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Old 24.07.2013, 15:09
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Wanted to share my experience :)

I usually go to fitness in the morning, before work, but today I went during lunch time.

On my way, I usually meet people who ask for some change. Nothing different from my home country. Some just beg, some make up a story. Some are more believable than the others.

I want to help them, but I don’t, since I have heard that these people use it to smoke weed or buy some more alcohol.

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Today, I saw this guy who was sitting and his dog quietly sitting next to him. So I thought I will do something for them. Following conversation was in german, and I just translated it so I dont embarrass myself

Me: Hey, Speak English
Guy: No
Me: I bring dog food, ok? (Yup, thats how bad my German is)
Guy: Many Thanks
Me: Sure, wait 10 minutes, I come.


I went back, dropped my bag, and went to the coop below my office. Got some stuff and walked back.

The moment he saw me, his eyes just lit up. From what I saw, he didn’t really expect to me to come back I guess.

He quickly said something to the dog, it was inaudible. The dog just got up and seemed like he would start a tornado with his wagging tail

Guy: Many Many Many Thanks. Not many people come back
Me: No problem, have a great day ahead.
Guy: You too. Thanks a lot.
Dog: 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag'
Me: I take a picture, ok ? for my colleagues so they help too
Guy: Yes yes please
Dog: 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag'


I felt good walking back. Wanted to share it with you all. There are really nice people here and who offer a helping hand to others. I just wanted to do same to a person whom I don’t know at all. It felt good, really good.

Wish you all a lovely day.
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Old 24.07.2013, 15:17
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Re: Wanted to share my experience :)

Your post brought a lump to my throat.
I think that is the best way to help someone, give them food for themselves and/or their dog, rather than money.
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Old 24.07.2013, 15:22
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Re: Wanted to share my experience :)

Good person.

I wouldn't of thought weed is the issue for some of the homeless beggars, more heroin. This is normally obvious if you know what a heroin addict looks like. This guy does not look like one though.

I too offer food rather than money, which is often rejected in London. Here I do not see so many homeless people except the same one lady who works the Bahnofstrasse and City of Zurich, she is a blatant heroin addict and receives no money from me.

She is also known to go into some businesses with pockets of change to turn into notes, often handing over a couple of francs short.
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Old 24.07.2013, 16:33
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Re: Wanted to share my experience :)

Thats a very nice thing you did. I liked that you actually bought dog food instead of giving the guy money.

But the guy sure seemed to speak enough english even if he did say no in the beginning
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Old 24.07.2013, 17:23
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Thats a very nice thing you did. I liked that you actually bought dog food instead of giving the guy money.

But the guy sure seemed to speak enough english even if he did say no in the beginning
Well he didnt speak any english.

We had that conversation in german

I took the liberty to translate that into English, since I haven't yet typed German sentences and didn't want to begin in this post

Now that I see, it wasnt clear before, and edited the post.
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Old 24.07.2013, 17:46
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Re: Wanted to share my experience :)

That was really sweet of you.

I actually never assume that someone asking for money is a drug addict or alcoholic. I know some are, but I also know that not all of them are. 5, 10 or 20 CHF means a lot less to me than it does to these people.

Very nice of you to open your heart like that. That doggy should sleep well tonight, and the smile on that man's face is priceless.
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Old 24.07.2013, 17:52
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My only question, with so many fountains offering free water, could you not have got him a coke or something a bit more exciting?

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My only question, with so many fountains offering free water, could you not have got him a coke or something a bit more exciting?

I kid i kid, i joke i joke
Exactly was my thought.

And then I realized, with a 1.5 Liter bottle, he will have to refill that less than refilling a 0.5 Liter

Next time, I shall add a Pepsi Bottle as well . Not a Coca Cola fan

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That's a very nice story and I needed it today! Thank you for having the Heart!
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On my way, I usually meet people who ask for some change. Nothing different from my home country. Some just beg, some make up a story. Some are more believable than the others.
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Very nice of you mate. Must say I am impressed with the reactions of the other posters here on EF...well, people do evolve. Thanks.
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You are a special caring person not many people would do that. Thanks for sharing I like to try and help people too.
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Your post brought a lump to my throat.
I think that is the best way to help someone, give them food for themselves and/or their dog, rather than money.
Have a lovely evening!

Yes, did something thelike twice. Once, between Stauffacher and Sihlporte was approached by a nice girl (unfortunately most likely addicted to some kind of drugs). Invited her for a small snack and something to drink just nearby. A nice encounter. A year later I was approached at Stadelhofen by a chap, again asking for money. Declined but invited him for a bit of wine and something small to eat into one of the restaurants just beside the station. Interesting. The man was in IT but his company broke down. Gave him some contact addresses. Half a year later he was employed by our computer-chap. Heard that the man is back up again

A former teacher of me, when retired, did such things very frequently. No, not everything can turn out a success, but the chances are existing and in fact quite good.
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Hats off to you. Not many people are too generous like you and I hope this would give an inspiration to help others...






