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Old 05.08.2013, 17:51
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OP, what is the ethnic composition of social group?

I understand your background ever so much.
I've seen and been in them all so here are a few options to select from:
1. Mostly other HKers, mostly speaking Cantonese
2. Mostly other Chinese, mostly speaking English/French/whatever domestic language (2nd+ generation)
3. Mostly "locals" (ethnically European and what I consider 3rd+ generation of immigrants, so a nice mix)
4. Mostly other foreigners (recent immigrants)

1 & 2 will exclusively bar you from market you're after. Why? Because the cultural differences are too big. You probably know the term FOB. This is the stamp on these two groups.
4 is also difficult because of the different cultures/langauges/social barriers unless you're still a student
3 is best if you want to find another "local"

Also, the following are also important:
- Did you study what your parents wanted you to study?
- Did your parents for all your schooling expecting you to find a good job so they can brag about it to their friends/family back in the "motherland"?
- Did they expect you to have a wife and child by the time you're 30?
- Do you consider yourself a banana? ("yellow" on the outside, "white" on the inside?)

In uni, I wrote articles about Sino/Canadian culture differences & conflicts. It's interesting to revisit these topics.

Hi, my social group mainly are 2&4.

1: The only HKer I know finished his exchange last year.
2: i do know some 2nd+ generation Chinese from Spain and America.of course, from China as well.
3: Swiss people are too cold to approach except one of my classmate.
4: other foreigners mostly are my schoolmates.

To answer your question:
- Did you study what your parents wanted you to study?
- Not at all. I choose everything by myself. They don't care what I study but they do care whether I go for university or not. University degree is mandatory for Asian parents.

PS: Sorry again, what I said Asian here actually I just mean Japanese/Korean/Chinese (including those immigrants in US, UK, SG, etc.), coz they have significant culture for pushing kids to Uni coz they believe TOP uni can bring future success.


- Did your parents for all your schooling expecting you to find a good job so they can brag about it to their friends/family back in the "motherland"?
- Asian parents think: good kindergarden -> good school -> good university -> good job -> good life. Strong casual effects as they believe. So after I finished my master, they have no doubt that I will have a good job (not just hope/expect).

- Did they expect you to have a wife and child by the time you're 30?
- Yes. They believe a good wife can provide a stable family which contributes to the future success of the man. I agree with them that I should engage in a relationship before 28 and get marry 30-33.

BTW, Why this timing? At the age of 30-33, you almost have a predictable future (i.e. you know clearly your path of future career; you have a mature enough mind and clearly know the responsibility to be a husband and a father; you will enjoy more family fun than night club)

- Do you consider yourself a banana? ("yellow" on the outside, "white" on the inside?)
- I would say I am a mango milkshake, yellow and white, half/half.


If I am wrong, please tell me. Thanks.
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No, you are NOT wrong ! I above told you to launch EF events in Geneva with some clear ideas

Here some again

Arrange an EF-meeting in the Bains-des-Pâquis .
Arrange a meeting in/at that charming bistro at the AeroClub just accross from the airport buildings of Cointrin.
Arrange a meeting at Thonon or Evians, possibly combined with a ship trip from either Geneva or Lausanne.
Arrange a meeting at the pub on the western end of the Place Cornavin or the large Pub on Rue de Neuchâtel or Rue de Berne right east of the Rue des Alpes
Arrange an evening in the
http://www.restaurant.ch/GE/Geneve/R...oub/44919/map/
MEKTOUB just around the corner from Cornavin
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it may be up to YOU to start something !

Hi, let me give a try. Anyone up for a drink this Thursday?
Time: 9pm
Location: Molard (near the follower clock)
Event: Free live music concert (Fete-de-Geneve will finish by this Sunday)
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Old 06.08.2013, 08:35
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Hi, let me give a try. Anyone up for a drink this Thursday?
Time: 9pm
Location: Molard (near the follower clock)
Event: Free live music concert (Fete-de-Geneve will finish by this Sunday)
Some suggestions:
- put it in the event section as an own event as many people will NOT read the seventh page of this thread by chance.
- give your event at least a week of head start. It simply takes time to find some people.
- I did some events and while some had a massive turn up did others have none at all... so my learning was to choose a bar as a meeting point. In that way do you not need to stand around at some clock for an hour. Certain expats tend to turn up not exactly as punctual as the locals...

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Re: cultural difference? lack of luck? please advise where you met your lover‏

I would be glad to, but I am located in Zürich right now. And already have ( not without difficulties) schaduled myself several fishing trips with some new people for the next 5 days to come.
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Old 06.08.2013, 11:20
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@Mattalex: Good on you for at least trying!

A quick tip as there's still time for this event. More people would see it if you posted it in the Social Events calendar section of the forum.

To set up a new event, simply go to the third (final) tab on the far right side of the Social Events strapline (shown immediately above the date), click on the dropdown menu and then go create.

Good luck either way and at least now you know what to do for other times as well.

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I'm afraid I cannot help you if no pictures are displayed as an example of your looks
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I would suggest you stop looking and let it come naturally. I was in my upper 25s when I met my partner (through work). Most of my friends were settled and kids on the way at that time. Stop looking, it will come when you least expect it. In the meantime, enjoy your life!!!
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