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I had to go on a business trip to Kenya earlier this year and on the flight to Nairobi I was sat next to Swiss lady. She must have been in her forties or fifties or so. Anyhow we started chatting and in the end we came on the topic of why she was travelling to Kenya. She explained that she was going to see her boyfriend, but I guess she meant boyfriend in the loosest possible sense of the term. She then showed me a photograph and it was clear that he was at least 15 years younger. She was then very open and frank and expounded that she sends money over to Kenya in order to “keep” him. This allows him to enjoy a lifestyle that perhaps he otherwise would not be able to afford. The flip side of this arrangement is that a few times a year, she will fly over to Kenya to be “looked after” by him.

Now, I’m not one to judge, and I’ve been around enough that little surprises me anymore. Nevertheless when I heard this I was absolutely gobsmacked. She went further onto say that this is not an unusual occurrence for certain Swiss women. In some cases, they bring the African guys back to Switzerland and perhaps marry them, however by and large many enjoy flexibility the arrangement that she had.

She told me I should look around when leaving the airport and see how many of the single middle aged women on the flight will be leaving with considerably younger Kenyan men. Sure enough, she was right.

I am aware that she could quite clearly be pulling my leg, however the detail that she went into when explaining all this made me doubt it. I guess in a country where prostitution is so readily available and accepted for men that few would disapprove of women doing having their little pleasures. Has anyone else ever heard of such arrangements or similar?
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Re: An African Tale

It's a fairly well known thing and goes on quite a bit.

In some cases they have more "prostitution" style arrangements where the women pay directly for sex.

In others there may be "boyfriend" style arrangements with women sending money to these guys (who will have several such women).

In South America the phenomenon is called "minas" - mines. As these young men consider themselves digging gold and will brag about the gifts they get.

Some may also seek marriage as a means of immigration. Many then divorce when they've been here long enough to be allowed to stay and bring their own wives over. I know such a family.

Sometimes the age difference is way more than the 15 years you mention, with guys in the early 20s going with women in their 50ies.
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Re: An African Tale

There have been some documentaries on Swiss-french television about that, yes...
Googling with sex-tourism-kenya will give you ample information on the subject. Hereby, just 1 example...
http://www.reuters.com/article/2007/...38979720071126
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Cougars hunting lions?
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If anyone knows any rich older swiss ladies who dont want the hassle of going all the way to Africa........pm me


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Re: An African Tale

Is this any different from European blokes sending retainers to "girlfriends" in Thailand?

They send them money every month but only visit one or two times a year for holidays. The girls actually have this set up with several men so can earn quite a lot from it.

If two men turn up at the same time, the girl usually flees to her remote village stating that her grandmother is gravely ill.

If the men think this is anything other than a financial arrangement then they are sadly deluded.

(They're sadly deluded).
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Who would have thought?! I guess there's a higher proportion of Swiss women doing this due to the fact many have a higher disposable income here...

All things considered, I think it's quite a cool. One side providing a service and the other side readily willing to pay.
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Re: An African Tale

I am surprised that you are surprised about that fact.
A very significant part of worldwide sex tourists are female (about a third according to most estimates)
I don't have the time to search for it, but there is some serious research on the topic, despite some claims otherwise it seems to be virtually the same thing regardless of gender. Some just want sex, others like to pretend they have a girl- or boyfriend, in all cases the flow of money goes only in one direction. The more I learn about the topic the more difficult it is to judge the people involved, but I encourage everyone to do a bit of reading, sorry I can't offer any sources at the moment.
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All things considered, I think it's quite a cool. One side providing a service and the other side readily willing to pay.
You know what they say... There is no business like show hoe business!

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Re: An African Tale

I think the thread is almost perfectly titled. I would have used something other than "An" though
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If anyone knows any rich older swiss ladies who dont want the hassle of going all the way to Africa........pm me
Plenty of such women in a popular haunt in Züri Altstadt, Splendid Bar to be precise. (AKA Piano Bar or MILF Central)
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Re: An African Tale

Just for reference purposes, how would you rate her looks?

If one is coyote ugly and 10 is to die for.
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I am surprised that you are surprised about that fact.
Indeed, now reading this and doing a little googling I'm rather surprised at my ignorance. One always considers dirty old men slinking off to Thailand when discussing sex tourism. Women travelling to Africa never even crossed my mind.
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Plenty of such women in a popular haunt in Züri Altstadt, Splendid Bar to be precise. (AKA Piano Bar or MILF Central)
Ah yes, very amsuing that place. Some very interesting subject.

Went there with a friend once not realising what goes on there and got some interesting offers.
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... dirty old men slinking off to Thailand ...
Then should we say" ...dirty old women slinking off to Kenya..."?
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Re: An African Tale

I've seen similar couples in Barbados, middle-aged European women hanging out with local young beach boys. I suppose both get what they want from the relationship; he gets pampered, she gets a good hard Bajan seeing-to. Everyone's a winner.
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Just for reference purposes, how would you rate her looks?

If one is coyote ugly and 10 is to die for.
I'd have given her a 4, but that's being kind, and my standards are terrible anyway
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