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I usually go to fitness in the morning, before work, but today I went during lunch time.

On my way, I usually meet people who ask for some change. Nothing different from my home country. Some just beg, some make up a story. Some are more believable than the others.

I want to help them, but I donít, since I have heard that these people use it to smoke weed or buy some more alcohol.

However,

Today, I saw this guy who was sitting and his dog quietly sitting next to him. So I thought I will do something for them. Following conversation was in german, and I just translated it so I dont embarrass myself

Me: Hey, Speak English
Guy: No
Me: I bring dog food, ok? (Yup, thats how bad my German is)
Guy: Many Thanks
Me: Sure, wait 10 minutes, I come.


I went back, dropped my bag, and went to the coop below my office. Got some stuff and walked back.

The moment he saw me, his eyes just lit up. From what I saw, he didnít really expect to me to come back I guess.

He quickly said something to the dog, it was inaudible. The dog just got up and seemed like he would start a tornado with his wagging tail

Guy: Many Many Many Thanks. Not many people come back
Me: No problem, have a great day ahead.
Guy: You too. Thanks a lot.
Dog: 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag'
Me: I take a picture, ok ? for my colleagues so they help too
Guy: Yes yes please
Dog: 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag' 'wag'


I felt good walking back. Wanted to share it with you all. There are really nice people here and who offer a helping hand to others. I just wanted to do same to a person whom I donít know at all. It felt good, really good.

Wish you all a lovely day.
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OP, the dog and man both look healthy. I wonder what their life story is. If you see them again, it could be interesting to ask.

Outside the Basl SBB, there is frequently a nicely dressed, grey haired woman - early middle aged(?) whose ife story intrigues me. I am more than happy to share a little food or money with her whenever I see her there. Drugs and addictions are not the reason for all the people who need our help.

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OP, the dog and man both look healthy. I wonder what their life story is. If you see them again, it could be interesting to ask.

Outside the Basl SBB, there is frequently a nicely dressed, grey haired woman - early middle aged(?) whose ife story intrigues me. I am more than happy to share a little food or money with her whenever I see her there. Drugs and addictions are not the reason for all the people who need our help.
To be honest, that was initial plan , as I didnt wanna come across a guy who just gives food and walks away, like a arrogant hotshot.

However, the plan was disrupted when he said he doesnt speak english. So kept the discussion to bare minumum. If you see the words I chose, neglecting the act itself, I do sound a bit rude.

Me: Hey, Speak English
Me: I bring dog food, ok?

Me: Sure, wait 10 minutes, I come.

But point taken and agreed
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Very nice of you mate. Must say I am impressed with the reactions of the other posters here on EF...well, people do evolve. Thanks.


Was you expecting everyone to say what a heartless gesture and more fool you or something?
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This post made my day, thanks for sharing it's very nice of you.
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Very nice story! If anyone has seen The Kingfisher, or Solo (Jamie Foxx?), several people on the street were what were once normal functioning people in society, but have had a horrific experience which they can't bounce back from and become a bit mentally unhinged. A job loss, house, spouse, family....

I lived in NYC and it was estimated that almost 80% of our homeless were not drug addicts, but people suffering from a mental distress who could not seek treatment or didn't want to because they would be confined.
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Well done you
I would sing your praises for a charitable act like that

I actually did a similar thing a year or so back when I was exiting the railway station in Edinburgh. My kids were with me and my daughter and son both had a quick discussion that I should help the poor lady with no money ! Of course this particular lady had the haunting look of a Heroin addict.

So we sat down beside her ! The kids were very brave and started asking millions of questions as to 'why she had no money' 'what happened to your house''Where do you sleep', etc, etc My daughter even asked 'where do you go poo poo and pee pee (she was only 4.5 bless her) lol

Meanwhile (keeping a daddy eye on the kids) I went to the Coffee/tea/bus/croissant kinda place just 5 meters away and bought her a breakfast and the largest cuppa tea AND a voucher for £50 so she could get hot drinks/food when she needed it. It was absolutely bloody freezing too !

This lass 'Carol McMillan' was in tears by the time we left and I hope we gave her a warm fuzzy feeling for a while.

Of course the questions from both kids were then turned to me for the next couple of hours and we discussed what drugs were, how they affected people, What should one do with people like that, etc

I am happy that my kids had the experience to learn about something that is very real and prominent in our society ! and I am just that little bit happier that the kids are more streetwise and savvy because of it !

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