to my weeds then. I can live with that, and if I want to be left alone when on the balcony I tend to unroll the canopy. Although this is not full proof and will still sometimes here neighbour calling out to me to ask if I still want my cleaner to come on Tuesday like I do every single time.

I said to my neighbours when it did all kick off early in the move about our differences that I have never had such problems, and I am laid back guy who really has no interest in how they keep their apartments, how they manage their balconies, or what they get up to. If they need help, moving something, or bringing something up from the cellar then just ask, but otherwise, keep ourselves to ourselves and be polite. To me, that's friendly and normal, but I guess not to everyone.
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Re: The rare friendly neighbour

Considering what's going on in the world today (not all good), it's important to be nice to your neighbors and to complete strangers. A wave, a smile, an "after you" can do wonders. It also makes you feel good, and someday you will be at the receiving end of it.
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Considering what's going on in the world today (not all good), it's important to be nice to your neighbors and to complete strangers. A wave, a smile, an "after you" can do wonders. It also makes you feel good, and someday you will be at the receiving end of it.
Unless you are 20ft away and some one holds the door. . . And your forced into some weird walk/run.. trying to look casual and cool while doing the weird gimpy walk. Saying "Thanks very much" when you eventually get to the door out of breath..

Although a work colleague and I now play this game with other people!

Simple pleasures.
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This post is incorrectly labelled! Friendly neighbours here are not rarae at all if you are finding friendly neighbours hard to find take a look in the mirror and you will find the answer why
You're very sure of yourself and I'm glad your experience has been different. In my time here, I have not encountered any nasty neighbors but certainly none I'd label friendly (especially the amongst the native Swiss): polite, courteous yes for sure but very reserved nonetheless. For me, this lady's gesture was unusually friendly to me because I'm very new in this apartment and nobody in any of the 4 apartments I've lived in before behaved this way: a few of them were even annoyed when I dropped by (at a reasonable time) to say "Hi" when I had just moved in.

The title and content of my post are almost always concerned with my experience and opinion. The rest of your answer is hackneyed.
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