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You mean I shouldn't care about the 400+ "friends", majority of whom I've only met once in my life and will probably never see again?
I know you're joking at least a little bit but...really? Except for one relative, I know every single one of my 200+ FB friends. As in, I know them in person, not just online. Some are more acquaintances/classmates but I do know them well enough to name spouses, kids, parents and jobs for each. Still, I don't compare my life to theirs. There is no comparison. My life is better.
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Old 29.07.2013, 15:48
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I am not attractive to european women at all (only asian women like me).
Nonsense, my wife's ex-husband is Vietnamese, she met him while shopping at Migros (she's Swiss-Italian), and some friends of mine have been together nearly 30 years (he, Japanese, she Ticinese, met somewhere in Zurich).

Also, one of my daughters was seeing a Sri-Lankan for several years, and my wife's half-Vietnamese son has rarely dated a non-European (he's 29).

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Old 29.07.2013, 15:54
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"I am a nice guy and I do not smoke/drink/gamble" does not get you laid. Ever.
Indeed, judging by I few cases I know, "I'm NOT a nice guy, I smoke, drink and gamble" certainly works better.

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Old 29.07.2013, 15:59
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Isn't it usually the other way round?
Usually, perhaps, but certainly not always.

The problem is when the Asian guy is looking for a European woman with an Asian mindset.

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Old 29.07.2013, 16:23
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Re: cultural difference? lack of luck? please advise where you met your lover‏

Hey OP

So your first problem is writing threads on forums for expats at 9:30pm on a Friday night. Lets cut that crap out straight away, no love to be found that way matey.

As things move quickly in this fast paced world and you are onto the 4th page of advice, I thought I would ask where this advice got you this past weekend.

So, did you get laid or not?
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Old 29.07.2013, 21:37
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Actually "Brits" is only colloquial, the correct name for some UK nationals is British (I'm guessing that people from Northern Island, which is not part of Britain, only the UK, can't officially call themselves British, and am sure quite a few of them really rather wouldn't).
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B) "Brits" of course is colloquial, but colloquialisms over times become the actual terms
C) "official" anyway is the term of the "United Republic ..." sorry I mean "United Kingdom of Grrrr..." but the citizens are hardly UKeyers
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C) "official" anyway is the term of the "United Republic ..." sorry I mean "United Kingdom of Grrrr..." but the citizens are hardly UKeyers
Can we call you Ukes? (Pronounced like German Jux).
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Nonsense, my wife's ex-husband is Vietnamese, she met him while shopping at Migros (she's Swiss-Italian), and some friends of mine have been together nearly 30 years (he, Japanese, she Ticinese, met somewhere in Zurich).

Also, one of my daughters was seeing a Sri-Lankan for several years, and my wife's half-Vietnamese son has rarely dated a non-European (he's 29).

Tom

the half-Vietnamese son of your wife should not feel forced to date "Europeans", I only hope that he does not suffer from any kind of inferiority complex.
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Old 29.07.2013, 22:04
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the half-Vietnamese son of your wife should not feel forced to date "Europeans", I only hope that he does not suffer from any kind of inferiority complex.
Not at all, he just prefers tall blonds!

(probably because his sister is 175, and not blond, but he's always looked up to her )

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Old 29.07.2013, 23:03
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Not at all, he just prefers tall blonds!
Isn't he special.
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Old 29.07.2013, 23:12
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Isn't he special.
Not really, no. Just open-minded
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Can we call you Ukes? (Pronounced like German Jux).
UK subjects, surely?
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UK subjects, surely?
Look up Jux in a German dictionary, you'll see I meant it that way.
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Indeed, judging by I few cases I know, "I'm NOT a nice guy, I smoke, drink and gamble" certainly works better.

Tom
I absolutely agree with you and that's why I said 'cultural difference'. In Asia, women don't like smoking men. But in Switzerland, at least French-speaking part, smoking is extremely popular and make people have better 'market'.
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Hey OP

So your first problem is writing threads on forums for expats at 9:30pm on a Friday night. Lets cut that crap out straight away, no love to be found that way matey.

As things move quickly in this fast paced world and you are onto the 4th page of advice, I thought I would ask where this advice got you this past weekend.

So, did you get laid or not?
thanks for all those people participated in this topic and gave many helpful advice. In the past weekend I went out for fete-de-geneve and Paleo festival with friends, and unfortunately they are all guys (but we did enjoy the summer and music). Mon-Fri works 9-10 hours and 1 hour sports after, no time and no luck on weekdays.
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Actually "Brits" is only colloquial, the correct name for some UK nationals is British (I'm guessing that people from Northern Island, which is not part of Britain, only the UK, can't officially call themselves British, and am sure quite a few of them really rather wouldn't).
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/British_Isles

As Ireland is part of the British Isles even somebody from the Republic of Ireland could technically be discribed as British. However, as Britain is short for Great Britain (name of the main island of the British Isles), someone from Nothern Ireland (or Man, Scilly, etc.) is indeed not an inhabitant of Britain.
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en.wikipedia.org/wiki/British_Isles

As Ireland is part of the British Isles even somebody from the Republic of Ireland could technically be discribed as British. However, as Britain is short for Great Britain (name of the main island of the British Isles), someone from Nothern Ireland (or Man, Scilly, etc.) is indeed not an inhabitant of Britain.

