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Old 31.07.2013, 15:04
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Two things:
1. MAKE TIME -
The only women that will come to you when you're ready are the ones you pay for.
Work and Sport are important, but don't let it control your life. The fete, was a good idea to get out amongst it, and it doesn't matter that you were there with 'the boys'..... at least you were out.

2. USE THE FORCE LUKE -
Re: "The boys". Discuss "wingman" tactics such as the "Kamakaze" or "Pack buster" move to break up a tight pack of chicks....... single one from the pack and get to work with your smooth moves.
not the "I want to marry and have kids" move I saw you pull in another thread - that shit will never work mate.
If possible, just befriend some chicks to hang out with you. You will actually have more chance of meeting girls if you are a mixed group rather than just guys.


Most of all, don't give up, and don't let it get to you.

I'm glad to see that you did enjoy yourself anyway - good on ya mate, well done..... and keep going.
You forgot one thing:

Attend some EF events, I have not been but have heard there's a lot of desperate, single, European women.
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Sorry to make you confused. I am sure you are not Asian. I don't know how to explain better, but please see the below:

Chinese culture/language/tradition are quite dominant in Asia for some historical reasons, at least South East Asia. For example, The Chinese Lunar Calendar, in particular, Chinese New Year, is celebrated by Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese every year on the same day. Just like Commonwealth countries celebrating the same Christmas.

Difference of culture among Asia is not significant to me. (It's just like you are asking Indian people to really learn Bangladesh culture or New Zealander learn from Australian, necessary?great value?)

For me, I will be better off to see something completely different, either European or South/North American. That's why I decided to Switzerland.
I do not see anything common between India and Chinese culture, language, looks, food etc., it seems you basically want white woman. Because you do not mention also Africans who are also not same as Chinese in anyway or are they?
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FYI, I am from HONG KONG. I tried OKCupid and Skout but not worked for me
So it seems like China is very different than Hongkong but rest of Asia is very similar...
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I strongly agree that 1st Jan is kind of celebrating by young Asian for the joy of 'beginning of the year'. However, it does not have deeper/further meaning.

Chinese New Year is NOT ONLY 'a new year', but most importantly it's a family re-union and have a special dinner like Christmas to you if applicable. According to my Japanese friend, yes, they keep this tradition and she goes back to Japan for family re-union every Chinese New Year. She is in her 40's .

I am from HK. As a commonwealth member, we do have Christmas holiday. I have to apologise that I know little about south Asian countries whether they have Christmas or not. Please let me know after you confirm if they do.
So why not learn south asian culture ;-). In south asia its still diverse depending on religion (muslim, hindu, buddhist or christians). But majority do not celebrate chinese new year neither christmas. They celebrate different new holidays depending on their religion and calendars.
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I absolutely agree with you and that's why I said 'cultural difference'. In Asia, women don't like smoking men. But in Switzerland, at least French-speaking part, smoking is extremely popular and make people have better 'market'.
I am asian and I do not mind smoking man. I think for me other things are much more important than colour and smoking habits.
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Old 31.07.2013, 23:54
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Re: cultural difference? lack of luck? please advise where you met your lover‏

i dont believe the cultural diffence thing, it s all physical at the end. i am Asian and most of my caucasian girlfriends do not find Asian guys physically attractive because most of them are shorter, thinner and less hairy than my caucasian girlfriends, which make them unattrative at first sight.
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Old 01.08.2013, 01:32
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shorter, thinner and less hairy than my caucasian girlfriends
Hairy girlfriends! Lovely.
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Old 01.08.2013, 05:40
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So, he went to Paleo and Fetes de Genève last weekend, but with male friends and could not strike up a conversation with a female? Were his mates surrounding him so much.

I went to the Fetes de Genéve the other evening on my own, sat down and immediately was having a good chat with males and females in both French and English. Who i had never met before, had a good laugh.
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Re: cultural difference? lack of luck? please advise where you met your lover‏

To OP

Living a life beholden to the expectations of others will never be "happy".

Being educated and having a good job does not make you a loser.

Of all those people on FB who are "successful" and "happy" I can nearly guarantee you that the reality is different in most cases.

You are looking at what you don't have not what you do. You are single, young professional with no commitments, so you can do whatever you want, save lots of money for the future, spend lots of time building your career.

Good quote for you by George Bernard shaw
" youth is wasted on the young "
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Old 01.08.2013, 08:01
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i dont believe the cultural diffence thing, it s all physical at the end. i am Asian and most of my caucasian girlfriends do not find Asian guys physically attractive because most of them are shorter, thinner and less hairy than my caucasian girlfriends, which make them unattrative at first sight.

That many of your European girlfriends are taller than the average "north-of-the-alps-European" but people in the Mediterranean and Caucasions are NOT taller than East Asians

But right you are in a way. In so far as men are expected to be taller than women. This was the reason why since 1950, Mediterraneans tended to keep to themselves. In Russia, Caucasians tend also to keep to themselves as North-/NorthEast-Europeans also then to be larger than them.
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Old 01.08.2013, 08:24
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Re: cultural difference? lack of luck? please advise where you met your lover‏

What has height to do with anything?

Half the women I've had relationships with have been taller then me.

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That many of your European girlfriends are taller than the average "north-of-the-alps-European" but people in the Mediterranean and Caucasions are NOT taller than East Asians.
Wolli, Americans and therefore by now most Asians use the term "Caucasian" for "white person".

(No, they have no idea where the Caucasus is or even what it is... Yes, I do know and do not need a Wikipedia link to it... no, it does not make sense, I know. I am just giving you a heads-up...)
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Re: cultural difference? lack of luck? please advise where you met your lover‏

Also, I know plenty of tall Italians, women as well (though mainly from northern/central Italy).

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Wolli, Americans and therefore by now most Asians use the term "Caucasian" for "white person".

(No, they have no idea where the Caucasus is or even what it is... Yes, I do know and do not need a Wikipedia link to it... no, it does not make sense, I know. I am just giving you a heads-up...)
Sure, but speak with Russians who quite openly detest "Caucasians". And even IF Americans and Asians without a clue use a wrong term does not make if correct. Nonsense stays to be nonsense even if repeated
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Also, I know plenty of tall Italians, women as well (though mainly from northern/central Italy).

Tom
Lombards were one of the Germanic tribes who invaded the Roman Empire after about 300 AD . The same applies to the Gotes (Southern Italy and Tunisia and Eastern Algeria) . But those Germanics mixed with locals in the Med. Which means that "Italians" in general tend to be smaller than Germans and Scandinavians
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What has height to do with anything?

Half the women I've had relationships with have been taller then me.

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well, as important as age, weight, and many more. some men prefer fat women however that does not represent the majorities.
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You forgot one thing:

Attend some EF events, I have not been but have heard there's a lot of desperate, single, European people.
Fixed that for you.
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well, as important as age, weight, and many more. some men prefer fat women however that does not represent the majorities.
That would be fat men who convince themselves to "prefer" fat women.

(wonder how many groans ill get for this one)
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That would be fat men who convince themselves to "prefer" fat women.
Might be but the question is whether this number is that much smaller than the number of men who convince themselves to "prefer" skinny women.
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WHERE AND HOW can I find the 0.5 ~ 1 billion single women in Switzerland?
Just stop looking I know this will sound like a cliché but it's actually true. Enjoy your life, do what you love and everything will fall into place This way you have a better chance of finding a person who is actually right for you and shares your interests
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