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If you plan to talk to Asian girls: That's a really bad starting point. It just shows your rather typical and fairly arrogant mind-set.

Honestly: Blaming that the girls don't like you on your race is a damn easy way out, isn't it? They are all racist, it could not possibly be you... because you are a nice guy and can offer them all they want, like a non-smoker...

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"Southerners/Mediterraneans" in Swiss Military Service in the 70ies where titled as Chinese in a very negative way. Most simply IGNORED it and moved on.

Lots of women in Europe find Chinese men fascinating and interesting, but of course do not like introverts
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Old 28.07.2013, 16:37
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If you are looking to date a European lady then Switzerland is definitely the place ! I've noticed a lot of interracial couples where the man is Asian and the girlfriend/wife is European. --

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Isn't it usually the other way round?
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So, you have only what, ~0.5-1 billion women that may like you ... did you call yourself a loser in the same post?

(Apologies for not adding to a discussion, just feeling a bit jealous here )
WHERE AND HOW can I find the 0.5 ~ 1 billion single women in Switzerland?
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If you plan to talk to Asian girls: That's a really bad starting point. It just shows your rather typical and fairly arrogant mind-set.

Honestly: Blaming that the girls don't like you on your race is a damn easy way out, isn't it? They are all racist, it could not possibly be you... because you are a nice guy and can offer them all they want, like a non-smoker...

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http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-...better-person/
Treverus, I think you are being perhaps a little harsh there. Women in many countries, especially in a more traditionally minded place like Switzerland, are in general naturally more inclined to be attracted to their own ethnicity (and cultural background), which is in this case is predominantly Caucasian. Of course there are exceptions to this, but I would say that it must certainly make it more challenging to find someone here if you are of non-naturalised Asian descent.
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Old 28.07.2013, 18:12
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Recently at the airport I saw an advert for a woman's magazine that stated: "Meeting point for over a million women" And here is me with a pack of five.
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Old 28.07.2013, 20:14
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epic fail which barres you from getting laid: SWITZERLAND
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Treverus, I think you are being perhaps a little harsh there. Women in many countries, especially in a more traditionally minded place like Switzerland, are in general naturally more inclined to be attracted to their own ethnicity (and cultural background), which is in this case is predominantly Caucasian. Of course there are exceptions to this, but I would say that it must certainly make it more challenging to find someone here if you are of non-naturalised Asian descent.
You do tell the truth.
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You do tell the truth.
...but despite what I said, if as you said you also look super young, then this will also make it harder. How old are you anyway?
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this self centered view of the world shouldnt surprise me given that the direct translation of china is 'center of the universe'....did you know that people in taiwan didnt speak chinese until after WWII when the chinese invaded killing thousands of native taiwanese? even today, older folks growing up prior to the 40s speak only taiwanese and japanese.
Good to know. It seems you have very board knowledge of history. I have absolutely no idea about the aboriginal things in taiwan. I am afraid taiwan things are too small to be put into high school history lessons in HK but we do have lessons about evolution history of Europe .
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Old 28.07.2013, 21:28
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How old are you anyway?
Read the first four words of the OP. It could have been three if he'd used an apostrophe.
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Some remarks.

You live in Switzerland, and may want to become a Swiss, and will gradually get some Swiss habits ---- It in French language is la Suisse for the country and also suisse as adjective. When you travel to London, you do not fly to British but to Britain, and the UK nationals are neither the British nor the Britishers but the Brits. When you visit Lyon you do not travel to French but to France, where the French speak French.
Sorry for the mistake and you are right - I keep mixing up French 'Suisse' and English 'Swiss'. French is a disaster for me sometimes.