Uum, No.

Crossing the border by car from Republic of Ireland to Northern Ireland a few years ago, I asked my OH to stop the car. The signs had changed to 30. In villages in Eire, Republic of Ireland the signs are 50, i.e. km, in Northern Ireland they are in miles hence 30. That is why I asked OH to stop to the car, just to know we were i.e.in N. Ireland along with things like pedestrian sidewalks on both sides of the road and other familiar sights as in UK.
When I wish to post via Royal Mail from UK to Eire, the country I have to list so as avoid any delay is Republic of Ireland. Postal charges are the same as for EU. For Northern Ireland, I only need to list a postcode and charges the same as if I posted from London address to another London address or Scotland etc
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Eire, Republic of Ireland does not have Queen Elizabeth II has head of whatever.

During WWII Eire, Republic of Ireland was Neutral.

How would people in Liechtenstein feel is they were included as part of Switzerland, i.e. Swiss.

The term 'Brits' is a relatively recent whatever term, i.e. never heard of it 40 years ago.

Separately I am so happy to use the term Ireland, Irish, whether people are from Irish Republic or Northern Ireland, let them be run by separate governments & let us try to keep religion out of it, as far as is possible.
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Uum, No.

Crossing the border by car from Republic of Ireland to Northern Ireland a few years ago, I asked my OH to stop the car. The signs had changed to 30. In villages in Eire, Republic of Ireland the signs are 50, i.e. km, in Northern Ireland they are in miles hence 30. That is why I asked OH to stop to the car, just to know we were i.e.in N. Ireland along with things like pedestrian sidewalks on both sides of the road and other familiar sights as in UK.
When I wish to post via Royal Mail from UK to Eire, the country I have to list so as avoid any delay is Republic of Ireland. Postal charges are the same as for EU. For Northern Ireland, I only need to list a postcode and charges the same as if I posted from London address to another London address or Scotland etc
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Eire, Republic of Ireland does not have Queen Elizabeth II has head of whatever.

During WWII Eire, Republic of Ireland was Neutral.

How would people in Liechtenstein feel is they were included as part of Switzerland, i.e. Swiss.

The term 'Brits' is a relatively recent whatever term, i.e. never heard of it 40 years ago.

Separately I am so happy to use the term Ireland, Irish, whether people are from Irish Republic or Northern Ireland, let them be run by separate governments & let us try to keep religion out of it, as far as is possible.

Two remarks
A) Religion / Denomination is part of the problem on the Irish island
B) Liechtenstein is in full customs- currency- postal- roadpolice- union with Switzerland, and so in practical aspects IS included in Switzerland
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Re: cultural difference? lack of luck? please advise where you met your lover‏

Most people here are quite generous and understanding.. My comment might be a bit harsh for you..

IMHO, it doesn't seem like your issue is about cultural difference or European/Swiss women not finding you attractive. It appears that you haven't dated any Caucasian including Americans or Canadians...and that makes me wonder why.. If you are a student (especially), there should be many girls from all over the world, especially Switzerland seem to have many foreigners from everywhere. So.., it's not just European/Swiss woman not being attracted to you. I've seen many American women who like dating Asian men because they think Asian men are very sweet.

It sounds like (to me) that you are quite obsessive about having an experience to date a non-Asian woman. Any Caucasian, but just not Asian. And to me, you are not looking for someone who you would really like, but more .. the fantasy of dating European/Swiss woman.

Most women have good instinct. They can feel what you are looking for.. That might be the problem.
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thanks for all those people participated in this topic and gave many helpful advice. In the past weekend I went out for fete-de-geneve and Paleo festival with friends, and unfortunately they are all guys (but we did enjoy the summer and music). Mon-Fri works 9-10 hours and 1 hour sports after, no time and no luck on weekdays.
Two things:
1. MAKE TIME -
The only women that will come to you when you're ready are the ones you pay for.
Work and Sport are important, but don't let it control your life. The fete, was a good idea to get out amongst it, and it doesn't matter that you were there with 'the boys'..... at least you were out.

2. USE THE FORCE LUKE -
Re: "The boys". Discuss "wingman" tactics such as the "Kamakaze" or "Pack buster" move to break up a tight pack of chicks....... i.e. send one of your mates into the group of girls (they won't appreciate it), but in the confusion of it all, the rest of you can move in from the outside and single one out from the pack. Get to work with your smooth moves and let your crazy dance moves do the rest.
not the "I want to marry and have kids" move I saw you pull in another thread - that shit will never work mate.
If possible, just befriend some chicks to hang out with you. You will actually have more chance of meeting girls if you are a mixed group rather than just guys.


Most of all, don't give up, and don't let it get to you.

I'm glad to see that you did enjoy yourself anyway - good on ya mate, well done..... and keep going.
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