PS: No worries, I am quite clear about England/English or something else coz their French spelling/pronunciation is very different from English.
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WHERE AND HOW can I find the 0.5 ~ 1 billion single women in Switzerland?
I believe Ynegve was referring to Chinese women, Switzerland has only 7.9 million inhabitants of which 52 % should be women, mind you, of any age.
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Old 28.07.2013, 22:03
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Future challenges for China will be the gender disparity. According to the 2010 census, males account for 51.27% of China's 1.34 billion people, while females made up 48.73% of the total. The sex ratio (the number of males for each female in a population) at birth was 118.06% in 2010, higher than the 116.86% of 2000, but 0.53 points lower than the ratio of 118.59% in 2005.[4] In most western countries the sex ratio at birth is around 105 boys to 100 girls (51.22%). At the moment there are about 9 million more boys than girls in China
From http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_China

I remember reading about this whilst I was there, and witnessing many hen-pecked men being shouted at by their bossy girlfriends on the street, and when I realised that the huge surplus of hairdressers around where I lived were actually all brothels.
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Lots of women in Europe find Chinese men fascinating and interesting...
Ah yiess!

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...but of course do not like introverts
Oh damn.
(Actually, some do!)


Kidding aside, OP ignore all the pressures and live your life you want. I'm Chinese and have an European wife. My brother too has a European girlfriend. Both of us grew up in Canada and are completely westernized. If we had listened to our parents, my brother and I would have become one of the golden 4: a) a doctor b) an accountant c) an engineer or d) a lawyer. We both would have hated our jobs and resented our parents. But we ended up studying what we loved and found someone we truly care about on our own terms.

Someone will find you fascinating. Just keep trying.

Also, I still get carded when I buy beer... mothafu....
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Considering that someone once said they thought my name came from me being a drug user, I think I'll take that as a compliment!
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Some remarks.

You live in Switzerland, and may want to become a Swiss, and will gradually get some Swiss habits ---- It in French language is la Suisse for the country and also suisse as adjective. When you travel to London, you do not fly to British but to Britain, and the UK nationals are neither the British nor the Britishers but the Brits.
Actually "Brits" is only colloquial, the correct name for some UK nationals is British (I'm guessing that people from Northern Island, which is not part of Britain, only the UK, can't officially call themselves British, and am sure quite a few of them really rather wouldn't).
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Old 29.07.2013, 10:03
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...Chicks can sniff out a desperate guy a mile off.
^^^THIS. If you think you're a loser, you are probably putting off a vibe that indicates as such. So take a step back for a moment. If you are giving such a vibe, why would a woman think you're a winner? You've got to man up and see the positive points about yourself, and stop comparing your life to that of your FB friends.
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Old 29.07.2013, 11:03
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Treverus, I think you are being perhaps a little harsh there. Women in many countries, especially in a more traditionally minded place like Switzerland, are in general naturally more inclined to be attracted to their own ethnicity (and cultural background), which is in this case is predominantly Caucasian. Of course there are exceptions to this, but I would say that it must certainly make it more challenging to find someone here if you are of non-naturalised Asian descent.
Women "generally" don't like gingers, short guys, too tall guys, fat guys, skinny guys, bald guys, long haired guys... whatever. For some reason does humanity still manage to survive.

What I am saying is:
- If you already have the mind set that you have no chance because everyone discriminates against you... do you just give yourself a hard time.
- "I am a nice guy and I do not smoke/drink/gamble" does not get you laid. Ever.
- I know a thing or two about Chinese culture being married to a Chinese and living in Singapore. If the OP wants an Asian girl is the chance high that the ones he meet in Switzerland are from all over the continent. His opinion is rather typical for Chinese, it is apparently the way they are educated. Makes them very unpopular abroad: If the OP tells a Singaporean ethnic Chinese that she is culturally the same as him will he probably face a glass flying in his face. Telling a Japanese or Korean that they are basically just some bastard form of the glorious Chinese culture because they used the same calendar for a spring celebration... well, if the girl knows her martial arts are you entering a world of pain.

P.S> Try "Konichiwa, bitches!"
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Women "generally" don't like gingers, short guys, too tall guys, fat guys, skinny guys, bald guys, long haired guys... whatever. For some reason does humanity still manage to survive.
...which all have nothing to do with cultural or ethnical differences in the context I was talking about. Great reply, Treverus.

The point was not that it wasn't possible due to ethnicity and culture, of course it's possible, but it does make it trickier.
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You've got to man up and see the positive points about yourself, and stop comparing your life to that of your FB friends.
You mean I shouldn't care about the 400+ "friends", majority of whom I've only met once in my life and will probably never see again?
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